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Hey! I recently just started dating my ENFJ boyfriend, and we get along so nicely! I was just wondering what type you all have found to be most compatible with you. :) I think our Ne/Ni and Fe/Fi really balance each other out nicely.
 

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I like all people if they're good people, though I guess you could say I'd prefer someone who is introverted rather than extroverted, and I'd prefer someone who is judging rather than prospecting. Other than that, I don't care about the N vs S or T vs F.
 

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First off, congrats Ostrich! If you are like me it takes a while to even get myself into a position to even commit to someone.

For me personally, (I may come off as pretentious and naive) I don't really pay much to personality differences or compatibility. Compatibility in a nutshell for me is "if she is good to me, then she is good for me." What I mean by that is that as long as someone (from any personality type) is putting forth effort to treat me well, then that is someone I chose to want in my life.

I don't care if her preference of showing love to me is not my first choice, because chances are mine is not hers either. As long as effort is being put forth and both my girl and I chose to compromise to be good to the other, then we are compatible in my mind.
 

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Umm. I would disagree with some of the things said above. While any mix of personality types can make it work , some matches are seamless / organic while others require so much work that one would question their worth.
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Umm. I would disagree with some of the things said above. While any mix of personality types can make it work , some matches are seamless / organic while others require so much work that one would question their worth.
-Ob.
I wouldn't necessarily disagree with anything you just said, with the exception that I think the relationship's worth comes almost exclusively from how much effort both are willing to put into the relationship.

I think there is something remarkable about the couples I know that started off marriages not completely understanding each others qwerks and being pissed off by them to putting in a lot of effort and growing to love those differences, consequently loving each other.

I will concede that if I am putting in more work than the other person, then the relationship is not worth it. But again, for me it really comes down to "if that person is good to you, then they are good for you."
 

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ISTP: Because I want all ENFPs are to belong to me! *deploy large butterfly net*
 

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To answer your question, based on what I have observed the best matchup for ENFPs are INTJ for female ENFPs, and INFJ for male ENFPs.
 

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I loooooooove the Te doms. Find one that shares your values, and learn what a wonder the quick, reality forming wonder that is Te dominance.
 

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ISTP: Because I want all ENFPs are to belong to me! *deploy large butterfly net*
I can't speak for the other types, but the INTPs will not allow the ENFPs to be unwillingly captured by anyone. They were meant to fly free!
 
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