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I've been in a relationship with an ENFP for about eight or so years now (high school sweethearts) and the relationship has been consistently tainted by a recurring issue. My spouse is extremely overdependent on me in all practical aspects of the relationship and life in general. Needless to say, he claims he doesn't even know how to go about paying a bill if he needs to (probably because he has never tried). This unhealthy dynamic is becoming increasingly worse with time. It would be less insulting to me if I saw that he made a concerted effort to improve and help me (because I am quite overloaded with responsibility) but I don't see anything that indicates an even remote interest in improving.
His absentmindedness has lead to several legal issues and serious financial loss. For quite a while now I have considered separation but I honestly feel like this is my only stable relationship (my own emotional dependance). I'm just seeking general advice and/or insight because I feel like I'm at my wits end and have run out of patience and understanding. I'm tired of watching him enjoy his fun, happy, and carefree life while I pick up all of the slack. It almost feels as though his happiness is afforded by my struggles.
Thanks in advance to anyone who responds.
ETA: I just realized that I misspelled "codependent" in the thread title. My head is going to explode.
His absentmindedness has lead to several legal issues and serious financial loss. For quite a while now I have considered separation but I honestly feel like this is my only stable relationship (my own emotional dependance). I'm just seeking general advice and/or insight because I feel like I'm at my wits end and have run out of patience and understanding. I'm tired of watching him enjoy his fun, happy, and carefree life while I pick up all of the slack. It almost feels as though his happiness is afforded by my struggles.
Thanks in advance to anyone who responds.
ETA: I just realized that I misspelled "codependent" in the thread title. My head is going to explode.