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Do you have an absence/excess of them? When they are inappropriate, how do you cope with them? Do you think personality (negating the situation: obviously, acting on sexual impulse in public has its consequences) influences the way you perceive them? Oh, and let's not forget age. :crazy: Those crazy teenage hormones.

Speaking as a female INTP teenager, I can easily say I have a lack of sexual thoughts... they occur, but not in ways one would expect. They're not even directed towards the concrete, external world, nor are they a response to it. They only occur when I'm writing something that necessitates an understanding of sexual thoughts (i.e. thoughts going through a fictional character's mind). So they're not even mine. :mellow: If that's not creepy, I don't know what is.

Going further, when they do occur, I'm fascinated by them, but the last thing I want to do is act on them. Instead, I analyze them. I think of all of the processes (psychological and biological) that come into play, and how it ultimately boils down to a simple physical action. Thus satisfied, and almost amused by how such a simple concept has so much importance for most of the population, I direct my thoughts elsewhere.* If given the opportunity to act on them, I'd probably lose interest very quickly, regardless of my beliefs on intercourse/marriage (because even before I accepted them, which was not too long ago, the same attitude held true).

Whenever I try to explain this to people (especially my peers), they don't seem to understand. Granted, the majority of these peers have already lost their virginity, so that doesn't surprise me.

Hence, I'm interested to hear how different factors affect different people, and why. Discuss, get explicit, whatever.


* = Go ahead and laugh, all of you seasoned, dirty adults. P: I'm aware of different viewpoints on sex, and the meaning/pleasure it holds for people. Obviously, I'm not in a position to judge until I've had my own experience, but that's my present opinion on the matter.
 

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I work on a project to take my mind of it.
I have like a billion paper cranes.
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But I've learnt how to appreciate them as some sort of "mental art".
 

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Do you have an absence/excess of them? When they are inappropriate, how do you cope with them? Do you think personality (negating the situation: obviously, acting on sexual impulse in public has its consequences) influences the way you perceive them? Oh, and let's not forget age. :crazy: Those crazy teenage hormones.

Speaking as a female INTP teenager, I can easily say I have a lack of sexual thoughts... they occur, but not in ways one would expect. They're not even directed towards the concrete, external world, nor are they a response to it. They only occur when I'm writing something that necessitates an understanding of sexual thoughts (i.e. thoughts going through a fictional character's mind). So they're not even mine. :mellow: If that's not creepy, I don't know what is.

Going further, when they do occur, I'm fascinated by them, but the last thing I want to do is act on them. Instead, I analyze them. I think of all of the processes (psychological and biological) that come into play, and how it ultimately boils down to a simple physical action. Thus satisfied, and almost amused by how such a simple concept has so much importance for most of the population, I direct my thoughts elsewhere.* If given the opportunity to act on them, I'd probably lose interest very quickly, regardless of my beliefs on intercourse/marriage (because even before I accepted them, which was not too long ago, the same attitude held true).

Whenever I try to explain this to people (especially my peers), they don't seem to understand. Granted, the majority of these peers have already lost their virginity, so that doesn't surprise me.

Hence, I'm interested to hear how different factors affect different people, and why. Discuss, get explicit, whatever.


* = Go ahead and laugh, all of you seasoned, dirty adults. P: I'm aware of different viewpoints on sex, and the meaning/pleasure it holds for people. Obviously, I'm not in a position to judge until I've had my own experience, but that's my present opinion on the matter.
Sex is a necessary evil.

I want nothing to do with the object of my sexual desire after I've been properly satisfied. (This includes sexual partners. Thankfully, my current one is an INTJ, so we very rarely even want to touch each other after the deed has been done.)

Additionally, the stuff that turns me on the most while aroused is also the stuff that disgusts me the most when unaroused (ejaculating on the face, in the mouth, etc.), which makes things a little confusing. For example, after masturbating with the aid of online pornography, I usually watch the videos that got me off with fascination and a tinge of horror.

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Excess.

I think about sex way too much. I'm pretty sure the only reason I do though is because that rebellious side of me likes the idea of thinking about something that's suppose to be "taboo" because I think about other "taboo" things in excess as well. But I also think I think about sex a lot because I am not a physical person at all. I feel violated by the most simple of touches ( ex. someone putting their hand on my shoulder ). Now when I've found someone that I do allow to touch me and whatnot, it's like breaking the hoover damn... kind of. Not letting people touch me isn't something I have to practice, I feel disgusted, but when I'm with that person that I do allow on the level, it's like a huge relief has been lifted off of my shoulders and I kind of just let loose like I haven't had something to drink in years and I've been beyond parched.

To answer your second question, yes. I'm an xNTP, so thinking about the "taboo" is just as fun as non-conformity.
 

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I'm a very perverted person, so most of my thoughts have something to do with sex when I'm bored or not working on some sort of project.
 
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Sex is a necessary evil.

I want nothing to do with the object of my sexual desire after I've been properly satisfied. (This includes sexual partners. Thankfully, my current one is an INTJ, so we very rarely even want to touch each other after the deed has been done.)

Additionally, the stuff that turns me on the most while aroused is also the stuff that disgusts me the most when unaroused (ejaculating on the face, in the mouth, etc.), which makes things a little confusing. For example, after masturbating with the aid of online pornography, I usually watch the videos that got me off with fascination and a tinge of horror.

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^ This. Hahaha.
Good thing you've found someone who understands. That's what I look forward to least in a sexual relationship with someone: expressing love without confusing the hell out of my partner.
I'm so fickle when it comes to that. One moment, I absolutely cannot stand people touching me. The next, I may be more open about expressing my affection toward said person. Granted, I have to be very close to the aforementioned person for that to happen, which is a pain to accomplish in and of itself. I also find much more pleasure in thinking about affection than actually receiving it. I suppose that's an INxx thing.

Good thing we're practically asexual, eh?
 

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I always want to act out my fantasy, for better or for worst. Don't like keeping most my thoughts just that.
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Do you have an absence/excess of them? When they are inappropriate, how do you cope with them? Do you think personality (negating the situation: obviously, acting on sexual impulse in public has its consequences) influences the way you perceive them? Oh, and let's not forget age. :crazy: Those crazy teenage hormones.

Speaking as a female INTP teenager, I can easily say I have a lack of sexual thoughts... they occur, but not in ways one would expect. They're not even directed towards the concrete, external world, nor are they a response to it. They only occur when I'm writing something that necessitates an understanding of sexual thoughts (i.e. thoughts going through a fictional character's mind). So they're not even mine. :mellow: If that's not creepy, I don't know what is.

Going further, when they do occur, I'm fascinated by them, but the last thing I want to do is act on them. Instead, I analyze them. I think of all of the processes (psychological and biological) that come into play, and how it ultimately boils down to a simple physical action. Thus satisfied, and almost amused by how such a simple concept has so much importance for most of the population, I direct my thoughts elsewhere.* If given the opportunity to act on them, I'd probably lose interest very quickly, regardless of my beliefs on intercourse/marriage (because even before I accepted them, which was not too long ago, the same attitude held true).

Whenever I try to explain this to people (especially my peers), they don't seem to understand. Granted, the majority of these peers have already lost their virginity, so that doesn't surprise me.

Hence, I'm interested to hear how different factors affect different people, and why. Discuss, get explicit, whatever.


* = Go ahead and laugh, all of you seasoned, dirty adults. P: I'm aware of different viewpoints on sex, and the meaning/pleasure it holds for people. Obviously, I'm not in a position to judge until I've had my own experience, but that's my present opinion on the matter.

I have an access of them. When they are inappropriate.... I don't know if they are ever THAT inappropriate to the point where I just .... have to hump a fence. But when I get too horny I usually relieve myself. I do think personality has a good bit to do with it.... also your views on it. My infj friend has little to no sex drive.... you would think an F would.... I know another infj who has a HUGE sex drive.... I think it has to do with their views on it. My first infj friend has had bad experiences in bed ....so sex just reminds him of it.... so he blocks it out.... says it's nasty. I've had great sexual experiences .... and I think about it all the time.... I always have though.... so I don't know if I can attribute it all to experience at all.

Your case is interesting because my ex girlfriend was an intp. I don't....thiiiiink she was this way.... but it may have been that she was but never told me. What would you do in a relationship that involved pressure to be sexual? ( I know that's a kind of personal question and you don't have to answer )
 

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I think trying to ignore thoughts too much makes them even worse.

Personally, taking occasional time to fap (or in my case, slowly grind for an hour or two :crazy:) and not having any reservations about it tends to help me have these thoughts less...

Aaaand I have a pretty high libido but as long as I manage it, there's really no "dealing with thoughts" because even if I have thoughts at an in opportune time, I'm not pressured.... in most cases anyway. (there have been times where somebody intentionally tried to push me over the edge but that's another story...)
 

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What would you do in a relationship that involved pressure to be sexual? ( I know that's a kind of personal question and you don't have to answer )

It depends, really. If I'm comfortable with that person and the context is appropriate, I think I would be willing. But in another circumstance (i.e. he's just my boyfriend and he's pressuring me), I would have no tolerance for it. I know it sounds terrible, but it's really easy for me to disassociate from people if I feel it's for the best. I have no problem with being alone: my company is a privilege, not a given. If he can't respect my opinions and wishes, then I would have to ask myself if the relationship is worth pursuing. It's because sex, to me, represents ultimate vulnerability and intimacy--to have someone breach it and dump me the next day is a horrible fear of mine. I need some degree of stability and commitment to affirm that I won't be abused (i.e. marriage--obviously, divorce is an option, but it's not an easy decision).

In any case, I'm not a very affectionate person. :mellow: I've been dating my boyfriend for over a month (previous to that, we were friends for over a year) and I've only hugged him once... the rest of the time, he's been the one initiating it. To be honest, I can see myself going an entire lifetime without sex. It's not a priority at all.
 

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It depends, really. If I'm comfortable with that person and the context is appropriate, I think I would be willing. But in another circumstance (i.e. he's just my boyfriend and he's pressuring me), I would have no tolerance for it. I know it sounds terrible, but it's really easy for me to disassociate from people if I feel it's for the best. I have no problem with being alone: my company is a privilege, not a given. If he can't respect my opinions and wishes, then I would have to ask myself if the relationship is worth pursuing. It's because sex, to me, represents ultimate vulnerability and intimacy--to have someone breach it and dump me the next day is a horrible fear of mine. I need some degree of stability and commitment to affirm that I won't be abused (i.e. marriage--obviously, divorce is an option, but it's not an easy decision).

In any case, I'm not a very affectionate person. :mellow: I've been dating my boyfriend for over a month (previous to that, we were friends for over a year) and I've only hugged him once... the rest of the time, he's been the one initiating it. To be honest, I can see myself going an entire lifetime without sex. It's not a priority at all.
Cool... really.... it kind of makes me happy to know other people are not as sex hungry as I am as weird as it sounds. It kind of makes me sick to a certain extent. I want to love people with with purity and I feel as though the sexual drives tend to blur that line. Yea I wouldn't be down for the being pressured either. The stability thing is pretty darn understandable. I suppose I took for granted how much my ex intp trusted me :unsure::sad:
 

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I think trying to ignore thoughts too much makes them even worse.

Personally, taking occasional time to fap (or in my case, slowly grind for an hour or two :crazy:) and not having any reservations about it tends to help me have these thoughts less...

Aaaand I have a pretty high libido but as long as I manage it, there's really no "dealing with thoughts" because even if I have thoughts at an in opportune time, I'm not pressured.... in most cases anyway. (there have been times where somebody intentionally tried to push me over the edge but that's another story...)
:blushed:I wish I could help you with your libido problem :tongue:
 
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