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Dear other INFJ's,

do you ever feel lost within yourself.
almost as if your imagination has been silenced.

i am currently listening to music and hopeing that this part of myself returns but it hasn't... i am feeling empty. which I guess is better than some of my darker dreams and thoughts but I currently have nothing.
mainly I would really like to be around people right now but I guess am worried I will fuck it up.

I hate this feeling of a sort of tormented boredom that feels like it entraps my very being.
I have been eating so much today as well and have some homework asignments to do that I could do but alas, I simply feel like a piece of absent death itself today.

maybe it is from being on the computer and watching t.v.
who knows.
I just wish I could be alone more often than not and be (my body) okay with that.
My friend always says that intuition is supplementary to our actuallity which is Fe I guess.
I guess i should be satisfying that part of me but all I have is my parents right now and I am pretty tired of them. I am not one to ask someone to hang out. I hate being told no or just having to be that person who asks...
but then I think...
no one ever asks me. like EVER!
I always find out whats going on in terms of events or gatherings through my one friend and I am currently not talking to her sadly. anyway. I feel sorta weird... not really sad... just done with being bored and/or alone.

anyone ever get like this and if so ... what do you do?
 

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Sounds like you need some change. I ... do not know what I do when I am bored because frankly I cannot remember instances in my life when I truly felt what people describe as boredom. Even in really boring classes I would simply drift off into my mind and doodle on a piece of paper. However sometimes I feel very restless, obsessive-compulsive even, my thoughts keep rotating around same points of interest in some endless cycle and my mind then can find no peace. This is probably most similar thing to what you describe. It happens usually as a result of doing same things over and over again on a schedule, or living in same place for a long time where everything becomes too familiar, or doing a bunch of meaningless things because I am afraid do get out there and do something more meaningful.

I do believe in the INFJ there is inherent desire for change. It all boils down to this - when you are doing new things, you are feeding your Ni new information. When you are stuck in one place and everything around becomes familiar, Ni gets bored, and then your main function is not being engaged. However at same time we are afraid of changes, especially rapid high impact changes, because it is easy to imagine yourself drowning and feelings lost in such instances. So key is to keep the information stream dripping in, steadily, slowly, to exist in a state somewhere in between complete deprivation and intuitive overload.
 

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Hmm, I float into that state of mind sometimes.
Vel is right you are in need of some kind of change.
The worse thing about being a introvert is we are so content being alone our social skills can go down the toilet.
I can watch Tv, eat, go on the computer, in my Pj's, stare at the wall, draw, read alone for days and be the happiest person ever. lol. but sooner or later I did up feeling like you do right now.

Sense your extrovert you should be spending more time outside.
 

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Some very good and familiar posts on this topic, i do not post often on this forum, most likely as i have no idea what to say or i am not sure whether i can relate to it, but this is certainly something that has got those rusty cogs turning a little, This feeling is rather constant for me, and i can point toward a few almost certain problems and link it with others also.

The past few months there has been no college and i in recent years have became alot less engaging when it comes to organising to do something, and i do not know whether it is because of some sort of tiredness of constantly pushing myself into a position where it feels it is energy going in only one direction, although i could say for years socialising or even engaging in some sort of constructive thinking and exploring have been very numb, this is something that will be hard to overcome and yet whilst i keep showing these few sparks of i'm going to do this, the action upon them is rather blunt, as a result i have been living an almost zombie-like status doing the same things every day checking the same websites constantly and hardly talking to a single person, almost as if the whole aura has became boring. Yet i find alone time to be very important even after brief spells of talking to for example my parents, and helping them feel better about themselves i feel like i am really stopping myself to improve myself as i fear ruining any of the process, needless to say however having college just around the corner is a godsend, it should help greatly.

I have probably rambled on a little too much, but then i feel that if i don't get it down somewhere my mood and mindset will change so rapidly that i might not remember anything to write, weird i know.

I suppose i could sum it up as lazy-achieving numbness with something holding me back, the mind is a complex thing, i have no idea some of the stuff that goes on behind that locked door. Oh and it is also probably down to me having a sort of fear of people not liking what they see etc. (the Fe is in overdrive for all the wrong reasons all too often)

Edited again......... I have come to the conclusion that i am in dire need of a fairly constant good friend, where the understanding is needed, has been missing for all too long.
 
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This might seem like a tacky answer, but sometimes such bouts of boredom/depression/whatevaaa can be related to the chemical state of your body, i.e. you're not doing something you should be doing to make yourself healthy.

One of the best cures I've found for this state of mind is just a bit of exercise. I'll go somewhere isolated (if you live alone, this is easy), turn on my iPod and just dance around like an uninhibited dumbass for 1-2 hours until I can't anymore. I usually feel better afterward, and able to focus on the mental things to which I devote the majority of my energy.

Or just try to socialize with someone. Ask someone if they want to play a game of chess or something.
 

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Sound advice zwanglos, i used to do alot of solitary walks whilst listening to music on a regular basis and it was quite good. Just kind of stopped though, i felt i might get overwhelmed by doing too much, but a bit of an exercise routine could help to improve things.
 

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I went through a period when my intuition was blocked. It was after I attended a 10 month training course that caused a lot of change, where I learned a lot. Too much input. Had to shut down for my sanity. It came back when I was better able to handle the continuous psychic input of life as an INFJ. If you want some company, take your books to the coffee shop. You can be amongst people but not have to relate unless you feel like it. Smile a lot if you do!
 
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