Hmm.. I agree with both. MBTI and those confrontations arrived more or less at the same point in my life, but I think it's safe to say that: If I would get confronted without knowing about MBTI, I'd probably react differently... Knowing about MBTI, helped me to discover blind spots in myself, helped me to understand my weaker areas... And hence helped me to work on those.LOL. No. Realizing you are INTP has nothing to do with it. It's all about accepting that you do not need to be perfectly understood to open self.
It's either others asking questions about our emotions that forces us to analyse it or expect some kind of action based on emotion. Using emotions as motor for action (while mind steers it anyway for us) is quite natural for us without even thinking about it. It's about openness to others with and not being sure how.
Where as, if I would be confronted before knowing about all these.. I'd probably be less capable off making sense of it all...If that makes any sense