how do you guys feel about this phrase? it makes me feel uncomfortable. i like to know or have an idea of what someone wants to talk about, but if someone just asks "can we talk?" i get uncomfortable. because then i feel like there's an agenda that i dont know about. and there's always an agenda when people want to meet up and "just talk." if they tell me they want to talk about this, that or some other issue, i will feel reassured. i might not want to talk about it, but i appreciate that they were straightforward like "i know this is something we dont usually talk about, but i was wondering if we could meet up to talk about ___ problems." OTOH, i really dont like it when someone says "let's meet up and talk!!!" (making me think it's just a casual 'catch-up' chat, coffee time) only to go and find out there was something serious/confrontational. what do you guys think? i just prefer to have the emotional preparation.