I think out of all of the Deadliest Sins, my greatest challenge is Sloth
with it's parent, Pride
, as a close second.
More specifically, I think this can also apply to a fair few INFPs out there... of course, there are individual differences, but I'm interested in other people's opinions and solutions to this equation:
This, in short, is why I think Sloth is the deadliest sin (for INFPs):
Perfectionism + Idealism = Lack of Motivation = Sloth
This, in short, is why I think Pride is a deadly sin to us, but is a 'parent' of Sloth in this scenario so acts through another:
Perfectionism = Pride (In this problem)
More details about 'my' sloth experience (can ignore if you want):
Anybody else feel like they have loads of ideas that they'd like to bring to life in some shape or form (be it art, writing, real life scenarios), but something always stops you? It could be laziness or depression, but for me... it's bigger than those.
I feel so inspired, and yet when I come to do something I usually get let down and feel terribly drained and can feel just... bored. I often feel bored, and have no motivation to do anything. I feel like I've tried everything.
I think this is, personally, a perfectionism and idealism problem - I idealise something unrealistic... that I KNOW logically I can't do, and then try to produce it and inevitably get disappointed. And even when I can achieve the impossible, I feel 'me'h' about it and expect to do better. Does anybody else have this deadly mentality?
To me, this mentality is very easily prey to Sloth and I know other INFPs who suffer from this also.
For me, 'Sloth' usually comes up with these arguments:
[WARNING: Some of the following questions might MAKE you Slothful, so please don't read them if you're already feeling down/bad. This is just to give those who are confused some perspective of why Sloth springs to mind.]
- "You're wasting your time, you know it won't live up to your expectation regardless of how hard you try, so why put all that effort in?"
- "You look so drained... why not do something easier? Ohh, is Pride your next biggest Sin? Well, rumour has it I am produced from it."
- "Why try so hard when all you do is fail? You haven't gotten any better, have you? No, you haven't... so why try again?"
- "Aren't your friends saying you should 'try something else'? Well, why don't you give in? Regardless of how much you want the talent, you can't have it and never will do."
- "Nobody will appreciate your work, they'll pass it off as luck, or say it's 'fine'. So why spend hours on it with no actual gain and more pressure to produce work of the same quality? Nobody cares about what you do or how much effort you put in, so why should you?"
- "If you just sat here and did nothing, that might make you feel better than if you did something for nothing."
Anybody else agree or have a different opinion?
I'm just curious really as to what you
think in terms of solutions, advice and what your deadliest sin is and why.
Anybody have ways for INFPs to 'fight' Sloth?
(Effective answers to the questions I asked when impersonating Sloth might help!)
Any other solutions for fighting Sloth?
The ways I know of that might work for other INFPs (but not for me or my friends) are:
- Visit a doctor/psychologist/counselor to see if you're suffering from depression/anxiety. (Talking and/or pills did not work for my friends, and I was not diagnosed with anything).
- 'Force' yourself to do something. (Actually drains us more so to do this and makes us fed up.)
- Watch motivational videos on YouTube, such as this one: (Didn't work for me or my friends.)
- Changing 'primary' hobbies frequently to elongate the lifespan of the hobby (Me and my friends are 'frustrated' with all of our interests, we feel tired, unmotivated and drained... we tried 'forcing' ourselves to do primary hobbies, it didn't work out well at all.)
- Find a brand new hobby (I have run most hobbies dry, and the 'lifespan' of the hobby is decreasing due to being tired/more easily bored due to Sloth. My friends try to find hobbies, some do - some don't. It also isn't a feasible solution for something like jobs.)
- Toning down your perfectionism or idealisation (You can do that as an INFP? Wow. My friends and I struggle with this, so if anyone has done/has ideas on this one I'd be very interested in how to go about it.)
- Accepting yourself for who you are, and your abilities (Again, can you do this truly as an INFP? I always feel the need to prove myself, so do my friends.. which arguably makes me think Pride is a close second to our primary Deadliest Sin. Again, if anyone has done this please give us tips)
- Don't need to 'prove' anything to anyone, just be yourself. (This might just be down to my friends, but we rely a lot from other people's input into things like our art... and it matters what others think. Trying to impress people is what I like to do, but somehow can't. We also can't be 'ourselves' easily and are very hidden individuals)
- Don't 'expect' gratitude and praise/fair criticism from others, they're not your lap dogs. They don't owe you anything. (Well, this can be true for sure - but how exactly do you propose to not expect it? Why would you do things in the first place if they're not for someone else? To me this is where the idealism thing bites the hardest and I nor my friends know how to not do this, especially in fields like art.)
Thanks for reading anyone!
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