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Hello Personalitycafe, today I'm coming out as asexual, woo! :laughing:

I'd been toying with it for a while, and was reasonably convinced I was for a while now, but the confusion between arousal, libido and attraction had held me back from an actual conclusion. That was until about half an hour ago when I found out that when someone is sexually attracted to someone (not just libido or arousal) they mentally want to have sex with them and imagine screwing them, I was not aware of this for 16 years, and it has now completely changed my view of the world. i couldn't actually believe it, so i had to cross-reference it to be sure, but apparently it's true. :th_woot:

So yeah, not sure why any of you would care particularly, but I'm feeling fulfilled, so I'm sharing it. That is all. :perc2:
 

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Wait. I'm confused. So being asexual you do or do not imagine screwing them? I think I'm demisexual which is in the asexual camp but, so .. Does that mean normal sexual people imagine screwing people they don't know at all ? o_O

have you stumbled upon an easy way to determine which camp you reside in ? :kitteh:
 
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I dont understand the concept of coming out whether its a-sexual, homosexual, bisexual, orange, green, purple.

I see no reason to deny who ones self is or make public statements about it. I remember once this chick I was seeing in high school who wanted me to escort her down homecoming (she was the princess that year) threw a fucking coming out party. I felt extremely uncomfortable with the production. I was never in denial or hiding anything about being bisexual. But why did there need to be statements about it. Why don't people just screw or not screw whoever the hell or not that they desire or don't desire (well upon consent of age appropriate citizens of course).
 

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I dont understand the concept of coming out whether its a-sexual, homosexual, bisexual, orange, green, purple.

I see no reason to deny who ones self is or make public statements about it. I remember once this chick I was seeing in high school who wanted me to escort her down homecoming (she was the princess that year) threw a fucking coming out party. I felt extremely uncomfortable with the production. I was never in denial or hiding anything about being bisexual. But why did there need to be statements about it. Why don't people just screw or not screw whoever the hell or not that they desire or don't desire (well upon consent of age appropriate citizens of course).
Think of all the times that someone assumed you were straight and hopefully you'll realize coming out could potentially stop that? Honestly, this is just my reasoning for coming out, but I came out because I was horribly tired of being labeled as straight, as well as the fact that it was irritating that my family thought that every female friend I had was dating me. That's equally, if not more, insulting to the poor girl I would be friends with. I mean, they don't deserve that, and nobody deserves being labeled as something they're not.
TL;DR crush heteronormativity by coming out ya' dig?

Also congratulations on coming out :)! Hope you find someone really nice soon :).
 

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Wait. I'm confused. So being asexual you do or do not imagine screwing them? I think I'm demisexual which is in the asexual camp but, so .. Does that mean normal sexual people imagine screwing people they don't know at all ? o_O

have you stumbled upon an easy way to determine which camp you reside in ? :kitteh:
As a pansexual inner slut who's bad at being a pansexual outer slut, this is pretty much me.

Locker rooms are very awkward situations for me.
 

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Well I can understand your reasoning you listed on everything.

Lol hey I did not and have not ever come out, nor denied anything. Lol
I understand that too, you would think me being Fi dom would force me to be more like you but it seems not o;!
 

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CLOSET: “In American usage, the architectural space designated in the primary meaning is typically small and confined, essentially an alcove secured by a door for the storage of clothing. Older English usage treats a closet as any private room or chamber. Through a combination of all these meanings, the verb “to closet oneself” came to merge the idea of privacy and remoteness, on the one hand, with narrow confinement, on the other. For the element of secrecy occasioned by the suspect character of what is being hidden, compare the proverbial expression: a skeleton in the closet.

For a variety of reasons – which may not even be clearly known to themselves – a vast number of homosexuals and lesbians in our society can and do remain “in the closet.” This is so despite frequent and fervent exhortations on the part of the leadership of the gay/lesbian movement to “come out.” Their reluctance makes it hard to organize gay men and lesbians politically, to estimate their true numbers, and to collect valid samples for social science research.”(Wayne R. Dynes, Encyclopedia of Homosexuality)


California Proposition 6 was an initiative on the California State ballot on November 7, 1978, and was more commonly known as The Briggs Initiative. Sponsored by John Briggs, a conservative state legislator from Orange County, the failed initiative would have banned gays and lesbians, and possibly anyone who supported gay rights, from working in California's public schools. The Briggs Initiative was the first failure in a movement that started with the successful campaign headed by Anita Bryant and her organization Save Our Children in Dade County, Florida, to repeal a local gay rights ordinance.”


"Openly gay San Francisco politician Harvey Milk was instrumental in fighting the measure, and opposition to the proposition from a variety of public figures from California Governor Ronald Reagan to President Jimmy Carter helped to defeat it. Public opinion swung fairly quickly from general support of Proposition 6 to what became overwhelming opposition."

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Briggs_Initiative


https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harvey_Milk
 
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