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Just a disclaimer that I'll be disclosing what I think might be some weird info in the following post. I'm guessing it could make some uncomfortable. So read at your own risk.

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Hi there. I'm mostly posting this to see if any other females relate. I think I'm discovering in myself an increase in dick envy over the years, and I'd like to gain some more insight on the subject this way.

The earliest obvious sign that comes to mind presented itself when I broke up with my ex when I was 21 (I'm 26 now.) I had a couple of strange sex dreams. In one, I was having a threesome with two men I'd spoken with briefly at a party he'd taken me to shortly before the breakup which seemed odd because at that point, he'd been the only one I'd ever had sex with. But perhaps even stranger, I had another dream soon after where I was myself but with a dick, and was getting head from this guy. It was by no means a bad dream. Mostly, I just felt very excited and curious about how it might feel.

Fast forward, I've had a few sexual experiences with women and even though it's not my preference, I've always found myself being the more dominant partner in those interactions. I've also admittedly gotten off on gay male porn, despite the fact that I have no idea how any of that feels. Lastly, my man is very bisexual and has shared with me stories about him giving other men head. For some reason that's kind of a turn on for me -- mostly the picture in my head of him making himself submissive to another man that way, I think.

Anyone experience anything similar they want to share and/or just have some words of wisdom on what this could all mean? I don't expect it to be an obvious sign that I must be trans or something. But it might be worth noting that I have at least thought about being an attractive, submissive gay man before.
 

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I've had much the inverse, often dreaming of being a girl and being dominated. Though I wouldn't consider myself trans in any way.
 
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Dreams are usually kinda symbolic or just a pile of things we experience and combined together. Maybe what it means is that you like being more dominant and would like to dominate men as well, maybe use a strap-on on them etc. they even make these cool ones that you put inside you as well from the other end, called feeldoes.
It sounds more like a sexual identity/preference thing than a gender identity if that makes sense.
 

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Yeah, I'd have to agree that it's probably a more sexual thing, looking back on it. I don't have a problem with any of my parts and I think that's key in knowing if you're trans or not -- having some amount of gender dysphoria/not liking the physical parts you were born with.

I will say that I definitely don't like how I feel some might portray me sexually because I'm a woman. I'll quote Dane Cook (as well as I can remember) who once referred to women as looking "lost" when they have sex; like it's something happening TO them as opposed to something they're involved in. So maybe it's symbolizing a desire to feel more fully immersed in sexual experiences, mentally and physically; to become as animalistic - if not more than - as my male partners.
 

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sounds quite normal to me

The Electra Complex, first introduced by Carl Jung, is the female counterpart to the Oedipal Complex. It is associated with a period of development during which a girl has increasing love for her father and increasing animosity toward her mother, usually between the ages of 3 and 6.

History of the Electra Complex
Jung developed the theory to characterize behavior he saw in female clients that mimicked the Oedipal Complex during the phallic stage of psychosexual development. According to Jung, girls experiencing the complex suffer from penis envy, and resent their mothers as a perceived source of their castration. They spend increased amounts of time with their fathers and may flirt and practice adult sexual behaviors—without any actual sexual contact—with their fathers.

The complex is named for Electra, whose mother murdered her father according to Greek mythology. Electra retaliated by arranging to have her mother murdered.
 

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First of all, the thing Freud called penis envy isn't abnormal. As the castration anxiety in men, it talks about insecurities anyone experiences to some degree and should be treated in a way that lead to one's psychological maturity.
Plus, I'm a person who appreciates sexual fluidity and people in the middle of feminine-masculine spectrum. So I'm intrigued by the dreams you described anyway, whether they are weird or not (that seems to be the latter).
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Your dreams don't surprise me. I have had fantasies about being an older man in relationship with a young, beautiful guy- some guys I was attracted to, in fact; and them being submissive in bed (I don't go into details- and I have some dominant tendencies. Not to the point of BDSM as long as I discovered, but who knows what I am to find out in futur). I have a tendency to imagine how cool it would be if this guy I am attracted to (and they are typically thin, tall guys with fine features, beautiful faces and shy, sweet personalities) had a sturdy male partner who would "die" and "take a bullet" for him:angry:
I haven't had any relationship with females and don't know how I'll act if I enter one, but I definitely enjoy watching two good-looking guys make love- or even do romantic gestures such as cuddling and caressing. It also turns me on to hear some guy's fantasies about another guy. It excites me more than watching/hearing about the male-female interaction (maybe as it has grown too conventional overtime? because I tend to enjoy the more genuine, unconventional actions between opposite sexes more). Hearing a male what he would do with me if he was a lesbian girl (yes, I've had the chance of meeting these amazing boys) turns me on, too.
So I guess my penis envy is much more fatal than yours?:wink:
I will say that I definitely don't like how I feel some might portray me sexually because I'm a woman. I'll quote Dane Cook (as well as I can remember) who once referred to women as looking "lost" when they have sex; like it's something happening TO them as opposed to something they're involved in.
I had this problem. That's why I don't appreciate- or even hate- how women are portrayed in most part of art, literature and film industry: a voluptuous, unconscious, inactive body who is only lusted after and gives in. It is disgusting. That led to a hatred for my sexuality, especially as a more masculine, or better said, androgynous girl. Plus, I felt my masculine side repressed every now and then.
Having some experience with a guy with reverse tendencies- who preferred to be submissive and allowed myself to be like I am- healed me to a large extent. It returned my balance and made it possible to hug my feminine side again.
Now I am more in tune with myself, my tendencies and how I can satisfy my desires. I feel very good in my body, and appreciate my dominant side as much as my love for flowery dresses and necklaces.
 

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Anyone experience anything similar they want to share and/or just have some words of wisdom on what this could all mean? I don't expect it to be an obvious sign that I must be trans or something. But it might be worth noting that I have at least thought about being an attractive, submissive gay man before.
All that you wrote comes down to you having a fair amount of imagination, and a mind not tethered by societal-programming induced sexual suppression.
In other words, your mind doesn't suppress, or repress, the same fantasies that most minds have but suppress and repress.
 
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