Can't find looks and brains in a woman ?

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SnowPharaoh

Discussion Starter · Mar 26, 2015

So I guess the problem is I always seem to meet either interesting and funny women or just plain beautiful, so I was wondering if any of you guys had problems like this, do you think I should compromise one for the other, which should it be and etc.... go wild with it (also women who have the same problem with men feel free to comment your experiences) :happy:

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Scrabbletray

· #2 · Mar 26, 2015

faraon1990temujin said:
So I guess the problem is I always seem to meet either interesting and funny women or just plain beautiful, so I was wondering if any of you guys had problems like this, do you think I should compromise one for the other, which should it be and etc.... go wild with it (also women who have the same problem with men feel free to comment your experiences) :happy:

Oh, it can't be that hard to find a woman who is both smart and beautiful, the hard part is tricking her into falling in love with your dumb ass. :tongue:

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SnowPharaoh

Discussion Starter · #3 · Mar 26, 2015

a1b2c3d4 said:
Oh, it can't be that hard to find a woman who is both smart and beautiful, the hard part is tricking her into falling in love with your dumb ass. :tongue:

Well I guess that makes sense...

johnnyyukon

· #4 · Mar 26, 2015

I was gonna say, move to Europe. But it seems you're already there. Hmm, maybe move to another country. You'll get a larger target selection of women. Chicks love foreign dudes.

FePa

· #5 · Mar 26, 2015

The interesting and funny and smart will grow more beautiful under yours eyes with time and connection...
the only looks-one will fade and you'll remain with an empty relationship...

I usually fall for nerdy, geeky, normal to below average looks but high IQs, incredible personalities, etc etc and they turn out to be ooooohhhhh my GOD you are major super handsome and hot with time... ;-)
under my eyes only, while my friends sees "eh... ok... normal..."

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devoid

· #6 · Mar 26, 2015

Maybe the problem is that you yourself are lacking one or both of these characteristics.

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Starbuckskat

· #7 · Mar 26, 2015

devoid said:
Maybe the problem is that you yourself are lacking one or both of these characteristics.

noo don't say that, I'm sure he's fine

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devoid

· #8 · Mar 26, 2015

Starbuckskat said:
noo don't say that, I'm sure he's fine

All the men I know who are both attractive and intelligent have an easy time attracting attractive and intelligent women. I think a lot of men like to complain about how "unattractive" women are when they themselves are pretty ugly and overweight and just being sexist.

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Scrabbletray

· #9 · Mar 26, 2015

devoid said:
All the men I know who are both attractive and intelligent have an easy time attracting attractive and intelligent women. I think a lot of men like to complain about how "unattractive" women are when they themselves are pretty ugly and overweight and just being sexist.

It's not sexist, just hypocritical. But even so it's also just human nature. People want the 10/10 just as much if they are a 1/10 as they do if they are a 10/10. The only difference is the former has no chance of ever getting them while the latter does.

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devoid

· #10 · Mar 26, 2015

a1b2c3d4 said:
It's not sexist, just hypocritical. But even so it's also just human nature. People want the 10/10 just as much if they are a 1/10 as they do if they are a 10/10. The only difference is the former has no chance of ever getting them while the latter does.

I say sexist because the assumption is that a "real woman" is one who is attractive like the ones in the magazines, just like how it's sexist when poor women expect to marry a rich man. But you're right... Everyone wants the best and nobody wants to work for it. xD They all just gotta complain about it.

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Wellsy

· #11 · Mar 27, 2015

I suppose the advice is try and work on being the right person as opposed to looking for the right person.
The sentiment being that one improves themselves they naturally attract people who are inclined to one's quality.

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koalaroo

· #12 · Mar 27, 2015

faraon1990temujin said:
So I guess the problem is I always seem to meet either interesting and funny women or just plain beautiful, so I was wondering if any of you guys had problems like this, do you think I should compromise one for the other, which should it be and etc.... go wild with it (also women who have the same problem with men feel free to comment your experiences) :happy:

What right have you to a woman of both brains and beauty?

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SnowPharaoh

Discussion Starter · #13 · Mar 27, 2015

koalaroo said:
What right have you to a woman of both brains and beauty?

I don't recall saying that I do

devoid

· #14 · Mar 27, 2015

I've got brains, looks and personality. And every man I've been with had to have all three as well.

Now that I also have income potential, I'll add that to the list. No point in dating beneath myself.

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koalaroo

· #15 · Mar 27, 2015

devoid said:
I've got brains, looks and personality. And every man I've been with had to have all three as well. Now that I also have income potential, I'll add that to the list. No point in dating beneath myself.

That's what bothered me about being on dating sites, sometimes. Depending on what I do with myself, my earning potential within the next ten years is roughly 150,000 U.S. dollars per year with federal government benefits. I'm intelligent, I'm at least decent looking, I clean up nice, I have the potential to earn six figures. Why would I date some mediocre looking guy who works in "hospitality", doesn't have my level of education, and doesn't have anywhere near my earning potential? What the Hell would I have in common with someone like this?

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koalaroo

· #16 · Mar 27, 2015

faraon1990temujin said:
I don't recall saying that I do

But you're looking for that!

SnowPharaoh

Discussion Starter · #17 · Mar 27, 2015

The thing is most of you seem to be assuming that I believe I deserve a woman both beautiful and inteligent and funny, when really the post doesn't say any of that, also this is just my subjective experience, by this I mean I personally don't find these women both attractice and inteligent which doesn't mean they aren't to someone else, all of these qualities are for the most part subjective, anyway thanks for all of your comments and advice

Andromeda31

· #18 · Mar 27, 2015

This thread... Tehe :kitteh:

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devoid

· #19 · Mar 27, 2015

koalaroo said:
That's what bothered me about being on dating sites, sometimes. Depending on what I do with myself, my earning potential within the next ten years is roughly 150,000 U.S. dollars per year with federal government benefits. I'm intelligent, I'm at least decent looking, I clean up nice, I have the potential to earn six figures. Why would I date some mediocre looking guy who works in "hospitality", doesn't have my level of education, and doesn't have anywhere near my earning potential? What the Hell would I have in common with someone like this?

I'm ready to give up on dating sites now. Every time I meet a guy who's close to what I want, he's deeply depressed and/or extremely mentally unhealthy in some way. This last one seemed great on paper - ivy league education, stable job, good family, well groomed, generous, etc. Found out months into the relationship that he has serious drug/alcohol problems and had deep-rooted emotional issues which he very aggressively hid until that point. :/ I'm just done. There must be healthy people out there in the world somewhere.

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SnowPharaoh

Discussion Starter · #20 · Mar 27, 2015

koalaroo said:
But you're looking for that!

That's your assumption and nothing else, you're reading too much into the question, all I'm asking for is an objective opinion and I'm getting a lot of bad personal experiences

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