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Yeah, I know it really hurts... I'm going through the biggest regret. I really was (still am) in love with a guy. But I met him when I was only 13. So we were both immature and he would make fun of me a lot because he was a kid and he had issues and he didn't know he was hurting my feelings, and peers told me to forget him cause he hurt my feelings. I listened to them cause I thought he did not like me anyways and at 16 I decided someone else would become my boyfriend. Looking back he was just a friend. Well, turns out the boy I loved actually loved me back and was going to tell me. Now, at 19 after having gone through the worst moments of my life and having gone through an illness I realize that thinking of him was the biggest cure for me and I am still in love with him. Boy, do I regret having listened to the "mainstream way of thinking" I could have lived a beautiful love story in an age in which everything seems magical. I will never have those moments again, not a love like that one for I will not be 14/15 again and I feel like life just doesn't enchant me as much as it did in those early teen and pre-teen years anymore
All because I thought it made sense -he couldn't be with me because he hurt my feelings. Well, loving him was the best thing for my happiness and we could have just sorted it out.
 

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Hi guys! :proud:

INFP here - I met this ENFP girl about 6 months ago and fell for her quite hard. She's absolutely amazing: she's confident, artistic, open-minded - your typical ENFP, and I love that! We went on a few dates and I had a great time and it seemed like she did as well.

But here's where things get a bit weird: she said she can't see me for a while because she has a lot of stress at the moment, but that it wouldn't change "the way she feels about me". I understood what she was going through and told her to let me know when things settle down a bit.
ENFPs do like directness, and if you ask and she turns you down she'll probably be pretty nice about it. Not saying she will, but you'll at least get your answer. I would not recommend you move on without asking her though - would you really feel good having not asked for the next little bit? Don't live with regrets.

I know asking is tough but it's kind of just something you have to do.
 

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Yeah, I know it really hurts... I'm going through the biggest regret. I really was (still am) in love with a guy. But I met him when I was only 13. So we were both immature and he would make fun of me a lot because he was a kid and he had issues and he didn't know he was hurting my feelings, and peers told me to forget him cause he hurt my feelings. I listened to them cause I thought he did not like me anyways and at 16 I decided someone else would become my boyfriend. Looking back he was just a friend. Well, turns out the boy I loved actually loved me back and was going to tell me. Now, at 19 after having gone through the worst moments of my life and having gone through an illness I realize that thinking of him was the biggest cure for me and I am still in love with him. Boy, do I regret having listened to the "mainstream way of thinking" I could have lived a beautiful love story in an age in which everything seems magical. I will never have those moments again, not a love like that one for I will not be 14/15 again and I feel like life just doesn't enchant me as much as it did in those early teen and pre-teen years anymore
All because I thought it made sense -he couldn't be with me because he hurt my feelings. Well, loving him was the best thing for my happiness and we could have just sorted it out.
Well, true. You can't have those years with him and you will never have those years back to do over, but that doesn't mean you won't have many more years to come. Your story is quite fitting with this thread. Why don't you try to sort it out with the boy you met at 13?
 

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What happened to the OP? lol. Well, hopefully he's out there doing rather than talking, I guess.
 

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Could it be difference of genders not difference of INFP/ENFP? I never needed time to commit when I felt I match with someone. For example: even skipped one good "opportunity" before I had first date with my current SO after we first met - once, one girl who looked like she's came from front page of model's magazine started to talk to me and was definitely interested in me but it felt wrong and I didn't want to mess chances with my soon-to-be SO although we didn't have any commitment yet that time and I could have been used that chance for my own "profit". Also which woman doesn't want to be pursued by their husband and vice versa :)
Hmm. Could be genders, true.
You did the right thing, there.
 

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