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This is just something that has been rolling around in the back of my head.
So according to type development we are supposed to lean towards Fe over Ti.
Sometimes when I am in a conversation, especially with dom Fi users, we get really excited and start talking animatedly and are agreeing with each other, and then I sit and think about it for about 60 seconds, and I'm like... wait, we aren't even talking about the same thing at all.
It seems important to point this out, but it would be nice to do so without seeming to reject the other person.
Also, "fake" relationships are annoying. I have had friends where I have hidden, or rather minimized what have turned out to be integral parts of myself, and it's definitely not as stable as a relationship where one is completely genuine. If such a thing is possible. I wonder if it is an fundamental problem of Fe that you are always responding to what the other person is putting out there, so you will emphasize the aspects that you share with the other person, and be less likely to show the ones that you do not share.
All this makes me wonder if I should really curb back on the bluntness, like, maybe it has no place in most conversations. Or maybe just paired with some positive feedback so that the other person doesn't feel that I am saying these things because I dislike them or I disrespect them. Seems like so much work though. It's such a shame that people take disagreement so hard... it's never a condemnation of who they are as a person... although possibly I am making it sound that way!!
Thoughts?
So according to type development we are supposed to lean towards Fe over Ti.
Sometimes when I am in a conversation, especially with dom Fi users, we get really excited and start talking animatedly and are agreeing with each other, and then I sit and think about it for about 60 seconds, and I'm like... wait, we aren't even talking about the same thing at all.
It seems important to point this out, but it would be nice to do so without seeming to reject the other person.
Also, "fake" relationships are annoying. I have had friends where I have hidden, or rather minimized what have turned out to be integral parts of myself, and it's definitely not as stable as a relationship where one is completely genuine. If such a thing is possible. I wonder if it is an fundamental problem of Fe that you are always responding to what the other person is putting out there, so you will emphasize the aspects that you share with the other person, and be less likely to show the ones that you do not share.
All this makes me wonder if I should really curb back on the bluntness, like, maybe it has no place in most conversations. Or maybe just paired with some positive feedback so that the other person doesn't feel that I am saying these things because I dislike them or I disrespect them. Seems like so much work though. It's such a shame that people take disagreement so hard... it's never a condemnation of who they are as a person... although possibly I am making it sound that way!!
Thoughts?