Just do it! He'll either except it or not, and you guys can still talk in person from time to time. This might be a good way of you guys staying in contact in the future. :'3
dating advice for a silly girl :)
Hello!
I feel a little weird talking about this, because i feel i'm a little too old (23) to be asking this kind of questions, but this subject is really important to me right now. So, my question is: should i friend request this guys to whom i have talked in real life a couple of time?
I know him from university, we're in the same year, we're in separate groups, and a group has aprox. 80 students, so we didn't "cross each other's path" until our teachers decided to randomly create groups of two students, and he and i got to work on the same thing. The project didn't take long, and after that, each of us went back to their business. But... a little after that, like a week, he texted me on my phone to ask something totally neutral, like how did the teachers appreciate my colleagues' work and other stuff like that. I replied, but didn't reciprocate the question, simply because it didn't cross my mind. :blushed: Oh, and while working on the project, he told me that i seem too formal, because of my use of language (could be...)
And a few weeks later, after i had an exam, he asked me about how difficult it was (he was going to have the same exam), how did i do etc. and wished me happy holidays, because it was the last exam. And silly me, i chose not to respond to the kind wishes, for fear of not seeming too available
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But i realized this boy is cute and i like him, and now i'm thinking of adding him on facebook.
I know it looks like i'm overthinking it, but i really don't know what to do, especially because the in last two relationships i was the one making the first move and being too available, and they didn't work out, so now my principle is "less is more". Until meeting him, i wasn't even seeking to be in a relationship. But on the other hand, if this was a chance of getting closer to him, should i do it? Should i add him on facebook, despite being impolite and not replying to his last message? :laughing: School is over now, so i can't meet him anymore...
I feel a little weird talking about this, because i feel i'm a little too old (23) to be asking this kind of questions, but this subject is really important to me right now. So, my question is: should i friend request this guys to whom i have talked in real life a couple of time?
I know him from university, we're in the same year, we're in separate groups, and a group has aprox. 80 students, so we didn't "cross each other's path" until our teachers decided to randomly create groups of two students, and he and i got to work on the same thing. The project didn't take long, and after that, each of us went back to their business. But... a little after that, like a week, he texted me on my phone to ask something totally neutral, like how did the teachers appreciate my colleagues' work and other stuff like that. I replied, but didn't reciprocate the question, simply because it didn't cross my mind. :blushed: Oh, and while working on the project, he told me that i seem too formal, because of my use of language (could be...)
And a few weeks later, after i had an exam, he asked me about how difficult it was (he was going to have the same exam), how did i do etc. and wished me happy holidays, because it was the last exam. And silly me, i chose not to respond to the kind wishes, for fear of not seeming too available
.But i realized this boy is cute and i like him, and now i'm thinking of adding him on facebook.
I know it looks like i'm overthinking it, but i really don't know what to do, especially because the in last two relationships i was the one making the first move and being too available, and they didn't work out, so now my principle is "less is more". Until meeting him, i wasn't even seeking to be in a relationship. But on the other hand, if this was a chance of getting closer to him, should i do it? Should i add him on facebook, despite being impolite and not replying to his last message? :laughing: School is over now, so i can't meet him anymore...
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x2 for just do it. Sometimes appearing too formal or not really responsive might make the other person feel awkward or that you might not like to talk to him, so it's good to take some initiative too. It's not like you are throwing yourself to him or anyone, just being friendly. And some people appreciate it.
Also, FB request is not a big deal, many people add people even if they barely kmow them. XD Or not know them at all! It's a very casual thing.
Sometimes appearing too formal or not really responsive might make the other person feel awkward or that you might not like to talk to him, so it's good to take some initiative too. It's not like you are throwing yourself to him or anyone, just being friendly. And some people appreciate it.Also, FB request is not a big deal, many people add people even if they barely kmow them. XD Or not know them at all! It's a very casual thing.
I'm just replying to the title for now and I'll reply more in depth after reading the posts, buuuuuut:
Don't use sex to get attention from guys. Definitely have and enjoy sex, but only because you genuinely want to.
EDIT:
Keep in mind that this image is true for a large portion of the population. And me a good portion of times:
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All jokes aside, the way I see it is if you want him then go friggin get him. You dont' want to wind up like this sad story:
Alright I couldn't find the story, but it was pretty sad. I'll just give it a quick summary:
So basically this guy had a childhood friend girl that he kept trying to wait for the perfect moment to ask out. Then they went to prom as friends and she kissed his cheek, but it was just as friends because she would never want him, right? So then college roles around and he still doesn't ask her out. Then she gets married to another guy and he desperately wants to stop the marriage and propose to her right on the spot. Then she has kids. Then when they're both 80 some years old she dies. He goes to the funeral and in her diary it talks about 'the one that got away'.
He was always there but he would never be interested in me. We went to prom and I kissed him on the cheek but it was just as friends, he would never love me. When I was walking down the aisle I wanted him to stop the marriage but he would never do that. I just wish he was interested in me like that.
He cries and the story ends.
....
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Now let that really sink in because people everyday live that.
Now really think about it, do YOU want to wind up like that?
If you want him, go get him, period.
Also the above advice before I read the actual post still applies.
Don't use sex to get attention from guys. Definitely have and enjoy sex, but only because you genuinely want to.
EDIT:
Keep in mind that this image is true for a large portion of the population. And me a good portion of times:
All jokes aside, the way I see it is if you want him then go friggin get him. You dont' want to wind up like this sad story:
Alright I couldn't find the story, but it was pretty sad. I'll just give it a quick summary:
So basically this guy had a childhood friend girl that he kept trying to wait for the perfect moment to ask out. Then they went to prom as friends and she kissed his cheek, but it was just as friends because she would never want him, right? So then college roles around and he still doesn't ask her out. Then she gets married to another guy and he desperately wants to stop the marriage and propose to her right on the spot. Then she has kids. Then when they're both 80 some years old she dies. He goes to the funeral and in her diary it talks about 'the one that got away'.
He was always there but he would never be interested in me. We went to prom and I kissed him on the cheek but it was just as friends, he would never love me. When I was walking down the aisle I wanted him to stop the marriage but he would never do that. I just wish he was interested in me like that.
He cries and the story ends.
....
.
.
Now let that really sink in because people everyday live that.
Now really think about it, do YOU want to wind up like that?
If you want him, go get him, period.
Also the above advice before I read the actual post still applies.
You're just adding him on fb as a friend - what's the harm in that and how does that correlates to making a move on somebody - plus you really like him remember?oh and about the text. - you're overreacting I barely ever reply to texts I'm quite sure he understands
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Du eet!!! NAU
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