I wouldn't say that offering food is a sign that I value over others but I definitely appreciate it, especially if I have offered you food before (which would be very likely as I do that a lot, I feel bad if I'm eating something delicious in front of the other person and they aren't :crazyOffer me food and I'm yours.
(Seriously. It's a sign of goodwill I happen to favour over others.)
Good conversation works too.
Yeah, that's a given. That's why ENTP's tend to have a difficult time in this forum. We are quick to judge and people that appear rude in their manner of questioning are immediately suspect. We tend to believe that any question can be asked, as long as it is asked in an appropriate manner (including the setting).Are SJ's really hooked on politeness?
Agreed. Being honest does not equate to being rude.being honest and up front is one thing.... but you still have to be polite at the same time, if that makes sense. My ISTJ friend really respects it when someone can do all three of those things at the same time, especially if it's in a confrontational/negative situation.
I agree with nearly everything you said.If for whatever reason I am a guest at your house:
2. Offer me something to drink, even if it's just water.
3. If there is anyone else at your house (that lives there, etc.), make the proper introductions.
Other random things that I notice and that impress me:
2. Likewise for opening any other sort of door.
3. Help me put my coat on if you can see that I am having difficulty doing so (again, this only applies if you are male).
4. Regardless of your gender, if you're dropping me off anywhere (even if it's my own house!) DO NOT drive away until I have safely unlocked my door and gone inside.
5. Mind your manners with wait staff. They don't get paid nearly enough and deserve to be treated well. Always tell them "please" and "thank you", even if it's just for a refill on your coffee.
6. Regardless of your gender, if YOU ask me to go somewhere, be prepared to foot the bill (the reverse is also true; if I ask you out somewhere, I am prepared to pay for all of it).
7. Personal hygeine is very important.
8. If through some miracle of nature you can remember my unique preferences (for instance I prefer my coffee to be VERY strong but at the same time half the cup is full of cream and sugar) I will be extremely impressed.
Yes, as I see no reason why everyone can't be polite, it doesn't take much effort at all. You could say perhaps politeness is one of our values and people want to hang out with people with the same values.Are SJ's really hooked on politeness?
Yes, one of my friends definitely has a very small personal space circumference, I'm not sure if she's noticed that I sneakily back away sometimes.
being honest and up front is one thing.... but you still have to be polite at the same time, if that makes sense. My ISTJ friend really respects it when someone can do all three of those things at the same time, especially if it's in a confrontational/negative situation.
I agree with both Curious and Niss.We tend to believe that any question can be asked, as long as it is asked in an appropriate manner (including the setting).
Rude, crude, and socially unacceptable behavior will find the ISTJ headed for the door.