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Hi, it's me again asking for more advice on interaction ^^'
Basically, I've noticed I find it extremely difficult to deal calmly and logically with a person when they are 'narrow-minded' - as in, someone who will listen to other people's point of view during an argument/discussion, but not even consider they could be wrong. They will conclude their own opinion as the only right one, no matter how much information you give them on the subject matter, even if they don't know much about it in the first place.
Incidentally, these people I have in mind are all INTJs (I promise it's just these, my mother and a good friend of mine are both INTJ and we get along great).
Most of them seem like good people even though they can be offensive morons. I want to be able to interact with them more calmly and not take everything they say so personally (often enough I can do this on a day to day basis, but these specific people drive me up the wall). Can anyone offer a solution as to what I can do to make this possible? I dislike being so sensitive, mostly because it just makes it harder to interact with people and I feel hurt so easily by things that would be considered ridiculous by anyone else.
So I guess my real questions are
1. How can I react to and interact calmly with people who believe they are right all the time about everything?
2. How can I become less sensitive or at least better able to deal with unpleasant people?
3. How can I take things less personally?
Thanks a lot for reading and any feedback
Basically, I've noticed I find it extremely difficult to deal calmly and logically with a person when they are 'narrow-minded' - as in, someone who will listen to other people's point of view during an argument/discussion, but not even consider they could be wrong. They will conclude their own opinion as the only right one, no matter how much information you give them on the subject matter, even if they don't know much about it in the first place.
Incidentally, these people I have in mind are all INTJs (I promise it's just these, my mother and a good friend of mine are both INTJ and we get along great).
Most of them seem like good people even though they can be offensive morons. I want to be able to interact with them more calmly and not take everything they say so personally (often enough I can do this on a day to day basis, but these specific people drive me up the wall). Can anyone offer a solution as to what I can do to make this possible? I dislike being so sensitive, mostly because it just makes it harder to interact with people and I feel hurt so easily by things that would be considered ridiculous by anyone else.
So I guess my real questions are
1. How can I react to and interact calmly with people who believe they are right all the time about everything?
2. How can I become less sensitive or at least better able to deal with unpleasant people?
3. How can I take things less personally?
Thanks a lot for reading and any feedback