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I am currently in a "relationship" with an INFP and I must say it is insanely frustrating. I'll admit type probably has something to do with it, but I genuinely am always like this when I am in relationships. I find it much easier to be single and focus on things I love or have flings than to dedicate time to one person who cannot live up to expectations and constantly says I "want too much" from them. Still, I do not wish to just give up on this yet. I really like them.
There are multiple problems though, I wonder if other ENTPs share these problems in relationships? If anyone has any advice (from any type). Input etc. I just need to talk and my INFP doesn't really seem to like having stimulating conversations.
Cue one obvious problem.
My big thing is control. Feeling like I have none. That is how I feel in this "relationship." It's very difficult for me to keep my mouth shut and not hurt them, as with most people, with my opinions. Even though to me they are just thoughts or concerns and I don't feel them. A big thing is they live with their ex and when around them they don't want to have sex. This makes me feel second best. Bruises my ego. And makes me really pissed off -- frankly. Then my pride is hurt and I don't want to have sex anywhere but right next to their ex to spite them. Thus we are at an impasse. I can't understand their feelings and why they would care what their ex thinks if they are with me now. Not to mention, when I try and talk about it they go away for days and leave me to stew in my thoughts because they refuse to have a FUCKING CONVERSATION.
Another problem we have is the fact that we have literally zero things in common. From literature to television to personal views. Because I have no political or emotional views and don't care about kids starving in Africa and they want to save everyone on the face of the planet. I'm far more...selfish.
Even as I typed this I already know the answer to the question. This is a failed relationship waiting to happen. It just sucks
There are multiple problems though, I wonder if other ENTPs share these problems in relationships? If anyone has any advice (from any type). Input etc. I just need to talk and my INFP doesn't really seem to like having stimulating conversations.
Cue one obvious problem.
My big thing is control. Feeling like I have none. That is how I feel in this "relationship." It's very difficult for me to keep my mouth shut and not hurt them, as with most people, with my opinions. Even though to me they are just thoughts or concerns and I don't feel them. A big thing is they live with their ex and when around them they don't want to have sex. This makes me feel second best. Bruises my ego. And makes me really pissed off -- frankly. Then my pride is hurt and I don't want to have sex anywhere but right next to their ex to spite them. Thus we are at an impasse. I can't understand their feelings and why they would care what their ex thinks if they are with me now. Not to mention, when I try and talk about it they go away for days and leave me to stew in my thoughts because they refuse to have a FUCKING CONVERSATION.
Another problem we have is the fact that we have literally zero things in common. From literature to television to personal views. Because I have no political or emotional views and don't care about kids starving in Africa and they want to save everyone on the face of the planet. I'm far more...selfish.
Even as I typed this I already know the answer to the question. This is a failed relationship waiting to happen. It just sucks