well, apparently it's fun to play dressup. it wouldn't ever have crossed my own mind, but a friend of mine years ago who was/is far more girlie than me widened my mind a little. she just plain and simply likes getting dressed up. nothing to do with men at all. she likes makeup too, and wears lipstick even while she's arc-welding some chunk of sheet-iron or schlepping around the house in a ratty bathrobe. it's a misconception to think that xty percent of what women do is done with their focus on what men will think.If they are going out for enjoyment alone, why are they dressing more and more provocatively?
i don't have that particular idea of fun, but i do like live music. which i don't see nearly as much of as i would like because i don't want the aggravation of exactly that kind of 'well, why are you here if you didn't want me intruding on you' assumptions. and not even counting the music, every six months or so i want a beer. i could go buy a whole six pack from the local liquor store that won't sell singles to anybody . . . and bring it safely home, lock all my doors and drink it alone in my room. i guess; but piss on that; why should i, if the other 49% of the population or whatever it is have other options?
I still wonder, why the fuck was she dressed like that unless she was actually asking for it?
well, using your parallel, it's like a guy who has a lot of material goods. you don't see some guy in a designer suit pull up in a maserati outside a bar and ask yourself why the hell he's flaunting it if he's not hoping to get himself robbed, right? same thing. it's fun to feel rich. it's fun to feel pretty, or whatever other version of that turns your crank. it's even fun to 'share' whatever you're pleased about in yourself so that hopefully others will validate your own opinions of it by being impressed. none of any of that implies, or should imply, that you're tacitly saying it's okay for any of them to try and take it off you. or take more of it than you've decide all by yourself that you're willing to share.
only thing i'm going to say about that pretty questionable simile is to point out rape of a whore is still rape.You don't need to dress like a whore to play pool
And it sounds like a double standard for sure.
i guess i don't hang out with that kind of woman enough to have heard as much of it as you have - just like most normal guys don't hang out with the scumbags enough to hear about the kinds of attitudes we women often get exposed to in living colour. you mean women 'taking' men financially? outright theft while the guy's too fuddled to check his wallet, or just some form of implying there's a transaction understood to be under way, and then ditching out once he's 'delivered' his side, a la 1950s? i'm not sure what kind of thing you're referring to there. see, but i think any guy who woke up the next day and phoned the cops to report he brought this strange woman home last night and now his credit cards are missing . . . i don't think he would find himself getting blown off just because he'd been drunk at the time.