So I was reading the post about not compromising your ideals if you know you need to be in love/really care about someone to have sex with them, and I thought this deserved its own post. I do not enjoy casual sex in the way some people do, and if you asked me, I would tell you I don't think someone deserves to experience that part of me unless they earn it (through trust, mutual respect, commitment, etc - a loving relationship, basically).
That said, I get lonely and horny, and sometimes I want the validation that I can "get some," like the stereotypical jock at the bar. So I've had friends-with-benefits situations (with people who later turned into platonic friends), and I've never had a true one-night stand, but recently I've been considering it. I got my heart broken, and I have had this overwhelming urge to sleep with someone else so he won't be the last person I slept with.
I think it's nice that some people are willing to be abstinent for their ideals, but personally... I'm not. I would love to be in a situation where I DO have that loving, respectful relationship and can feel good about it, but until I do, I'm not going to wait around and not have sex. I will pick mediocre sex (that I occasionally regret) over no sex at all.
Does anyone else feel this way/do this too?
That said, I get lonely and horny, and sometimes I want the validation that I can "get some," like the stereotypical jock at the bar. So I've had friends-with-benefits situations (with people who later turned into platonic friends), and I've never had a true one-night stand, but recently I've been considering it. I got my heart broken, and I have had this overwhelming urge to sleep with someone else so he won't be the last person I slept with.
I think it's nice that some people are willing to be abstinent for their ideals, but personally... I'm not. I would love to be in a situation where I DO have that loving, respectful relationship and can feel good about it, but until I do, I'm not going to wait around and not have sex. I will pick mediocre sex (that I occasionally regret) over no sex at all.
Does anyone else feel this way/do this too?