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I have ENTJ in my team on a project (my idea, my team, developed under my leadership). However it seems that whenever he gets the chance almost/totally neglectaes mentioning anyone associated with the project and takes credit for himself. I just found out about this from an interview. I feel pretty betrayed by this behaviour.

How would you respond in such situation? Have you encountered similar behaviour from ENTJ?
 

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I have ENTJ in my team on a project (my idea, my team, developed under my leadership). However it seems that whenever he gets the chance almost/totally neglectaes mentioning anyone associated with the project and takes credit for himself. I just found out about this from an interview. I feel pretty betrayed by this behaviour.

How would you respond in such situation? Have you encountered similar behaviour from ENTJ?
Oh yeah, all the time, every single ENTJ I've done anything with likes to hog the spotlight.

...just kidding. I don't think that sort of behaviour has much to do with typing, it seems to be more a symptom of having more ambition than integrity. Also I don't know any ENTJ.

How would I respond? I would assess how vital this person is to the venture.

Indispensable? Confront him politely to make him aware of his behaviour if he isn't already. First privately, then publicly if the behaviour still persists.
Dispensable? Take care of the ends he would leave loose and dispense away! The sooner the better.

Results would depend on whether your assessment of the situation is factual. If it is, your venture should thrive, if not, well... your fault for heeding advice from strangers on the internet.
 

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I wouldn't respond at all. What are you trying to accomplish? People like that think too highly of themself to ever reform so confronting him about it would be futile. Don't listen to the person who told you to kick him off the team, that's the worst advice I've ever heard lol.. If he wants to take all the credit then steadily pUT more and more responsibilities on him. That'll humble him real quick because he won't know how to handle it and he'll start asking for help.
 

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I agree with the :

"Indispensable? Confront him politely to make him aware of his behavior if he isn't already."

I'd add :
- Try to understand his real motivations and look at him as an human being with emotions. (Oooh, F side.) Make it full part of the discussion if needed.
- Make him understand that : He has to look at you as an human being with drives and emotions. (Oooh, F side.)
- This will also make clear that : if one of you snaps and make hurtful decisions, well... that's what humans do in order to not get hurt in return. "Sorry bout that."
- This should build a solid ground to have a real, constructive discussion. (Blend F & T discussions well.)
If neither of you take care of the feeling side in this topic, I can only predict bad consequences in the short and long term. It's not only a professional issue, it's a : relationship issue, emotional issue and an (ego-related) issue.
- On a more positive note, if the discussion goes well, you'll get a chance to be : super great friends/partners. I noticed that NT types felt closer when : working together, and fighting each other (in a mature way). ;)
 

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I have ENTJ in my team on a project (my idea, my team, developed under my leadership). However, it seems that whenever he gets the chance almost/totally neglected mentioning anyone associated with the project and takes credit for himself. I just found out about this from an interview. I feel pretty betrayed by this behaviour.

How would you respond in such situation? Have you encountered similar behaviour from ENTJ?
There is no point in having a dishonest person on your team.
 

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Personally, I would just ignore him if he's doing his part. He's irritating no doubt, I've worked with those kinds of people before, but in my expirence is that the managers know they're insufferable too. They should put him in sales imo. Those types of people seem to thrive in sales.

If he wants to take all the credit then steadily pUT more and more responsibilities on him. That'll humble him real quick because he won't know how to handle it and he'll start asking for help.
The problem with this is, no doubt, if it fails he will shift the blame onto the rest of the team. If he isn't capable of taking on the bulk of the project the project would potentially cumble or be completed past the deadline. If he is capable of handling the work load he will take all the credit, be insufferable about it, and worst of all- he will have earned the gloating. Liars are liars, and ambition > integrity people don't admit weakness to their superiors. It doesn't matter if he asks his peers for help, because he won't tell his superiors he needed help at all.
 

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I have ENTJ in my team on a project (my idea, my team, developed under my leadership). However it seems that whenever he gets the chance almost/totally neglectaes mentioning anyone associated with the project and takes credit for himself. I just found out about this from an interview. I feel pretty betrayed by this behaviour.

How would you respond in such situation? Have you encountered similar behaviour from ENTJ?
Sounds like shitty behavior regardless of type.
Your first course of action should probably be to take it up with the guy himself.

This is a pretty vague description, but if you do need to keep him around, there are a few things I'd consider:
Does it matter that he takes the credit? Is it keeping you from possible advancement, or can you just let it be?
Is he generally dishonest? Can you catch him in the act and call his character into question?
 
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If this was something just personal then I'd legit just never talk to him again. But since it's business I would imagine that you have to rule out emotions and objectively seek a solution. This would involve confronting the ENTJ about the issue, understanding why he's doing it, and coming to an agreement about how these situations should be handled in the future. If an agreement cannot be made or his behavior doesn't change, then it's really up to you what you should do next. Just remember to make sure your mind is clear and free of emotion before you make your choice. That's the best advice I can give.
 

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I don't really feel like thinking of any input except that I've never met an ENTJ like that. I don't think it's typical of their behavior. But I agree with the suggestions about how to confront him.
 
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I've encountered this in the workplace. The manager took credit for a procedural change for the better that I implemented against her will. (Leave me alone to work late nights unsupervised. Heh). I'd suggested it to her in the past and she had 27 reasons it wouldn't work. Two weeks of doing it my way on the sly and the owner took notice when he realized he was saving payroll money and experiencing reduced complaints. Long story short, she had a meltdown when the owner sided with me over her and made the change official and permanent.

But about one month later she got busy letting everyone, myself included, know how business savvy she was when she implemented this change. I couldn't believe it. The audacity! How did she think she could pull this deceit off? Turns out she was being 100% sincere. 100% ESFJ head case too, but I was unaware that psychological projection worked in reverse as well:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Absorption_(psychology)

Psychological absorption! Hey, that's what I was gonna call it if it hadn't already existed! If I hadn't been privy to her train wreck of a social life I might never have caught on. She wasn't a lying, manipulative snake of a human being after all; just sweet, caring and fucking insane in her own special way like 97% of them.
 

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That's very little information. Are you making others respect your leadership? You have to. Personally I would very strongly consider excluding anyone who was disrespectful like that. They don't get to steal my idea and run away with it, which might be what he's planning.
 

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Psychological absorption! Hey, that's what I was gonna call it if it hadn't already existed! If I hadn't been privy to her train wreck of a social life I might never have caught on. She wasn't a lying, manipulative snake of a human being after all; just sweet, caring and fucking insane in her own special way like 97% of them.
I really hate to rain on such a beneficent parade, but you may be too generous here. It says Absorption is correlated with the big 5 trait of Openness, https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Openness_to_experience and someone with 27 reasons "Why it won't work" ...ain't that

I think Absorption would be someone who talks to angels because "you can't prove they're not there and there's so much love in the world" and yet checked none of the other boxes for schizophrenia.

It's something, though. No doubt! But we'd really need more details on the carnage and economic impact of the train wreck to work it out.
 

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I really hate to rain on such a beneficent parade, but you may be too generous here. It says Absorption is correlated with the big 5 trait of Openness, https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Openness_to_experience and someone with 27 reasons "Why it won't work" ...ain't that

I think Absorption would be someone who talks to angels because "you can't prove they're not there and there's so much love in the world" and yet checked none of the other boxes for schizophrenia.

It's something, though. No doubt! But we'd really need more details on the carnage and economic impact of the train wreck to work it out.
I was going solely on the Latin:

Pro-ject...throw-forth

Ab-sorb...suck-from

Sounds like a complete polar opposite from an etymological standpoint to me. I don't care what professional consensus says, I'm sticking with my internal vocabulary. They can come up with another word for what they're describing. I'm ok with redefinition when it comes to communicating my ideas. If you can come up with a better word we can take it and run with it.

Here's another thing about these people: When you calmly and rationally explain how everything went down, they think you're insane. Classic projection. There's no righting the situation.

Wait, I take that back. There is a remedy but it doesn't involve bringing them back to reality. It involves stealing their girlfriend. Here's another thing I learned from the whole experience: There's no such thing as a 100% lesbian. They're like Vulcans, once every seven years...

That's what she gets for compelling me to seek out a sympathetic sounding board. Action/reaction...If I weren't so dark and dense I'd go so far as to say it was karmic.
 

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They can come up with another word for what they're describing. I'm ok with redefinition when it comes to communicating my ideas. If you can come up with a better word we can take it and run with it.

Here's another thing about these people: When you calmly and rationally explain how everything went down, they think you're insane. Classic projection. There's no righting the situation.

That's what she gets for compelling me to seek out a sympathetic sounding board. Action/reaction...If I weren't so dark and dense I'd go so far as to say it was karmic.
Hm. Maybe it's simpler than that. Maybe she was trying to gaslight you to her own advantage (hence the acting like you're the crazy one) and you're so immune to that tactic you're speaking Latin instead of considering that her psyching people out actually works for her sometimes (and may, in fact, be how she got ahead). It "works" in the short term, at least. In the end, her lesbian girlfriend will go get some revenge D. So good execution of natural consequences on your part, anyway.
 

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Hm. Maybe it's simpler than that. Maybe she was trying to gaslight you to her own advantage (hence the acting like you're the crazy one) and you're so immune to that tactic you're speaking Latin instead of considering that her psyching people out actually works for her sometimes (and may, in fact, be how she got ahead). It "works" in the short term, at least. In the end, her lesbian girlfriend will go get some revenge D. So good execution of natural consequences on your part, anyway.
No, no, no. If I had to hear, "Why do bad things happen to good people?" out her mouth one more time I would have slit my wrists. Without going into details, when I said train wreck I meant TRAIN WRECK. There you go again, not trusting my judgment, grumble, grumble...

Remember the lost luggage biz? Yeah, it's commission work. As a salaried 'manager' she worked twice as hard for half the money and that's just a tiny glimpse of the whole picture.
 

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@Eryngo

We had a price list. $1/mile rounded up to the next five. There was a big, wall-sized map of New England over the desk, one grid square was 15 miles.

So one day a delivery to some obscure village not on the list shows up. "Oh noes! What will we charge the airline? Dark, run it on MapQuest!" I found it on the wall map and told her $75. "No! Run it on MapQuest! Right now!" Huh. 73.8 miles. "How did you know that?" One square is 15 miles, it's five squares away...

"Yeah, but how do you know each square is the same size?" Childlike awe and wonder writ pure and large. This fun little anecdote and a thousand other things factor in. Believe me when I say she wasn't attempting to gaslight me, this was the first thing I thought too. The Truth of the matter occurred to me some time later after the aforementioned 'discussion' with her SO.
 
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