He isn't aware of the fact that hes a 6. Thats ok, many 6s won't see it in themselves. Once you see it in him though its undeniable - the paranoia and what-if/worst-case-scenario thinking. In the typology community, its common for people to blame intuition when really its often 6 paranoid thinking, or the feeling functions, more commonly Fi. A sudden idea hitting you that seems to not have come from a careful linear thought process isn't always Ne or Ni, but a -feeling- brought on my the feeling functions filtered through a thinking function to seem like a real thing, and not just a bias in perception.

For a 6 who believes themselves to be 'very intuitive' as they say in these typology communities, they have a hard time separating a worst-case-scenario fantasy, from what they believe to be an intuition.

So, many 6s will experience this, and I do myself. At times its tricky to determine which it is. I look back and see all the times I was wrong, thinking that my intuition was telling me something when really it was worst-case-scenario thinking and Fi. I'm more careful and critical with such thoughts now. I ask myself 'can I really know this? Do I have the information I need in order to be certain of this fearful idea?' If not, then I put it away.
*(Learning to meditate helped a lot with the ability to just put those thoughts away. I used to have panic attacks until I learned this, and now I don't have them anymore. I feel the bodily-anxiety (adrenaline), and feel it begin to affect my mind, but now I disregard the sudden 'oh shit' thoughts that follow it.) My body will feel a bit shaky/buzzy, but my mind doesn't run away anymore. There does exist a mechanism you can find through meditating to do this. I'm trying to finish part of my ebook where I explain how to do this particular thing but its very difficult to explain.)

Its hard to help a 6 when they don't accept their 6ness. I can think of a case other than this with the ex, where it would do a person a lot of good to understand what these drives are, and what patterns and behaviours they cause in us. You can't tell either of them that its merely a fearful thought, not a premonition, not an intuition.. just a fearful what-if.

So, I endured some 6 abuse the other day because of his lack of understanding of his own mind. I was having a casual 'what I have been up to, oh heres a curious and strange thing I have been thinking' conversation, which led to him completely flipping his shit like a raving mad lunatic.

This brings me to another point. Fe vs 6. Sometimes what may seem like an Fe mal-attachment to another, is actually their 6ish loyalty making them feel connected. They feel involved. I personally have learned that I have to cut cords a lot when its no longer beneficial to me to remain tied to someone. I could speculate on why a 6 feels these things, but thats beside the point for now.

Back to the story -- I'd mentioned something that was happening in my -own- life. -My- life over here, not connected to -your- life over there, and he went barking mad. He became verbally aggressive and it caused me some bodily anxiety, listening to it. I closed all access that the toxic person had to me and shook my head, thinking what a shame it is to have such a lack of self-awareness.

What he did was feel connected to my own situation which was the first mistake, and then assume that his worse-case-scenario thinking was "reality" when it couldn't have possibly been the case. He took it a step further and aggressively tried to convince me that his worst-case-scenario thinking is reality, to try to control me and make me ignorantly make a decision based on his own stupidity. Its disgusting to me when someone is being stupid about something, and just completely wrong and ignorant.. but takes it a step further to try to bring someone else down with them. Such is the unhealthy 6 lashing out at someone who they feel tied to.

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no_id said:

I dont get the stuff with intuition... Paranoid fear IS intuition, especially Ne "possible" stuff... Fi is more how you feel things, feeling of like, disgust, appreciating the emotionnal bond with other, ect...

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This brings me to another point. Fe vs 6. Sometimes what may seem like an Fe mal-attachment to another, is actually their 6ish loyalty making them feel connected. They feel involved. I personally have learned that I have to cut cords a lot when its no longer beneficial to me to remain tied to someone. I could speculate on why a 6 feels these things, but thats beside the point for now.

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Paranoid fear =/= Ne.

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