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Hey guys, simple question this time.

I've been starting to take note of my emotions more lately, and something I realize is that my emotions and desires seem to shift fairly significantly throughout the month - at least, the ones without an impetus of any sort (I'm not talking about general anger/sadness/happiness at events in life). For example, some nights I will feel incredibly interested in getting to know people and making friends, and some nights I will feel very affectionate and cuddly towards people. However, the majority of the time I don't feel these things to such a great extent. I can't figure out what the cause of these emotions are, so my current guess is that they just come and go.. similar to motivation, but that's a different thread.

I use "night" here because that's the time of day I have to reflect on emotions and actually think about stuff. It's tough for me to entertain these thoughts and emotions during the day because I'm often busy and focused on school/work.

Anyway, I'm just curious if any other INTJs out there experience something similar and how they deal with it. For me, it's a bit frustrating because I'll really enjoy hanging out with a person one day and feel affectionate towards them, but the next day I will not feel motivated to be around them and it's pretty weird/awkward. It leads me not talking to people when I'm feeling intense emotions because I know they probably won't last and will disappoint the other person. That said, my current plan is to properly "set myself up" for these situations so that I can entertain these spouts of emotion and enjoy them... for example, I'll plan to go out more on the weekends and meet new people in case I get these feelings some night. Still, I'd really appreciate to hear other people's stories and anecdotes for perspective!
 

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It's probably just changes in your mood. Everyone gets them to some extent, even INTJs.

In my case, I would exhibit a similar pattern due to having ultra-rapid cycling bipolar disorder. One day, I'll be happy and energetic and feel like being social. The next, I'll just want to curl up in bed with a book and pretend the world doesn't exist.

Everyone experiences some of this, and it's nothing to worry about as long as you aren't bouncing around too much.
 

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Got it. I'm having trouble accepting that something as big as my mood could change without any sort of impetus (e.g. eating unhealthy, being insulted, doing bad on a test, spending too much time around people). I suppose this is pretty easily proven wrong by the fact that things like manic-depressive disorder exist.
 

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And everyone has unpredictable mood changes to some extent. Those who face dramatic shifts in their mood have an actual disorder. I can't tell you exactly what's driving your mood. You'll have to put some of your latent Fi powers to use and figure those things out for yourself. Many, many things can affect mood.
 
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