dude, they dont not like you because youre too available. some guys are judges mostly on attractiveness and some want a girl who is kind and understands life but if a girl aggressively shows interest that doesnt make me go, oh shes too available. It makes me think oh this girl isnt an immature complicated type improves chances, playing hard to get is so overrated just do whatever the fuck you want, be yourself, be confident in yourself. If a guy doesnt like you back then you guys wouldnt have a good connection in the future, if he is the type to look for someone who has the same mind set and interests and you match that criteria and you are yourself then you win
dating advice for a silly girl :)
Hello!
I feel a little weird talking about this, because i feel i'm a little too old (23) to be asking this kind of questions, but this subject is really important to me right now. So, my question is: should i friend request this guys to whom i have talked in real life a couple of time?
I know him from university, we're in the same year, we're in separate groups, and a group has aprox. 80 students, so we didn't "cross each other's path" until our teachers decided to randomly create groups of two students, and he and i got to work on the same thing. The project didn't take long, and after that, each of us went back to their business. But... a little after that, like a week, he texted me on my phone to ask something totally neutral, like how did the teachers appreciate my colleagues' work and other stuff like that. I replied, but didn't reciprocate the question, simply because it didn't cross my mind. :blushed: Oh, and while working on the project, he told me that i seem too formal, because of my use of language (could be...)
And a few weeks later, after i had an exam, he asked me about how difficult it was (he was going to have the same exam), how did i do etc. and wished me happy holidays, because it was the last exam. And silly me, i chose not to respond to the kind wishes, for fear of not seeming too available
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But i realized this boy is cute and i like him, and now i'm thinking of adding him on facebook.
I know it looks like i'm overthinking it, but i really don't know what to do, especially because the in last two relationships i was the one making the first move and being too available, and they didn't work out, so now my principle is "less is more". Until meeting him, i wasn't even seeking to be in a relationship. But on the other hand, if this was a chance of getting closer to him, should i do it? Should i add him on facebook, despite being impolite and not replying to his last message? :laughing: School is over now, so i can't meet him anymore...
I feel a little weird talking about this, because i feel i'm a little too old (23) to be asking this kind of questions, but this subject is really important to me right now. So, my question is: should i friend request this guys to whom i have talked in real life a couple of time?
I know him from university, we're in the same year, we're in separate groups, and a group has aprox. 80 students, so we didn't "cross each other's path" until our teachers decided to randomly create groups of two students, and he and i got to work on the same thing. The project didn't take long, and after that, each of us went back to their business. But... a little after that, like a week, he texted me on my phone to ask something totally neutral, like how did the teachers appreciate my colleagues' work and other stuff like that. I replied, but didn't reciprocate the question, simply because it didn't cross my mind. :blushed: Oh, and while working on the project, he told me that i seem too formal, because of my use of language (could be...)
And a few weeks later, after i had an exam, he asked me about how difficult it was (he was going to have the same exam), how did i do etc. and wished me happy holidays, because it was the last exam. And silly me, i chose not to respond to the kind wishes, for fear of not seeming too available
.But i realized this boy is cute and i like him, and now i'm thinking of adding him on facebook.
I know it looks like i'm overthinking it, but i really don't know what to do, especially because the in last two relationships i was the one making the first move and being too available, and they didn't work out, so now my principle is "less is more". Until meeting him, i wasn't even seeking to be in a relationship. But on the other hand, if this was a chance of getting closer to him, should i do it? Should i add him on facebook, despite being impolite and not replying to his last message? :laughing: School is over now, so i can't meet him anymore...
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It's just facebook. I've added and been added by coworkers, classmates, people I've worked on projects with, friends of friends, etc. I just came back from some time off school and people I've never even met wanted to add me- I go to a small school so it's just another form of networking. I never get a request and think "oh my stars this person wants to date me!" If that's what you are afraid of. If you already have this guys number, I'm surprised you're not friends yet. Just add him!
@lightscent: So it's been a few months since you asked. Do you have an update?
... and yeah, you should have just added him. It's just a FB request, no harm done either way.
... and yeah, you should have just added him. It's just a FB request, no harm done either way.
oh, yes, thank you all for your advice aaand ...sorry for not replying sooner!:blushed:
Yes, I added him, we talked a little bit, but right now i can't tell if things are going anywhere... so, i'll wait a little more. He temporarily moved to another country where he'll be studying for a year; he intended to move before the two of us met. Things don't seem to take shape, so i don't have any expectations.
Yes, I added him, we talked a little bit, but right now i can't tell if things are going anywhere... so, i'll wait a little more. He temporarily moved to another country where he'll be studying for a year; he intended to move before the two of us met. Things don't seem to take shape, so i don't have any expectations.
Lol, as if things would ever work out between you two if you don't contact him. You have nothing to lose. Do it.
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At least you'll be more confident in a future similar situation.oh, yes, thank you all for your advice aaand ...sorry for not replying sooner!:blushed:
Yes, I added him, we talked a little bit, but right now i can't tell if things are going anywhere... so, i'll wait a little more. He temporarily moved to another country where he'll be studying for a year; he intended to move before the two of us met. Things don't seem to take shape, so i don't have any expectations.
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