When I first read the MBTI descriptions, I actually thought I was an INTP, when I am anything but a Thinker. I'm much more of a Feeler. Once I realized that, I thought I was an INFP. Then, I realized that I'm not really spontanious so I started considering that I might of been INFJ. However, I realized that I am extremely disorganized, hate schedules, and hate having everything planned, so I went back to P. Then, I started considering that I mgiht be an ISFP because I don't always come up with ideas and am very affectionate and somewhat sensual---although being sensual doesn't neccessarily mean you're an ISFP. I also was going through a "importance of logic and common sense" phase because I thought it would make me seem more intelligent. I also read the Kiersay temperaments and while I knew I was really an Idealist, I denied it and considered myself a Rational to feed my ego. Now, I've realized that logic and common sense aren't always reliabe. They are merely things created by people so they could understand the world better. Although I verbally don't express myself well and would certainly do deeds to show my love, I wouldn't mind saying "I love you" and would rather make someone a card or poem than buy them a gift. Or, I would simply hug them to show my affection. The only reason why I don't make poetry too much is because my low self esteem encourages me that I would never be good at it. So, yes, I think I would generally consider myself a INFP. It's just that my mind changes constantly and I sometimes wonder if I'm another type. I also feel as if INFP is "too good to be true," too rare, and too wonderful for someone like me.Definitely. I grew up in a family that valued school, grades, and achievement over anything else, so that's why anyone at school who hasn't really talked to me would assume that I'm a judger. Subconsciously, anyway. They don't know MBTI, but they know the overachiever "type" when they see it.
Depending on what skills a person considers to be more important, they might choose to repress certain traits and bring out others. In addition, those under stress tend to exhibit a persona or withdraw or develop their shadow functions more.
But behavior isn't what determines type-- it's preference. It's about what would you choose over the other in most situations. It sounds like you're an INFP, but I can't be sure based on that information alone.
This is really helpful, actually. I toy with the idea (off and on) if I am really ISFP instead of INFP, even though I repeatedly come up with INFP. Your descriptions of how an INFP would act in that situation is exactly how I tend to react, considering the possibilities without acting upon them. Sometimes it feels like crap, like "I should comfort them, but I don't know which out of these options is the best way..." Eventually I feel like I have to act upon something because they're waiting and I should help them feel better.INFP's subjectively process ethics and extrovert it through considering possibilities to apply it in their environment. In terms of possible observable behavior, you might find an INFP sitting with a distressed friend. It may be a part of their ethics to comfort this friend, but instead of observing them taking action on this, you might observe them idling sitting by, because Ne is driven to consider possibilities of how to best comfort the friend. "Do I hug them? Do I listen to what they have to say? Do I offer advice?"
ISFP's subjectively process ethics and extrovert it through taking action on possibilities in their environment. In terms of possible observable behavior, you might find an ISFP sitting with a distressed friend. If it's a part of the ISFP's ethics to comfort their friend, they may know the same possible ways to comfort a friend, that the INFP did, but what pops up first, is likely what they would do first. "How do I comfort them? I could hug them!" *ISFP hugs friend*