If for whatever reason I am a guest at your house:
2. Offer me something to drink, even if it's just water.
3. If there is anyone else at your house (that lives there, etc.), make the proper introductions.
Other random things that I notice and that impress me:
2. Likewise for opening any other sort of door.
3. Help me put my coat on if you can see that I am having difficulty doing so (again, this only applies if you are male).
4. Regardless of your gender, if you're dropping me off anywhere (even if it's my own house!) DO NOT drive away until I have safely unlocked my door and gone inside.
5. Mind your manners with wait staff. They don't get paid nearly enough and deserve to be treated well. Always tell them "please" and "thank you", even if it's just for a refill on your coffee.
6. Regardless of your gender, if YOU ask me to go somewhere, be prepared to foot the bill (the reverse is also true; if I ask you out somewhere, I am prepared to pay for all of it).
7. Personal hygeine is very important.
8. If through some miracle of nature you can remember my unique preferences (for instance I prefer my coffee to be VERY strong but at the same time half the cup is full of cream and sugar) I will be extremely impressed.
I agree with nearly everything you said.
I always offer people a drink when they come to my house but I don't expect it when I am at someone's house though it is appreciated.
I never introduce a guest to the other people in the house unless they bump into each other :crazy: I guess because I wouldn't expect it if I was at someone's house
Chilvary is definitely appreciated. The lack of it isn't a biggie but the presence of it is a big plus in my impression of you.
Hmm helping me to put my coat on...that would depend on the situation and how well I know you as helping me to put my coat on would count as an invasion of my personal space.
I definitely do notice if people do no.4 but I notice the lack of it more if it is at night.
If they are polite to everyone that would be a big plus. For me, it is important for them to treat everyone the same. If they treated me well but others worse then I would think that they aren't showing me their real personality
For No.6 I'd probably expect a splitting of the bill, then again that may be due to differences in our age range. I suppose it'd be nice if the other person offered to pay for the whole bill but I'd be unsure as to whether it would be impolite to insist on splitting.
No.7: Definitely. Greasy hair = instant detriment (regardless of whether it's hair product or lack of hair washing).
I would definitely be extremely impressed if no.8 happened.
Are SJ's really hooked on politeness?
Yes, as I see no reason why everyone can't be polite, it doesn't take much effort at all. You could say perhaps politeness is one of our values and people want to hang out with people with the same values.
yeah, what's with some people and their sense of personal space? i notice i keep taking a step back to keep a distance.
on first
impression
Yes, one of my friends definitely has a very small personal space circumference, I'm not sure if she's noticed that I sneakily back away sometimes.
That article was quite interesting.
being honest and up front is one thing.... but you still have to be polite at the same time, if that makes sense. My ISTJ friend really respects it when someone can do all three of those things at the same time, especially if it's in a confrontational/negative situation.
We tend to believe that any question can be asked, as long as it is asked in an appropriate manner (including the setting).
Rude, crude, and socially unacceptable behavior will find the ISTJ headed for the door.
I agree with both Curious and Niss.
