Dealing with or Preventing an Emotional Outburst

I have been there many times, and every time it happens I have tried to figure out how to make it stop. How to develop my Fe.

I really haven't found the answer to how to avoid it, maybe it can't be avoided, but you can work to minimize the damage.

First, try your best to not make it in public! When an outburst is about to happen try to go somewhere where you can be by yourself, and let it all out... but alone.

Otherwise the experience will turn into a regretful memory that will hunt you in the future (another great flaw of INTPs).

Second, realize that in that moment all of your great logical abilities don't work. Whatever idea that will come to your mind (confrontation, revenge, etc...) will be probably a mistake. Just stay put, don't do anything you will regret.

Third, the best way to deal with emotions is to get them all out, emotions are like energy, eventually they will run out. Go be by yourself and cry if you have to, swear, or whatever you feel like doing.

Shut down your logic, and feel the emotions, if you go thru the process of feeling, they will eventually run out...

Another way to let your emotions out is by talking or writing... go get a notepad, or a computer and write how you feel, don't analyze your emotions, discover them!

I talk with myself all the time, so in those moments I talk alone about what I am feeling. You can also talk to someone close to you that you trust, and know that cares.

But unless you really trust that person, don't open yourself to them to easily since they just probably don't care.

bottom line? emotional outburst are part of the life of an INTP and they will happen, all you can do is just let them happen, we may not be able to avoid them, but we can avoid the damage.

I find isolation is the best thing when I start to feel overwhelmed by my emotions and anxieties. In isolation (without the annoyance of other people) I can better rationalize things and diffuse the stress. It's only a temporary state of mind it will not last forever. Or if it's really severe I can just let the emotional time bomb explode in isolation without the fear of embarrassment or hurting someone. In the past 38 years I've only lost control of my temper a few times, witch my behavior scared even myself as well as those who witnessed it. Right now I really need to find an isolated place with a punching bag. Sorry to hear about your cat, the lose of a pet is devastating experience, and for myself requires several weeks/months of solitude and mourning. I guess writing things out really does help, I'm already feeling better about my own stressful day, which now seams petty and insignificant compared to the health of your cat.

I learned to deal with my emotions, but unfortunately, I'm not sure I can help anyone else do the same.
I went through so much crap that I had to learn to deal with my emotions. Essentially, I stopped running away from them. I stopped trying to rationalize and control them like I always had before.
At the same time, I stopped giving a shit about social conventions, meaning etiquette and respect went completely out the window. You can say I was maddened into misanthropy. (A bit of an exaggeration, but the best description I can find)

If I'm angry, you'll know it. I don't bottle it up, I tell the person pissing me off that they're pissing me off. Unless I can't, in which case I find someone I know closely to rant at. Occasionally, this means ranting at myself. I think if anyone saw this, they'd think I was crazy, having full blown arguments with nobody.
If I'm sad/depressed/lonely/etc, I revel in it. I let myself get all emo.

Find yourself some outlets, even if it means screaming at random people over xbox live or something.
Or better yet, get yourself an angry dome.


Also, laugh at yourself as well. It helps.