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Hi everyone! I've done typing stuff before but I can never figure out my mbti type. I'm a high I with D and S in DISC so I'm full of contradictions. MBTI is the one that confuses me the most - definitions seem so hazy all the time.

I've done a typing thread by @Herp . Here it is. Thanks in advance yall!

1) What aspect of your personality made you unsure of your type?
-- I've very changeable, sometimes I feel one way and sometimes another. Sometimes I'll crave socialising and sometimes crave alone time. Sometimes I'll be impatient, forthright and direct and sometimes I'll be shy. Sometimes I'm quite concrete, but at other times I'll take wild flights of fancy and enjoy entertaining ridiculous theories. Sometimes I really get into a good debate and at other times I can't be assed.

-- I tend to get four different results on various tests: ESFJ, ESTP, ESFP and ENFP

--I have a history of emotional abuse and trauma so I find it hard to differentiate that from my actual personality - e.g. I'm an extravert, it's just that I get social anxiety.


2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?
-- Connection, because I feel lonely a lot
--Truth, because I want to know what not only the world but myself is really like and to be honest with myself.
--Integrity, because I want to have good boundaries and only do things that I really want to do, not because I feel obligated or guilted into it.


3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.
When I'm performing in front of people or when I'm totally present, engaged talking to someone, asking them good questions to find out more about them and also talking about myself - not dominating and not making them do all the talking either. What makes me feel at my finest is I'm engaged, I'm present, and I'm really connected with someone else, or the world (probably the other thing is when I'm being physically active, and then it's the same thing - connected with my body, with the world, engaged, fully alive). Even better when I've organised something with a bunch of friends, brought them all together and we're all experiencing the world, together, engaged together.

4) What makes you feel inferior?
--When I feel incompetent or like my efforts aren't appreciated, or when I feel like what I'm doing is making no real difference in my immediate situation.
--Feeling intellectually stupid like when all my friends are doing some intellectual task quicker than me and it takes me ages.

5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)
--Depends what type of decision. Recent life type decisions have been based on what makes the most sense in a whole-life way; financially but also in terms of interpersonal/intrapersonal stress. I think about all the different factors involved and ultimately come to a decision that is the one I think is the most sensible/smartest over all. But usually I don't make a decision of that sort until I have to because I've become so stressed that there's only one viable option left.

6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?
--I don't care if I have control of the outcome or not, as long as it's all or nothing. I don't like to be given some responsibility but then get second guessed about every decision I make. I'm happy for someone else to be in charge, but I then want them to have the final decision making power, because it's their project. If they try to foist that responsibility on to me without giving me adequate freedom in my decision making, I put that to rest pretty fast.

7) Describe us a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?
--Sunshine, physical activity, lots of friends and laughter.

8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you? (Are you more prone to be hands on, to theorize, to memorize, etc)
--Hands on, and I also need to talk about it with others. If it's theoretical I make physical models or drawings to understand. Failing that I write things down to help me remember them.

9) How organized do you to think of yourself as?
--Not really at all although I'm getting a bit better. I don't enjoy being organised and making lists and plans unlike my partner, who loves it.

10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?
--When someone tells me a new theory or idea, I usually say "oooh that's interesting - how do they know that? How did they find it out? What experiment did they do?"

11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?
--I think I typically have always tried to make harmony by smoothing over differences and making sure everyone is included.

12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?
--I like being part of groups. One on one meetings usually end up being a bit stressful for me although that could be because of social anxiety. I often end up in one on one convos at parties but I don't like to be out of the action for too long, and I get distracted by other people. So overall I definitely prefer groups.

13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?
--Action definitely speaks louder than words. Sometimes I will ruminate for ages before I do something and sometimes I will act really fast. It really depends. Probably at work I'm more proactive and in my home life I'm more laid back but it really depends.

14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favorite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?
-- go out, I can watch the show later, unless I've been socialled out for the weekend already. It also depends what they want to do and whether I feel like that particular thing or not.

15) How do you act when you're stressed out?
--I get very worried about whether people like me or not
--I get defensive
--I get impatient and crabby at people who are being slow to respond.

16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?
--Mostly I like people
--People I really dislike are people who cross my boundaries, like guys who sexually harass me or others
--Also don't like personalities that are too overbearing, like people who will answer for you or try to make you do things you don't necessarily want to do.


17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?
--Science
--Spirituality/theology
--Stupid stuff like puns
--Things that are happening in our lives and how we feel about them

18) What kind of things do pay the least attention to in your life
--bills
--household chores
--planning ahead

19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?
--my friends tend to think I am very cool and confident when really I'm not that confident, but I come across that way.
--they also say I come across as very warm and that I put people at their ease, which is true, but I can do that without really trying - in fact, people usually think I'm paying more attention to them that I really am.
--people call me "cute" sometimes

20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?
--Go hiking, walking, cycling or kayaking
--go check out a local coffee shop
--go out to dinner or drinks with friends
--gardening
--I would want to intersperse these things with being at home for some of the time as well or I get a bit exhausted.
--If I have a bit of energy I might do some cleaning
 

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ESFP.

You're extraverted, your observations are oriented around tangible things in your life, you ruminate on how valuated you feel by things, and you have a live-and-let-live approach towards life.
 

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I think that you are an ESFP. I would definitely say that you use Pe/Fi, so you are probably an ExFP. You may be an ENFP, so I would like to figure that out a bit more.

So then, some questions:

How future-oriented are you?
Are you able to be aware and in the present?
How past-oriented are you?
How good is your memory?

These will be a good starting place I think.
 

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I think that you are an ESFP. I would definitely say that you use Pe/Fi, so you are probably an ExFP. You may be an ENFP, so I would like to figure that out a bit more.

So then, some questions:

How future-oriented are you?
Are you able to be aware and in the present?
How past-oriented are you?
How good is your memory?

These will be a good starting place I think.
I'm not super future oriented. If I'm stressed I might worry about the immediate future, but I'm generally bad at planning. I'm not one of those people who makes five year plans or anything.

Can I be aware and in the present - Yes, mostly. Again unless I'm anxious or stressed. But I'll generally enjoy looking around and noticing things like say when we're out on a walk, I'm normally the one going "look at those, look at that".

How past-oriented am I? A bit I'd say but again not really a lot. I prefer not to dwell on the past but sometimes I think about it. I'd say when I'm mentally healthy I'm very present oriented. I do have that thing where I'll connect something to something else it reminds me of, or notice actors in films and things I've seen before.

My memory is OK. If I write down a list I usually remember it all anyway so I don't need the list any more. But my long term memory is shit. It's my working memory that's a bit better.

I don't know if that really answered the questions. I can ramble more maybe :p
 

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I'm not super future oriented. If I'm stressed I might worry about the immediate future, but I'm generally bad at planning. I'm not one of those people who makes five year plans or anything.

Can I be aware and in the present - Yes, mostly. Again unless I'm anxious or stressed. But I'll generally enjoy looking around and noticing things like say when we're out on a walk, I'm normally the one going "look at those, look at that".

How past-oriented am I? A bit I'd say but again not really a lot. I prefer not to dwell on the past but sometimes I think about it. I'd say when I'm mentally healthy I'm very present oriented. I do have that thing where I'll connect something to something else it reminds me of, or notice actors in films and things I've seen before.

My memory is OK. If I write down a list I usually remember it all anyway so I don't need the list any more. But my long term memory is shit. It's my working memory that's a bit better.

I don't know if that really answered the questions. I can ramble more maybe :p
None of this indicates ENFP in particular. I'm going with ESFP.
 
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