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Learn to trust that things will work out how they'll work out. Sometimes, when you're up to your ankles in problems, it can be hard to remember that.

Don't get in your own way. If you have a plan, follow it; don't find reasons not to do something. It's better to follow a bad plan well then a good plan badly.
 

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Pick one thing and do it.

Drop all those things that "you might like to do."
Forget about impressing people, it's a waste of time.

Pick one thing. Make it you. Make it your personal brand. Make it your life. Let it be your source of enjoyment and income (even if that income is modest.) If you do what you enjoy, any quality of life will be acceptable.

Besides, the positive energy that is generated by doing what you enjoy may, in the end, lead you to a greater quality of life than you had ever imagined.
 

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- worry about liking yourself first. everyone else will get in line.

- start saving money. sure it's fun living in your car when you're 22, but it wont' sound good when you're 30

- don't drink and drive.
 

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Bank the good memories when they come. When you get the urge to put off an opportunity to enjoy yourself for tomorrow, remember that tomorrow doesn't come. It really doesn't.

Don't be afraid of failing even before trying because there's nothing that can be overcome. Really ... nothing.

Life is not supposed to be easy and struggle is very much a part of it. Don't woe the hard times as much and don't rely on the good times to last forever. Be expectant. Be flexible. Be accepting of your circumstances.

Seek help when you need it. Be independent when you can. Help others when you can and maybe they might do the same for you. Don't expect to rely on anyone but yourself ... but become the one others can rely on - so that you can continue to feel the joy of receiving. This creates a circle based on give and take.

And be happy but don't be afraid of sadness.
 

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No matter how bad it is, there is always a way out. You may not want to take it, but sometimes you have to.

You hold the key to your own prison, remember this. It will come in handy some day.

Always think you will be sucessful at something until you fail. You will have plenty of time to kick your own ass later over it.

Love truly and deeply. If it is misplaced it will hurt like hell, but when it is right, it is AMAZING!

Try to see the good in people, most people actually try to do the right thing. They may screw it up, but they do try. It is easy to become cynical. Don't.
 

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Bank the good memories when they come. When you get the urge to put off an opportunity to enjoy yourself for tomorrow, remember that tomorrow doesn't come. It really doesn't.

Don't be afraid of failing even before trying because there's nothing that can be overcome. Really ... nothing.

Life is not supposed to be easy and struggle is very much a part of it. Don't woe the hard times as much and don't rely on the good times to last forever. Be expectant. Be flexible. Be accepting of your circumstances.

Seek help when you need it. Be independent when you can. Help others when you can and maybe they might do the same for you. Don't expect to rely on anyone but yourself ... but become the one others can rely on - so that you can continue to feel the joy of receiving. This creates a circle based on give and take.

And be happy but don't be afraid of sadness.
If someone were to tell me this just two years ago, I believe I would be far better off financially than I am now.
 

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Try not to fall into the trap of typology stereotypes, doing research on your own and getting closer to the truth will serve you well.

Not everyone here will like or approve of your personal style, choice of behaviour. Forget about them and move forward, they won't be there in the bigger picture.

Learn to laugh at yourself and often. If you happen to stumble across a posting you left during your time here that makes you think " Ah, what was i thinking "...think of yourself as someone who has learned and grown from that experience. Laugh and let go.

Don't let anyone tell you its o.k to settle. It's also o.k to love yourself first, don't let anyone tell you its selfish. People can`t be expected to love people who can`t love themselves.
 

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I know I'm just 20 years old, but I've been in the real world for a couple years now, so I will give you some advice.

- Practice becoming as independant as possible, whether it be cooking your own meals or doing your own laundry. Routine becomes a habit but this is a good one to have. You can't have your parents make you meals and do your laundry forever.

- Making your own money because you can't rely on parents to keep giving you money forever

- Do what you think is right, even if your group of friends thinks otherwise. Don't be like me and have your friends negatively influence you, and regret it later on when it's too late.

- If you can't afford something, don't buy it!

- Make a monthly budget so you don't spend money recklessly

- The real world will hit you really hard at first because it's something new, but just roll with the punches and listen to the advice on here and you should be fine.

- Don't be afraid to ask for help sometimes. There's a time when you should do things by yourself, but the odd time you may slip up and have to ask your parents for help again.

- Don't drink too much. Alcohol is a HUGE waste of money and you have nothing to show for it the next morning except a hangover and an embarassing drunk story.

- Learn to forgive. People makes mistakes more than you would like to think. Just think of all of the times you have made a mistake in your life. We're all human.
 

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Stay focused, work hard and never give up. Relationships with others are very important, but one of the major lessons of adulthood is learning to rely on yourself.
 

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Be sad that you missed out living in the 80s. Oh yes, be very, very sad. You missed out on the best decade that anyone currently living has ever had the privilege to exist in.

That said, find comfort in knowing that no matter how rough life may get for you, since you missed out on the 80s, it's really only been going downhill for you the entire time anyway. ;o)

(This is all in jest, obviously. Mostly.)
 
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Don't ever take those closest to you for granted. They only have one life. Once they past away, they are gone forever. Cherish those who mean most to you. Be grateful that they are always there for you when you need them most.

LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST. Why spend your life worrying when you can enjoy it instead? You don't know what REALLY happens after death so treat it like you only have ONE LIFE. As long as you don't do anything that is obviously stupid, party on! HAVE FUN!
 

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-- Don't waste energy being angry or upset over small, silly things. Think to yourself: will this matter to me tomorrow? Next week? Next month? If the answer is no, let it go. It takes twice as many positive thoughts to make up for a negative one. Enjoy life in a positive, happy mindset as much as you possibly can.

-- Think about the future. Plan for the future. Save your money. Cook at home. Drive your car into the ground. Save up in little ways that add up to big differences. Make goals for yourself. How much money do you want to save a month? DO NOT use credit cards or take out loans unless you absolutely have to. Remember that savings will be used for very important things: down payment on a car, on a house, your wedding, your kids...

--Understand how short life is. Every morning you wake up is a complete and utter blessing. Do something special every single day. Don't wait for a horrible wakeup call that makes you wonder what the hell you've been doing with your life. Make your life count. Make something of yourself. Do the things you want to do-- as SOON as you can. Don't put it off. Be brave. Take risks (but don't put your life in danger). Try something new. Don't fall into a routine that makes you feel like a robot. Time slips by way too quickly that way.

--When you find "the one," cherish them. Don't take them for granted. Treat them with the utmost respect and show them that you love them every single day. Adulthood is stressful and it's easy to put your relationship on the back burner. Don't. Appreciate and enjoy being in love. Don't forget what that feeling is like. Relish in the feeling of knowing you now have a partner in crime--a partner in life. Do all that you can to preserve that bond.
 

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Don't get stuck in a rut. It's too easy to find a job, or a relationship, or a group of friends and then just stay there without thinking. Before you know it, it's 10 years later, you're in a job/relationship that doesn't make you happy and it seems too late or too difficult to make a change. Ask yourself frequently if you are still happy, if this is still the right place for you to be. Be honest and then be brave, because sometimes you will have to make a change.
 
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