Hey Gentlemen, so I really need your help. I really want to confess to a special male INTJ that I like him on Valentine's Day next week. I want to hear your input, and whether or not you think it's worthwhile.
So I think this shy INTJ likes me but I'm not really sure, let's call him A. Anyway, A, out of nowhere a few weeks ago when my back was turned to him in a busy room just started talking to me from across the room, asking me if I had a full year lease, as if I had already been in a conversation with him. I finally turned around after a long pause, after no one answered his question, because I realized he had been talking to me. When I said, "No." he steered the conversation in the direction of getting me to move to this apartment complex that he and a bunch of people in our community are moving to. I feel like the fact that he randomly cares where I'm going to live next year means that he wants to see my face again, so that's a good sign.
I feel like that's the biggest piece of evidence that he might like me. But I read that you INTJs really cover up your signals, so it's hard to tell. I want to plan this fantasy masquerade party for my community so at a game night last Friday, I handed him a letter with all the reasons why I thought he'd work well with me on it as my Vice President of Party (i.e. he's logical, can tear a bad idea to shreds, is honest, into fantasy books, detail-oriented since he's an engineer, whereas I'm spacey and oblivious, etc.) At first he was like, "Why me?" But he didn't say no. In fact, I stayed for a few minutes more at the game night, and while I did, he hovered a little bit, and picked on me when I played a crappy game of chess against this other guy (so A was watching my game).
On Sunday, our friends were hanging out together all day, but whenever I was near him, I noticed he purposely DID NOT LOOK AT ME. And at a Super Bowl Party that evening, I approached him and a group of guys in the kitchen, and he stared directly into space when I asked him a direct question, so he answered the question but couldn't look at me. I thought I caught him passing glances at me that night, but that could have been him scanning the room (I could be wrong, since he has this weird ability where he notices where everybody is like ALL the time, he's really weird and perceptive like that... So he could have just been glancing around the room, and maybe I was interpreting it as him looking at me because I'm just so clueless that that ability strikes awe inside of me)
I think he might like me, but he's even told me that he's scared of girls (i.e. they make him nervous), really insecure, and has struggled with self-confidence and socially awkwardness.
I feel like it's obvious that I need to make the first move if I want anything to ever happen, even though this goes against what I was taught (conservative background, women pursued by men). I naturally tease every guy friend around me, so I'm sure he might just feel like my signals are the signals I give to everyone (when in fact, I only get nervous inside when I look at him).
ANYWAYS.
So, I wrote a really long list that I want to put in his mailbox (we're neighbors) on the 14th.
That list is entitled "100 Reasons Why I Like You" and it proceeds to spell out all the things I find attractive, funny, or memorable about him. I've only known him a little better than acquaintance level for about a month. Our community that I keep referring to is a very conservative community, but I've heard some girls differ on the issue of confessing feelings to men.
But I want to throw this question at you gentlemen.
Would you like it if the girl that you knew was your natural opposite on the Myers Briggs Personality test left a huge fat envelope stuffed with reasons why she liked you in your mailbox on Valentine's day?
I feel like confessing it to his face would just destroy me inside, like I'd freeze up and choke. And he'd probably get really nervous too. So I feel like a letter confession where he can just sit down, read it, and let it sink in would be best for both of us.
But is 100 reasons too much? I feel like it would be very nice to receive that as a valentine anyway with that many compliments inside, especially since one of my friends told me, "He probably thinks nobody would ever like him." I'd like that if someone did that for me. But I don't want to smother him or make him uninterested!
PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR INPUT, I'M SO NERVOUS ABOUT THIS AND WHETHER IT'S RIGHT OR NOT THAT I CANNOT STUDY
This is would be a very bold move, even for someone as outgoing as me. But I can't help myself, I love you introverts, you're so mysterious and intelligent!
Edit: I forgot to mention That he said once that he would mind a relationship with his natural opposite.
So I think this shy INTJ likes me but I'm not really sure, let's call him A. Anyway, A, out of nowhere a few weeks ago when my back was turned to him in a busy room just started talking to me from across the room, asking me if I had a full year lease, as if I had already been in a conversation with him. I finally turned around after a long pause, after no one answered his question, because I realized he had been talking to me. When I said, "No." he steered the conversation in the direction of getting me to move to this apartment complex that he and a bunch of people in our community are moving to. I feel like the fact that he randomly cares where I'm going to live next year means that he wants to see my face again, so that's a good sign.
I feel like that's the biggest piece of evidence that he might like me. But I read that you INTJs really cover up your signals, so it's hard to tell. I want to plan this fantasy masquerade party for my community so at a game night last Friday, I handed him a letter with all the reasons why I thought he'd work well with me on it as my Vice President of Party (i.e. he's logical, can tear a bad idea to shreds, is honest, into fantasy books, detail-oriented since he's an engineer, whereas I'm spacey and oblivious, etc.) At first he was like, "Why me?" But he didn't say no. In fact, I stayed for a few minutes more at the game night, and while I did, he hovered a little bit, and picked on me when I played a crappy game of chess against this other guy (so A was watching my game).
On Sunday, our friends were hanging out together all day, but whenever I was near him, I noticed he purposely DID NOT LOOK AT ME. And at a Super Bowl Party that evening, I approached him and a group of guys in the kitchen, and he stared directly into space when I asked him a direct question, so he answered the question but couldn't look at me. I thought I caught him passing glances at me that night, but that could have been him scanning the room (I could be wrong, since he has this weird ability where he notices where everybody is like ALL the time, he's really weird and perceptive like that... So he could have just been glancing around the room, and maybe I was interpreting it as him looking at me because I'm just so clueless that that ability strikes awe inside of me)
I think he might like me, but he's even told me that he's scared of girls (i.e. they make him nervous), really insecure, and has struggled with self-confidence and socially awkwardness.
I feel like it's obvious that I need to make the first move if I want anything to ever happen, even though this goes against what I was taught (conservative background, women pursued by men). I naturally tease every guy friend around me, so I'm sure he might just feel like my signals are the signals I give to everyone (when in fact, I only get nervous inside when I look at him).
ANYWAYS.
So, I wrote a really long list that I want to put in his mailbox (we're neighbors) on the 14th.
That list is entitled "100 Reasons Why I Like You" and it proceeds to spell out all the things I find attractive, funny, or memorable about him. I've only known him a little better than acquaintance level for about a month. Our community that I keep referring to is a very conservative community, but I've heard some girls differ on the issue of confessing feelings to men.
But I want to throw this question at you gentlemen.
Would you like it if the girl that you knew was your natural opposite on the Myers Briggs Personality test left a huge fat envelope stuffed with reasons why she liked you in your mailbox on Valentine's day?
I feel like confessing it to his face would just destroy me inside, like I'd freeze up and choke. And he'd probably get really nervous too. So I feel like a letter confession where he can just sit down, read it, and let it sink in would be best for both of us.
But is 100 reasons too much? I feel like it would be very nice to receive that as a valentine anyway with that many compliments inside, especially since one of my friends told me, "He probably thinks nobody would ever like him." I'd like that if someone did that for me. But I don't want to smother him or make him uninterested!
PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR INPUT, I'M SO NERVOUS ABOUT THIS AND WHETHER IT'S RIGHT OR NOT THAT I CANNOT STUDY
This is would be a very bold move, even for someone as outgoing as me. But I can't help myself, I love you introverts, you're so mysterious and intelligent!
Edit: I forgot to mention That he said once that he would mind a relationship with his natural opposite.