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Out of all of the types, ESTP's are the type that strike me as the ones that just don't seem to have a care in the world. They always seem to be on the go, whether it's with work or with leisure. They always seem to be out experiencing and having fun, and they just don't seem to worry about things....almost as if they just don't have time for it or don't believe in it. They just come across as so carefree. ESFP's are similar, but they seem more sensitive, so I can at least picture them getting hurt emotionally.
In all fairness, I only know one person who seems to be an ESTP...most of what I'm going by is from what I've read and based on the actions of various acquaintances I've known who strike me as ESTP's. So I know I'm generalizing.
But it's just...I do so much dwelling and thinking on things naturally, and a lot of times I actually envy ESTP's for just being so spunky, outgoing and loose. I feel the need to do that sometimes and I do. But I know me, and I know there's only so much I can take.
The problem is that I have a hard time being around people of this nature because I get intimidated socially. I get overwhelmed. I'm basing this mostly on the one ESTP person I do know, who is a co-worker/pseudo-friend. I like her for the most part as a person, and we've been able to get along...it's just she's said some things to me that have been quite hurtful, and I know that wasn't her aim, but she also makes no effort to control her bluntness, usually. I've never really brought it up to her because I'm afraid she'll think I'm being over-sensitive.
But anyway, I don't really want to focus on my own issues...it's mainly that I want to try to improve my interactions with ESTP's, or at least people like ESTP's. And I've realized that my main problem with them is that...I never see their vulnerabilities. Whether it's their tough appearance or constant thrill seeking, it doesn't seem like anything ever bothers them or that they have problems.
Of course, I know everyone has problems, and I'm not trying to make it sound like ESTP's have perfect lives. It's just that when I don't see them, it makes it hard for me to be comfortable around them. I have a harder time being myself because I feel like my own issues are glaring. I know that most of this is my own ISFJ tendencies coming out but...I think it will help me to see these vulnerabilities.
So basically, all that long text was leading up to this question: What are the biggest problems you face in life as an ESTP? This can be either things from your own perspective and experience, or things that other people have told you that at one point you didn't realize but over time came to see was true. I've read about things, but it's so much more real and meaningful hearing it firsthand.
I'm really curious, because I think it will help me learn about and feel more comfortable around ESTP-like personalities.
In all fairness, I only know one person who seems to be an ESTP...most of what I'm going by is from what I've read and based on the actions of various acquaintances I've known who strike me as ESTP's. So I know I'm generalizing.
But it's just...I do so much dwelling and thinking on things naturally, and a lot of times I actually envy ESTP's for just being so spunky, outgoing and loose. I feel the need to do that sometimes and I do. But I know me, and I know there's only so much I can take.
The problem is that I have a hard time being around people of this nature because I get intimidated socially. I get overwhelmed. I'm basing this mostly on the one ESTP person I do know, who is a co-worker/pseudo-friend. I like her for the most part as a person, and we've been able to get along...it's just she's said some things to me that have been quite hurtful, and I know that wasn't her aim, but she also makes no effort to control her bluntness, usually. I've never really brought it up to her because I'm afraid she'll think I'm being over-sensitive.
But anyway, I don't really want to focus on my own issues...it's mainly that I want to try to improve my interactions with ESTP's, or at least people like ESTP's. And I've realized that my main problem with them is that...I never see their vulnerabilities. Whether it's their tough appearance or constant thrill seeking, it doesn't seem like anything ever bothers them or that they have problems.
Of course, I know everyone has problems, and I'm not trying to make it sound like ESTP's have perfect lives. It's just that when I don't see them, it makes it hard for me to be comfortable around them. I have a harder time being myself because I feel like my own issues are glaring. I know that most of this is my own ISFJ tendencies coming out but...I think it will help me to see these vulnerabilities.
So basically, all that long text was leading up to this question: What are the biggest problems you face in life as an ESTP? This can be either things from your own perspective and experience, or things that other people have told you that at one point you didn't realize but over time came to see was true. I've read about things, but it's so much more real and meaningful hearing it firsthand.
I'm really curious, because I think it will help me learn about and feel more comfortable around ESTP-like personalities.