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It's pretty well accepted that INFPs crush hard! It makes sense -- we idealize, we feel deeply, we envision the future.
Today i'm thinking about how this tendency toward emotional entanglement isn't always healthy. To an extent it's OK, but when we grant one person such control over our sense of well-being, without an underlying commitment, we're really not exercising good emotional boundaries.
But disengagement is tough. Disengagement when there's still potential for things to work out with another person, when it's too early to give up, when thinking about a future with them is oh, so tempting, well... it feels damn near impossible. But it's still an important skill to learn.
We can learn emotional and mental self-discipline. We're not going to learn it all at once, but we can work on it. When we catch ourselves going down that road, we can snap a rubber band on our wrist or just start staring and thinking deeply about whatever we literally see right in front of our face. If we must indulge in futuristic emotional thinking, we can time-box it and push it off in the future. "Tomorrow i will let myself process my emotions toward her for 15 minutes. That's all."
Thoughts?
Today i'm thinking about how this tendency toward emotional entanglement isn't always healthy. To an extent it's OK, but when we grant one person such control over our sense of well-being, without an underlying commitment, we're really not exercising good emotional boundaries.
But disengagement is tough. Disengagement when there's still potential for things to work out with another person, when it's too early to give up, when thinking about a future with them is oh, so tempting, well... it feels damn near impossible. But it's still an important skill to learn.
We can learn emotional and mental self-discipline. We're not going to learn it all at once, but we can work on it. When we catch ourselves going down that road, we can snap a rubber band on our wrist or just start staring and thinking deeply about whatever we literally see right in front of our face. If we must indulge in futuristic emotional thinking, we can time-box it and push it off in the future. "Tomorrow i will let myself process my emotions toward her for 15 minutes. That's all."
Thoughts?