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Betrayed at Job

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I've had this job for over a year now, I have been a loyal employee who's always able to come in last minute etc..

this job isn't really something I excel at, it's not that it's difficult,. it's just really not a good fit for me..

I maintain a good attitude and am pleasant to customers..

yet over the past few weeks my hours have dwindled so low, and my boss won't even give me more hours..

I've been here longer than most employees, yet am not given proper hours, and was told I won't get more than a few hours per week..

I should have some credibility since I've been here a while, but they give me lower hours than anyone even though I have flexible availability..

which hurts.
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I’m sorry for that. The right things are never very fair. It’s amazing what a change of setting can do with better people. But you never know exactly what you’re getting until you’re there. It sounds to me like you’re ready to leave this job. Choose which battles you need to fight. Sometimes some things aren’t worth fighting for but it’s really up to you to know what to do about it.
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The only thing you can do is talk to your supervisor about it.

[well, or leave the job]
I've had this job for over a year now, I have been a loyal employee who's always able to come in last minute etc..

this job isn't really something I excel at, it's not that it's difficult,. it's just really not a good fit for me..

I maintain a good attitude and am pleasant to customers..

yet over the past few weeks my hours have dwindled so low, and my boss won't even give me more hours..

I've been here longer than most employees, yet am not given proper hours, and was told I won't get more than a few hours per week..

I should have some credibility since I've been here a while, but they give me lower hours than anyone even though I have flexible availability..

which hurts.
I've had this happen to me with past jobs. It doesn't feel good, so I'm sorry you're in that situation. Have you spoken with a supervisor or boss and asked them what gives (in a more professional manner, of course)? I would recommend creating a list of all the things you do at work and all the things you've accomplished just as a reminder. I am guessing that you are more of an introvert? I am as well, and I think many of my problems at work are because I am not assertive and haven't done a great job of putting myself out there. When my coworkers speak of me they tend to say "Oh, Pepperminty is so nice!" and that's pretty much it... I am always frustrated because people tend to forget about me. For example, recently we had a training in which one of the topics is something I specialize in, yet no one asked me for info or help and they were going to just give the presentation without me. Thankfully I found out about it and asked if I could jump in and they were more than happy for the help, and I got credit for part of the presentation. It didn't feel good to be completely forgotten about, but at least I got credit for something in the end...

In summary, don't expect your job to recognize you for your work if you're not telling people about all the things you have done/are doing. It sucks but at best your supervisors are too busy to realize what's happening (you losing hours despite being a good employee) and at worst they are taking advantage of your easy-going demeanor.
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Hi. I always think you do best at what you love. Maybe your skills are completely wasted at this job. I know that might sound too simplistic, and I do know plenty of people work in jobs they hate, but I always try to encourage people to find the job they love because then you excel at it and can live your life's purpose. It sounds like even when you got the hours you wanted that you weren't truly happy there.

Do you mind if I tell you a story? (I'm just going to go ahead, I'm afraid). My husband was getting his Master's degree in teaching so that he could get his teaching certificate. None and I mean NONE of the schools in our COUNTY would take him as a student teacher. He was half-way through his program. Also, he had been Substitute teaching for all of these schools for a year. One of the principals is our friend even. We did all we could. Talked to the principals, etc. Someone we know said that this WAS personal. So my husband is a soft-spoken, very introverted and very good man who would be a great teacher and the kids he subbed just love him. I know because they come up to him everywhere we go and say, "Hey Mr. Smiley!". There is nothing creepy about my husband, he deeply wants to help kids understand history so they can make good civic choices and think through things. He is the kind of father to our kids who will be thought of forever with deep respect and love. He's also the best person in the world to figure out how to tailor information to the individual-- he's beyond brilliant in that area. He's INFP So.... was I angry? Was I feeling betrayed? Man, I would have been a year ago. We paid so much for the education and he had worked so hard-- this was his dream! Anyway, I wasn't mad. I've learned to trust life. I said, "Oh. Well if you could really choose to do anything you want to, you would be writing your book." And I got a writer's group together and he's almost done with his wonderful book!
It can be an opportunity to figure out what you really want.
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Hi. I always think you do best at what you love. Maybe your skills are completely wasted at this job. I know that might sound too simplistic, and I do know plenty of people work in jobs they hate, but I always try to encourage people to find the job they love because then you excel at it and can live your life's purpose. It sounds like even when you got the hours you wanted that you weren't truly happy there.

Do you mind if I tell you a story? (I'm just going to go ahead, I'm afraid). My husband was getting his Master's degree in teaching so that he could get his teaching certificate. None and I mean NONE of the schools in our COUNTY would take him as a student teacher. He was half-way through his program. Also, he had been Substitute teaching for all of these schools for a year. One of the principals is our friend even. We did all we could. Talked to the principals, etc. Someone we know said that this WAS personal. So my husband is a soft-spoken, very introverted and very good man who would be a great teacher and the kids he subbed just love him. I know because they come up to him everywhere we go and say, "Hey Mr. Smiley!". There is nothing creepy about my husband, he deeply wants to help kids understand history so they can make good civic choices and think through things. He is the kind of father to our kids who will be thought of forever with deep respect and love. He's also the best person in the world to figure out how to tailor information to the individual-- he's beyond brilliant in that area. He's INFP So.... was I angry? Was I feeling betrayed? Man, I would have been a year ago. We paid so much for the education and he had worked so hard-- this was his dream! Anyway, I wasn't mad. I've learned to trust life. I said, "Oh. Well if you could really choose to do anything you want to, you would be writing your book." And I got a writer's group together and he's almost done with his wonderful book!
It can be an opportunity to figure out what you really want.
I read this three times to see if missed the part where say your husband quit his program. :tongue: It still amazes me how you ENFPs write as if you were having a face to face conversation.
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I read this three times to see if missed the part where say your husband quit his program. :tongue: It still amazes me how you ENFPs write as if you were having a face to face conversation.
He did quit his program. You didn't miss it. It was implied, I guess. =)
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Have you tried talking to the powers that be about it? Speculating without data is hardly ever helpful.
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