It must be nice to imagine that you have magical control over predators just by putting on an extra layer of clothing...wow that t-shirt is like a chastity belt? See that? One minute I was about to be raped, because I had a v-neck on, but the scarf?! Magic! No rapists will ever know I'm a girl now!Women aren't wired either to be incapable of taking responsibility for their actions. Dressing a certain way is an action, whether you like it or not. You have to take responsibility in how your present yourself, and in how people perceive you as a result of you presenting yourself a certain way. Women aren't exempt of that responsibility.
Agree with the first part, half agree with the second one. There is a responsibility in how one presents themselves. This is not a debate, this is not up for discussion.
However, generally, people have their wallet hidden from sight. Men who flaunt their money inevitably end up attracting gold-diggers, the same way that women who flaunt their bodies, end up attracting the least refined men. Some of them don't complain about it, others get played over and over while avoiding taking responsibility in regards to how they present themselves, shifting the blame entirely on the person who was attracted to that.
Saying people are wired like that does not excuse their actions, but for the love of all that is holy, stop saying that presenting oneself in a certain way never leads, or should never lead, to certain outcomes. That is just a childish, and spoilt way of viewing the world. The world doesn't work like that. Never has, never will.
Because we talk about how women dress here, but here, have an example of the reverse : PJ Washington (NBA player) got recently played by an IG thot (there's really no other way to describe her). They were married, the idiot went in raw, knocked the thot up, and she divorced him for $200k/mo compensation, can't remember if that's full child support or if there's some alimony included in there. And that's after she had made a video about how much of a thot she was. So, she, is an entire thot and a half, but HE, he's a first class idiot and deserves what happened to him. He is responsible for that, at least for half of it. Because he's doing it again, he's already with another IG thot. It's probably gonna get played again, and it's gonna be even more deserved, why ? Because he's fishing in the same pool. If he really didn't want to be played like that he would fish elsewhere. He wouldn't lead with money or status. Except that's convenient for him you see. Just doing his job brings women right to his doorstep, in a line, but possibly catfighting to get first in line, who knows, so why wouldn't he take advantage of that, right ?
Same here with women who dress a certain way.
So, should the IG thot be entirely responsible for that situation with PJ Washington, and him not at all ? Or does he, at any point, have any ounce of responsibility in it ? Because that's what you're arguing here. She's being unethical, she's profiting, and she did the act of divorcing him after having a kid from him.
The answer is they are both responsible. Arguably him more than her. And to be extremely clear because I see the line coming from someone : this is not victim blaming. This is not what it is. Either way.
See, now the situation is reversed, and I'm pretty sure everyone would be extremely quick and happy to assign some, if not most, responsibility to him, possibly to excuse her behavior as "well he let her do it, she just did what she had to do to get the bag". Suddenly when the women are at that end of the stick, it's entirely men's fault, and not at all women's. I don't buy it. I can gladly accept that some men acting the way they do is unacceptable and that it shouldn't be done, but I cannot feel sorry for women who end up in those situations. And the same goes for the situation in reverse.
I'm not arguing for any ban either, just, if you do A, expect B. If you know men are thirsty, and you dress skankily because you "feel like it", then expect men to thirst after you. That's not rocket science. If you know women are attracted by money and status, and you flaunt your money and status, then expect women to try and play you. Still not rocket science.
If you (not you personally, but maybe, I don't know you) can't accept that as men we are wired to like what we see, and also to take initiative or else we don't even get to reproduce, then that is not a men's problem. That is a you problem. You know that fact, you just choose to ignore it because you don't like it and you think you should be able to wear what you want, and then what was going to happen, finally happens, and you're somehow… surprised ? Nope, no compassion for you. The same way the vast majority of women don't care about that PJ Washington situation.
The world is unfair, life is unfair, we all just do with what we have, but we have to take responsibility for what we do. And dressing any way or another is an action that we all choose to do. That men also do, and take responsibility for it.
Because...you see...men can't tell women have breasts unless women go topless! It's like magic. The knowledge of human anatomy completely disappears as soon as you put a scarf on!
And the same thing works for "thots" and gold diggers--women can't possibly suss up if a man's wealthy by any other sign then...um...apparently being on IG? Because that's how the NBA player got "caught" by the "thot"? I'm a little unclear on how that is connected.
But yeah, it's simple men--if you don't want to be exploited by con artists or gold diggers, just put your wallet deeper in your pocket! So no one sees! Then they can't possibly figure out if you're wealthy.
Seriously--you don't know anything about avoiding sexual assault as a woman. Predators aren't idiots, and I'm sure they really like that people to justify their behavior with "oh...she wore that...of course it's going to happen...welp her fault anyway b/c men are WIRED that way."
I always advise girls and women to carry self-defense weapons, not because I believe they are "partly responsible" for something that could "inevitably happen" if they don't. You can suggest advice without actually victim blaming or playing in to the hands of exploitative people who don't want to be blamed for their crimes.
But comparing some NBA player chatting up and marrying, and having a kid with a "thot" from IG to being sexually assaulted "because" your skirt is too short is a bit of a stretch to me.
I do think that it's important to try to repel people who are exploitative, and yes--people will justify certain behaviors based on appearance. If a woman's wearing a short skirt people will say "well dur ya know...men are just brainless sea sponges like me burp" and so it does sometimes allow for these things to happen more easily since it offers predators less obstacles, compared to an environment in which people say "men have brains and can decide not to rape, therefore we will hold rapists accountable for their behavior no matter if they try to blame someone's clothing for it." Fortunately the world is changing more towards the latter.