As an INFJ have you notice that you are good at charming the Dom or Tert Fi user?
I have noticed that I can make them smile and laugh with relative ease to other types.
I think this may be because Fe makes us value their values that they hold so dear and Ni shows us what we need to do to make it happen.
Are you talking about leading someone on?
That would be deceiving so I don't do that.
I will give an example of what I am talking about to clarify.
I have always been able to make my INFP Mom crack up like crazy.
A) I have the urge to say something about the cobra INFJ discription on the many faces of INFJ thingy, and snake charmers, but it didn't manifest into anything remotly witty.
B) The serving thing is something that sometimes worries me with my INFJ friend. I wouldn't say she does serve me, but I am very aware she does a lot for me. If I have a problem she is always there for me, and she likes making my ideas realities, which is amazing. She loves seeing me smile, and get excited by things, but I have wondered if that's all I give...the satisfaction of making someone happy and feeling needed.
I asked her what she liked about me, and she told me I made her smile and laugh, I listened to her whine and moan without telling her to just get over things, yet still cheer her up, I make her less neurotic, and I make her go out and do stuff.
Yes I am still determined to be an especially good friend, but it makes me feel better knowing I definatly do give something back.
Thanks, thats a pretty awsome post, and explains things really well. I like it when I have something I can visualise to work with.
I guess part of it is she is just so selfsufcient. I tend to think I am a pretty independent person, but she is just so capable and drama free. I'd probably feel better if I felt she relied on me now and again...but I guess she does. I am her only close friend, mostly she has tolerable aquanteces who she complains about to me over the phone. I must be doing something right if she has decided to keep me. :happy: