I have a really good INTJ friend that I've known for quite a while. I love his sense of humor, I value his knowledge and his input/outlook on life, we share the same beliefs, I like his little quirks that make him... him, but... he's an INTJ. Not that I don't like INTJs, I do. But I'm pretty sure they don't feel the same way about ESTJs. And I wanted to know what other INTJs have to say. He has said before that he was never interested in me ("At all." to quote him. he did apologize afterwards and say he realized how harsh that could sound after he said it...) and has led me to believe through some comments that I am not his type and never will be. For example, he told me something about a family member of his that really annoys him. I said something to the effect of "um, that sounds like me." to which he responded (I am paraphrasing) "I know. I just avoid those topics that would bring that up so we don't have a problem." In fact, he sometimes comes to me for relationship advice. I'm just wondering, should I give up on this idea?