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I've been having this debate with myself.
I want to be viewed as a humble man. How do I do this? I ask for feedback from others, I ask what I'm doing wrong, and I try to be modest about my accomplishments. But people keep telling me I "lack confidence." What the hell? So, because I'm trying to act humble, I look like I lack confidence.
So I start acting confident, then people tell me I'm arrogant.
So, I'm starting to believe confidence and arrogance are the same exact thing, but different opinions:
-Arrogance is when someone is jealous of your abilities
-Confidence is when someone admires your abilities
Currently I'm going along with the belief that I just keep my mouth shut, know what I can do, keep the smirk on my face that says "I'm better than you in this area" but don't outwardly brag about myself. Yet the smirk still pisses people off, (though I'm starting to think its just people who are jealous or threatened by my abilities that wish to bring me down to their level of suck). What are your thoughts?
Am I making myself clear? Does anyone see the dilemma I'm having here? How do I be confident and humble at the same time without appearing arrogant?
I want to be viewed as a humble man. How do I do this? I ask for feedback from others, I ask what I'm doing wrong, and I try to be modest about my accomplishments. But people keep telling me I "lack confidence." What the hell? So, because I'm trying to act humble, I look like I lack confidence.
So I start acting confident, then people tell me I'm arrogant.
So, I'm starting to believe confidence and arrogance are the same exact thing, but different opinions:
-Arrogance is when someone is jealous of your abilities
-Confidence is when someone admires your abilities
Currently I'm going along with the belief that I just keep my mouth shut, know what I can do, keep the smirk on my face that says "I'm better than you in this area" but don't outwardly brag about myself. Yet the smirk still pisses people off, (though I'm starting to think its just people who are jealous or threatened by my abilities that wish to bring me down to their level of suck). What are your thoughts?
Am I making myself clear? Does anyone see the dilemma I'm having here? How do I be confident and humble at the same time without appearing arrogant?