True 'dat! I cant even have a crush on more than one person at a time. It is not that I think it is immoral, i just CAN'T....and I would never consider cheating. It is a terrible thing to do to someoneWell, I can only speak for myself, and I know one should never say "never", but I have never cheated, nor do I believe I ever will. It's just not in my nature. I'm extremely loyal. Once I'm committed to a relationship, then that's it for me. If I'm unhappy in a relationship, I end that relationship BEFORE looking around for someone new.
Maybe a gun to the head.What would it take to make you cheat on someone you love?
Pull the trigger. Maybe not that drastic, but it would be close. I don't think it could ever happen. Way too loyal here.If you had cheated on someone you love, what would you do?
That sounds very out of character. My dad, my brother and my cousin - all ISTJs, and all as loyal as they come.You guys all seem really loyal, and yet I know an ISTJ who has cheated in the past, which seems so out of character (and yet he's definitely ISTJ) that it makes me wonder why he would do it. Is attraction a factor, like, if someone's really really really attractive and you're simply bored in your current relationship? Or is that just too unlike an ISTJ? I'd be interested to hear from any ISTJs who have cheated on their partners, if there are any that would dare speak about it![]()
I'll be the fearless one and admit that I have cheated.You guys all seem really loyal, and yet I know an ISTJ who has cheated in the past, which seems so out of character (and yet he's definitely ISTJ) that it makes me wonder why he would do it. Is attraction a factor, like, if someone's really really really attractive and you're simply bored in your current relationship? Or is that just too unlike an ISTJ? I'd be interested to hear from any ISTJs who have cheated on their partners, if there are any that would dare speak about it![]()
This is actually true, you are right. To say that ISTJs don't cheat would have to mean that other types are more likely to cheat which is not fair. Cheating is not a result from cognitive functions, but a personal decision.All types cheat.
We all will find some way of justifying our actions, regardless of whether we did or did not cheat.
And then we have to deal with the definition of cheating.
ISTJs are loyal and will often stay in a relationship when others might have thrown in the towel. But, to be surprised that and ISTJ would cheat is to be naive.
This is really a question about principles, morals, and values, and not so much about personality types.
sorry to bring it up but cheating is genetic moral value may affect it but it mostly genetic
but i have never cheated because i dont really like love relation there are girl i find cute and like but GF seem to bring more problem then advantage for now and sport is much better right now
Boredom isn't a very strong deterrent to ISTJ's like myself. Perhaps it could happen if things are getting really bad in a relationship and there is a respect issue, then I could see it.... If someone's really really really attractive and you're simply bored in your current relationship? ...
I agree. I think the ISTJ would normally need to feel like they are in a hopeless situation to be able to justify disloyalty.Boredom isn't a very strong deterrent to ISTJ's like myself. Perhaps it could happen if things are getting really bad in a relationship and there is a respect issue, then I could see it.
I agree with you, but at the same time, I believe an ISJ would be less likely to cheat than a lot of other types. It goes back to Si and our tendency to stick to what we know, not wanting to risk it. The same thing that lets us stuck in ruts and routines is that same thing that makes us so loyal.All types cheat.
We all will find some way of justifying our actions, regardless of whether we did or did not cheat.
And then we have to deal with the definition of cheating.
ISTJs are loyal and will often stay in a relationship when others might have thrown in the towel. But, to be surprised that and ISTJ would cheat is to be naive.
This is really a question about principles, morals, and values, and not so much about personality types.
Ok, lets get down to brass tacks. We have heard so many say that they would not cheat--ISXJ's in this thread. This is for two reasons, one of which is flattering and one of which is not so flattering.I agree with you, but at the same time, I believe an ISJ would be less likely to cheat than a lot of other types. It goes back to Si and our tendency to stick to what we know, not wanting to risk it. The same thing that lets us stuck in ruts and routines is that same thing that makes us so loyal.
IF this were true, then we would find that ISXJ's tend to not find themselves in situations of extreme passion, being ruled by their hearts rather than their heads. However, this is simply not true. While we can be quite cold and logical in our day to day dealings with people, WHEN our heart and emotions get involved, we can become blind-sided, so to speak, encountering these emotions without any warning or foreknowledge, and can find ourselves at a loss as how to cope with the emotions and in the situation. In these instances, our behavior can be as spontaneous as any other type.Of course, as you said, there are other factors that play into it, and certainly people of all types cheat. But I think cheating would be a lot more pre-meditated for an ISJ than for an ESP, for example. I don't think ISJ's get caught up in the moment and fall into immediate temptation as often as other types.
Type will minimally impact us in this arena. NF's are often just as deeply monogamous as the most staid ISXJ. It helps me to view these types of behaviors on a bell curve.So I don't think type has nothing to do with it, even if there are other factors.