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Let's say for example (just an example)

A person was told at a much younger age,''I think you'll make a great teacher someday.'' And then the person kept thinking about it.

One day, that person became a really well skilled teacher.

How do you know if that's what the person truly wants or it's more of a catalyst by a self fulfilling prophecy?

It's an interesting sociological/human nature issue to think about.
 

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Izzie, cool question!

As a child, who was pretty stubborn, I couldn't stand it whenever someone told me that I was going to be "x, y, or z." I'd be like, "No I'M NOT!!"

I don't what it was.

I think it was the fact that I felt whenever someone tried to define me, I would push back and define myself. Often times I was told that I'd be a great artist when I grew up, and it used to really get to me, because I would tell myself in the back of my mind, that's NOT who I want to be... arrgggghhhh!!!

Nowadays, I just shrug it off.. Sometimes when people say I'm going to be this or that, I take with a grain of salt, and then resort to thinking in my head.. "Humm.. what else do I want on my platter?" (career-wise).
 

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Let's say for example (just an example)

A person was told at a much younger age,''I think you'll make a great teacher someday.'' And then the person kept thinking about it.

One day, that person became a really well skilled teacher.

How do you know if that's what the person truly wants or it's more of a catalyst by a self fulfilling prophecy?

It's an interesting sociological/human nature issue to think about.

One way to know would be to consider who said what to whom, how, how often, etc. I would be really surprised if one person saying something to you only once at age 6, for example, would somehow cancel out all other things you might hear from others or the stuff that you tell yourself, and your natural talents, family/environmental/sociocultural/religious influences. On the other hand, if it's somebody very close to you, keeps saying that to you over and over again, that you have no friends, have a very low self-esteem, etc, then that's quite more likely to influence you.

My degree is in psychology but reading your reference to "sociological" matter, I wanted to tell you that right now in our country and our culture, we are telling little kids over and over again things that will affect them as they get older. I mean there are messages about material goods and how they bring happiness, about body size/shape for girls, drugs, sex, family, etc. And we believe these things after a while. That's what scares me the most.
 
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