I worry about this a lot. I don't know if I really give anything to the INFJ I know. I don't think of her doing it out of anything self-serving but just natural Fe-reflexes, but the Ni-dom makes her very mysterious and I know there's more going on than I can see. I'm curious, but I don't probe it because I don't know if I'm allowed to I only remember one or two times when I felt something a little less 'light' coming from her.Yep that clears it up. I just hear stories ... and have had it happen to me where... the Fe user uses you for their ego. They charm you for the sake of making themselves feel better. I just fear that idea of being charmed and having it not be genuine.
I also wouldn't want someone just serving me all the time and making me happy if I didn't do the same for them. If it makes them happy that I'm happy... that's still not really enough. So this idea of an Fe user being able to give the Fi user what they want kinda bothers me cause it poses the question..... do I give them anything? And if I don't.... then am I just like a bird that they feed bread to and then leave? And then makes me want to jet out of there.
What do you INFJs feel INFPs give you? I'm sure we all hope that we're not just taking from you! :happy: