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so i gave my second ever last night.. and just like the first, i sucked (pun intended)

it was awkward because i could tell he wasn't really enjoying it but didn't want to ask me to stop. HOW DO I GET BETTER

i've practiced on things before and tested my gag reflex but i need real tips from people with experience
 

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.. keep practising and ask your partner how he likes it
 

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Gently remove your teeth with a hammer. (I'm joking but this is still probably going to offend someone lol)


EDIT: Seriously, though. Did he say you sucked? I'm pretty sure this is your own perception of it. ask him.
 

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I rarely put it that deep to cause gag reflex, I just play with it - lips, tongue, biting, putting it a little - and when he's almost there - then I go deep.
Enjoy it and use your imagination. It would also help if he told you what he likes specificlly.
 

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You need to suck accordingly to his normal patterns of masturbation. If he masturbates by thursting up and down, you can replicate that to create a more sensuous effect.
 

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You don't need to deep throat to give damned good blow jobs. Read up on male genital anatomy. This stuff is not rocket science.
 

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Gagging on the penis sounds a little extreme.
That is more way of mixing in submission and humiliation to spice the porn.
If you want the guy to feel good just focus on the head and the string in front of the penis as it is the most sensitive.
The rest of the shaft is only useful as a handle mostly.
 

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so i should ask how he wanks?

and he didn't explicitly say i was bad, but i was, i just know it

also my blowjob face is not good. i've taken selfies with things down my throat and they are not appealing (this i don't think the guys will mind too much though)

i don't gag on it, or i haven't yet
@dweeb good luck to both of us!
 

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Lots and lots of saliva.
Seriously.
Giving a bj after smoking weed when your mouth is dry is the hardest (pun also intended).
 

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@china -- Look into male genital anatomy. I'm 100% serious about this. You don't need to deep throat to be good at blow jobs. The pleasure isn't about what you do with the mouth alone; it's about using both the hands and the mouth to produce pleasure.
 

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so i should ask how he wanks?

and he didn't explicitly say i was bad, but i was, i just know it

also my blowjob face is not good. i've taken selfies with things down my throat and they are not appealing (this i don't think the guys will mind too much though)

i don't gag on it, or i haven't yet

@dweeb good luck to both of us!
Mutual masturbation.
 

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An inquisitive tongue is much more important than the mouth. It's for a reason that cats don't fondle others with their claws.

The cock pull

For direct attention to the dick – but only in one direction. Saliva may be enough for this depending on the situation, but the addition of a favourite lube could be a boon. Starting at the base of the dick, slide a hand up towards the tip, placing the other hand at the base. Just before the first hand comes off the tip of his dick, start the other hand moving up from the base to the tip. Keep the base to tip sliding with alternate hands up and try getting faster and faster. This works really well with a rock hard dick, and it's also a great trick on a bloke who's not hard yet or has problems getting hard. Of course you can go the other way if you have a hard dick in your hands – or use a combination of the two.

The drum

Remember that some blokes don't like having their balls played with so only try this on 'ball friendly' shags. Gently wrap a thumb and index finger around his balls to pull them gently away from his body, until you have a sort of 'surface tension' on the bit of his scrotum furthest away from him. Then, starting gently, run your tongue in a circle around this 'end' area. You'll know when you are getting it right from his reaction. It won't bring most blokes off, but it feels pretty damn good. If he likes that, try using a finger tip on the same area.

Giving a good blowjob without gagging is a skill that we aren't born with, we have to learn. Here are some tips that could help you:

  • Alcohol tightens the throat muscles so it's best to avoid it (especially spirits) if you want to relax your throat.
  • Drinking orange juice can suppress the gag reflex. If you feel like you're going to gag when you've got a cock in your mouth – swallow. Don't worry, it won't go down.
  • Breathe through your nose. Exhale before taking his cock in your mouth. It will increase your oral capacity by about 33%.
  • Flatten your tongue. Say "mmm" or "aaah" to relax your mouth beforehand (you may want to do this quietly or he'll probably think you're a bit weird).
  • Take the cock into your mouth slowly and allow your throat to relax around it. If he tries to force it in, you'll gag for sure.
  • You'll find it easier if you have plenty of saliva. If your mouth feels dry, have a glass of water handy.
  • Don't just use your mouth – use your hand as well. You can use your hand as a stopper to ensure that you control the amount of cock you take, as an improvised cock ring to keep him really hard, to wank him as you work him, or to play with his balls, arsehole, nipples or perineum (the area between his balls and arsehole).
Giving someone a blowjob is fairly low risk for HIV. You can reduce the risk even further by avoiding getting cum in your mouth – there are probably only a very few cases where someone has caught HIV without ejaculation into the mouth. Transmission from an HIV-positive guy with an undetectable viral load is unlikely. You can pick up other STIs from sucking cock, such as chlamydia, gonorrhoea, syphilis or herpes, and infections in your throat can be less likely to have symptoms, so it's worth getting regular sexual health check-ups. If you wanted to reduce the risk even more, you'd have to use condoms when you suck cock.

(Source:GMFA.org.uk)
 

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You don't need to deep throat to give damned good blow jobs. Read up on male genital anatomy. This stuff is not rocket science.
QFT.

The most sensitive part of the penis is the frenulum. You could literally just lick that and get him off.
 

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Just to say...when I was a young woman--we went to the library. And we looked these things up (or at least my friend did--she even tore the page out of a book)...that's how WE learned about blow jobs.

I love giving head though--it's one of my favorite parts of sex. I just wish there was someone in my life who I knew warranted and deserved it right now.
 

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Personally I like a good suck.

Most girls tend to just put their mouth over it and kind of try to simulate sex with a generic up-and-down sliding motion.

The mouth is not as snug as a vagina. Unless you create a vacuum. Give it a good suck.
 

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1. Check to see if he still has a frenulum.
2. If he does, proceed to form your lips into a tight, rigid opening. Kind of like you would when drinking through a straw. Except tight.
3. Apply lip formation to frenulum.
4. The frenulum is a 3d object--don't be afraid to wrap your lips around it.
5. Up and down movements to stimulate said frenulum.
6. ????
7. Profit


It helps if you use one hand to pull down the shaft skin so that the frenulum is taught and more easy to find and stimulate.

So, with one hand at the base of his penis, pulling all the skin taught (don't be afraid to use quite a bit of pressure; I find that I can actually orgasm just from pulling the skin down taught and holding it there. It feels stupidly amazing), do the frenulum stimulation.

And you will just have the nastiest mess to clean up in no time.

QFT.

The most sensitive part of the penis is the frenulum. You could literally just lick that and get him off.
Yes!

Definitely don't be afraid to stimulate the perineum at the same time (the area beneath the ballsack). Apply quite a heavy amount of pressure, and you will find that the penis just ENGORGES with blood. And it feels AMAZING.

Couple that with frenulum stimulation and he will just be screaming. For about 5 seconds and then it will be over :laughing:
 
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