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dating advice for a silly girl :)

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I feel a little weird talking about this, because i feel i'm a little too old (23) to be asking this kind of questions, but this subject is really important to me right now. So, my question is: should i friend request this guys to whom i have talked in real life a couple of time?

I know him from university, we're in the same year, we're in separate groups, and a group has aprox. 80 students, so we didn't "cross each other's path" until our teachers decided to randomly create groups of two students, and he and i got to work on the same thing. The project didn't take long, and after that, each of us went back to their business. But... a little after that, like a week, he texted me on my phone to ask something totally neutral, like how did the teachers appreciate my colleagues' work and other stuff like that. I replied, but didn't reciprocate the question, simply because it didn't cross my mind. :blushed: Oh, and while working on the project, he told me that i seem too formal, because of my use of language (could be...)

And a few weeks later, after i had an exam, he asked me about how difficult it was (he was going to have the same exam), how did i do etc. and wished me happy holidays, because it was the last exam. And silly me, i chose not to respond to the kind wishes, for fear of not seeming too available :rolleyes:.

But i realized this boy is cute and i like him, and now i'm thinking of adding him on facebook.

I know it looks like i'm overthinking it, but i really don't know what to do, especially because the in last two relationships i was the one making the first move and being too available, and they didn't work out, so now my principle is "less is more". Until meeting him, i wasn't even seeking to be in a relationship. But on the other hand, if this was a chance of getting closer to him, should i do it? Should i add him on facebook, despite being impolite and not replying to his last message? :laughing: School is over now, so i can't meet him anymore...
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Availability literally never has even a small amount of impact on if I like someone or not. If that impacts whether you like men, maybe you are projecting (and maybe you should think about why it impacts your desire for a man, the deeper reason).

I can't speak for all men, but it probably wasn't availability that impacting your past relationships. It's other things. Being desperate for attention is not the same as being too available, but it can lead to it.

Add him. Send him a message with it. End of story.
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