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Most of us are aware that because of our weak feeling function, we are prone to emotional outbursts. I've had a few pretty bad ones, and obviously, it sucks, especially because I don't know how to deal with them, as strong emotions aren't something I have much experience with. My cat has cancer and is going to be put to sleep this week. When I was 10 or 11, my cat was put to sleep and it caused me to lose control of my emotions. I become very attached to my pets. So I'm wondering how any of y'all deal with strong emotions, and whether you know of anything I can do to keep myself under control when it does hit me. Thanks.
 

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I would believe that INTP's have THEEE WORST tourettes out of all the other classes. We bottle up anger, resentment, and grudge in capsules. Once we unleash, there's no plugging the cork back in an overloaded PSI tank.

We'll run around screaming vulgarities that would even make Mother Earth herself blush.

If there is ever a measure, I believe we'll come around the top 5 where #1 is a Woman's Scorn.... and #3 would be like HULK SMASH!
 

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LOL @qingdom
You have no idea.
I'm usually a mild tempered kid, it's not hard to get me laughing at something.
But once something pisses me off? [email protected]#%!#$^$%&@%^%!#$%%@[email protected]^#^%&%^$%!#^#%&@^%&$#%!#$^!#^

That would be my bubble of dialogue in a comic.... for all the panels that would exist until I calmed down.
I lose it.
But if I can help it? I shut down completely and just stop talking for a while - anywhere ranging from 5 minutes to a few days. Depends on how pissed I get.

Any other strong emotion, I just keep it inside til I'm somewhere where I can be alone.
 

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I explode.. everywhere. This has only happened two or three times when I've been either really stressed or fighting with some member of my family. But when I feel one coming on, though, I usually just try to go somewhere by myself, crank up the music, and try to think about ANYTHING else until the feeling passes and I've calmed down enough to look objectively at my emotions and deal with them that way.
 

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I used to be married to an intp and I can definitely remember some of the emotional outburst. In our early part of marriage he would sometimes get physical but I think alot of that was just a 'young and dumb' thing. lol
 

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I remember having a couple of outbursts when I was young. I got incredibly angry about something and the feelings were so intense I didn't know what to do with myself, it was awful. Thankfully I haven't felt that way in many years. If I do feel strong emotions, I tend to damp them down until I'm alone somewhere where I can deal with them. That also helps me look at things more objectively.
 

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Oh I know this all well.... Usually I am able to get to the point of smothering most of my outbursts in a pillow or something but there is one time everything I been bottling up just came out in a Walmart (thankfully at 3 in the morning) and I feel sorry for the store clerk cause I CLEARED shelves. Though one time I am glad about how it just explodes out. There was one time this guy came up to me and grabbed me to do bad things and it just came out. I don't remember what happen cause its like I sit back as something else takes over. He was way bigger then me and I seemed to get him onto the ground rolling in pain and blood and he looked like an animal tore into him.
 

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Ti is like a dam controlling the flow of our Fe, the drawback of this is that once the pressure behind that dam become to great not even the floodgates can hold the stream of raw Fe seeking its way out.
 
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I have been there many times, and every time it happens I have tried to figure out how to make it stop. How to develop my Fe.

I really haven't found the answer to how to avoid it, maybe it can't be avoided, but you can work to minimize the damage.

First, try your best to not make it in public! When an outburst is about to happen try to go somewhere where you can be by yourself, and let it all out... but alone.

Otherwise the experience will turn into a regretful memory that will hunt you in the future (another great flaw of INTPs).

Second, realize that in that moment all of your great logical abilities don't work. Whatever idea that will come to your mind (confrontation, revenge, etc...) will be probably a mistake. Just stay put, don't do anything you will regret.

Third, the best way to deal with emotions is to get them all out, emotions are like energy, eventually they will run out. Go be by yourself and cry if you have to, swear, or whatever you feel like doing.

Shut down your logic, and feel the emotions, if you go thru the process of feeling, they will eventually run out...

Another way to let your emotions out is by talking or writing... go get a notepad, or a computer and write how you feel, don't analyze your emotions, discover them!

I talk with myself all the time, so in those moments I talk alone about what I am feeling. You can also talk to someone close to you that you trust, and know that cares.

But unless you really trust that person, don't open yourself to them to easily since they just probably don't care.

bottom line? emotional outburst are part of the life of an INTP and they will happen, all you can do is just let them happen, we may not be able to avoid them, but we can avoid the damage.
 

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I explode.. everywhere. This has only happened two or three times when I've been either really stressed or fighting with some member of my family. But when I feel one coming on, though, I usually just try to go somewhere by myself, crank up the music, and try to think about ANYTHING else until the feeling passes and I've calmed down enough to look objectively at my emotions and deal with them that way.
Uh oh, please, I beg of you to stop taking it out on the bunnies!
 

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I have been pissed at the world lately and I know it's because of a lot of stress in my life. That bottled up anger sounds familiar. I just get so mad at everyone for weird, small shit when I am stressed. As soon as my stress goes away, I can't even remember what i was so angry about most of the time.
 

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I find isolation is the best thing when I start to feel overwhelmed by my emotions and anxieties. In isolation (without the annoyance of other people) I can better rationalize things and diffuse the stress. It's only a temporary state of mind it will not last forever. Or if it's really severe I can just let the emotional time bomb explode in isolation without the fear of embarrassment or hurting someone. In the past 38 years I've only lost control of my temper a few times, witch my behavior scared even myself as well as those who witnessed it. Right now I really need to find an isolated place with a punching bag. Sorry to hear about your cat, the lose of a pet is devastating experience, and for myself requires several weeks/months of solitude and mourning. I guess writing things out really does help, I'm already feeling better about my own stressful day, which now seams petty and insignificant compared to the health of your cat.
 

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I learned to deal with my emotions, but unfortunately, I'm not sure I can help anyone else do the same.
I went through so much crap that I had to learn to deal with my emotions. Essentially, I stopped running away from them. I stopped trying to rationalize and control them like I always had before.
At the same time, I stopped giving a shit about social conventions, meaning etiquette and respect went completely out the window. You can say I was maddened into misanthropy. (A bit of an exaggeration, but the best description I can find)

If I'm angry, you'll know it. I don't bottle it up, I tell the person pissing me off that they're pissing me off. Unless I can't, in which case I find someone I know closely to rant at. Occasionally, this means ranting at myself. I think if anyone saw this, they'd think I was crazy, having full blown arguments with nobody.
If I'm sad/depressed/lonely/etc, I revel in it. I let myself get all emo.

Find yourself some outlets, even if it means screaming at random people over xbox live or something.
Or better yet, get yourself an angry dome.


Also, laugh at yourself as well. It helps.
 
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