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I've really been struggling to find the right people for me the last many years. The older and more distinct I become, the less there seem to be people that I'm still interested in. I've recently been exhausting OKCupid and that has yet to yield anything but disappointment. Personally, I'm most interested in finding INFx and INTx types but am looking for really any recommendations for interpersonal networking over the net. I'm even up for creepily stalking hotspots that aren't even for this purpose, but that are fertile enough to be used for such. I am pretty serious about finding the right people, and always have been. It is not uncommon for me to spend the better part of many days in a row in this pursuit. It's just that I've got really high standards for my criteria and that often leaves me nonplussed and-so discouraged.
Things I've tried already:
My own custom search engine for scouring myspace, facebook and deviantart profiles based on keywords (Went through a massive amount of keywords for how people identify themselves, and their interests, including taste in art media etc. Anything I could think of that may reflect the sort of person I am looking for)
Blogs
Myspace, Facebook and Deviantart. I used to be on top of literally every single profile for myspace that was identified with a religious orientation of "atheist" "agnostic" or "other". I also went through many many groups based on interests of mine or that elsewise are likely to house individuals that value and perpetuate intelligence and caring.
Chats galore. Specialty chats revolving around interests or intelligence. Even a handful of MBTI chats. Many of these were Cam & Mic chats.
Forums, again over relevant interests or valuations. MBTI forums included, where I even know exactly what types I'm interested in.
In all of these endeavors, I'm very (unusually so for an INFJ) direct and inquisitive with people from the get go. I open dialogue, learn about their person etc. This overall method of trying to find people used to work out for me, but it has become harder and harder over time. Now I can't turn up any solid results, even at the friend level.
I'm sure some are thinking that trying is somehow the problem, but, that is of course ridiculous. And I'm sure that many want to tell me to search locally, but, I do, and it's quite futile as the pool of people is severely miniscule in comparison to working globally through the internet, where I am still struggling to find anyone, despite genuinely obsessive hours and efforts, led by a mind quite seasoned in the exercise. Or maybe you think that I need to lower my standards.
But, for me, the problem is that I am truly rare, and so are the people I am looking for. And the best approach is to search harder, checking every nook and cranny completely! So, I'm wondering, are there some good suggestions?
Things I've tried already:
My own custom search engine for scouring myspace, facebook and deviantart profiles based on keywords (Went through a massive amount of keywords for how people identify themselves, and their interests, including taste in art media etc. Anything I could think of that may reflect the sort of person I am looking for)
Blogs
Myspace, Facebook and Deviantart. I used to be on top of literally every single profile for myspace that was identified with a religious orientation of "atheist" "agnostic" or "other". I also went through many many groups based on interests of mine or that elsewise are likely to house individuals that value and perpetuate intelligence and caring.
Chats galore. Specialty chats revolving around interests or intelligence. Even a handful of MBTI chats. Many of these were Cam & Mic chats.
Forums, again over relevant interests or valuations. MBTI forums included, where I even know exactly what types I'm interested in.
In all of these endeavors, I'm very (unusually so for an INFJ) direct and inquisitive with people from the get go. I open dialogue, learn about their person etc. This overall method of trying to find people used to work out for me, but it has become harder and harder over time. Now I can't turn up any solid results, even at the friend level.
I'm sure some are thinking that trying is somehow the problem, but, that is of course ridiculous. And I'm sure that many want to tell me to search locally, but, I do, and it's quite futile as the pool of people is severely miniscule in comparison to working globally through the internet, where I am still struggling to find anyone, despite genuinely obsessive hours and efforts, led by a mind quite seasoned in the exercise. Or maybe you think that I need to lower my standards.
But, for me, the problem is that I am truly rare, and so are the people I am looking for. And the best approach is to search harder, checking every nook and cranny completely! So, I'm wondering, are there some good suggestions?