What are the positive traits, compliments and ideals that have being mistakenly attributed to you by others, that you know to be wrong.
"you can learn anything", I learn fast! but that doesn't mean I can learn everything or be good at everything. I've tried explaining but discovered many times people insist on pushing others to do what they don't want to do, and also the Peter Effect. I just can learn fast some things, some... well I just can't or I'm absolutely inefficient at it.What are the positive traits, compliments and ideals that have being mistakenly attributed to you by others, that you know to be wrong.
I've got the same most my life, had to become some sort of father figure at short age due to family circumstances, the results have been emergencies where people freak out and I must remain calm to figure out what to do but I feel exactly what you describe too. The problem is not just a pedestal, but when people want to take out your humanity out forching you to inhumane standards, like they can freak out and you must be calmn, they can act like drowning people and you must keep them afloat (when in fact hitting them in the face is the solution).^ Saaaame. "You're so happy, optimistic and carefree!" eeeer no, I'm actually really anxious, and I come from an abusive, turbulent home, so I have a lot of leftover trauma to deal with. I try really hard to work on it, but it comes out inevitably and I end up feeling like a terrible partner.
"You're so mature, you have it all figured out" - nope, I actually still have a LOT to figure out, I don't always know what I want or need, I have shit reactions, and more often than not, I don't express my overwhelming feelings very well.
I do not think specimen(s) "observations," and/or 'subjective/personal experiences,' whether positive (re: confident) or negative (re: insecure), they share when around myself, or have attributed to myself by being within my presence, are right nor wrong. They just are—&, I do not argue about nor against their POV, (&) certainly do not give it much thought besides a tad more support in which their (observations) thus, I know they have a somewhat (personally-critiqued by that humanoid) foundation with a base, & due to the circular self-insanities / psychological bias traps within myself—it seems a high-functioning effort(s) a time waste to determine which POV is "really right," or "really wrong," and making sure it is known with certainty/absolutism; something of this nature can never be "truly rightly/wrongly known with certitude"...What are the positive traits, compliments and ideals that have being mistakenly attributed to you by others, that you know to be wrong.
If you perceive cut-throat a positive trait AND you are actually a nice guy, then you don't want to be nice. Your chosen words show it very well So why do you want to convince the world that you're not a rapist?Cut-throat: What will it take to convince the world that I'm actually a nice guy? Sure I look like a rapist but goddammit. Just because I talk about spanking that girl in my class until she bleeds from her buttcheeks doesn't mean I have the heart to be unjust in pursuit of my goals.
Harnessing the image of the devil is the surest way to easily live like an angel. It keeps the other devils away from you, and you get to have the heaven all by yourself. Yes, that does imply that there was irony in my rhetorical question regarding convincing others. I don't want to convince others of how nice I am. It works to my advantage.If you perceive cut-throat a positive trait AND you are actually a nice guy, then you don't want to be nice. Your chosen words show it very well So why do you want to convince the world that you're not a rapist?
This thing gets to me the most. I put in the effort that anyone else can if they chose to and it just gets to me that I get praise for it.I can and do fail at these things all the time. Plus, anybody can do these things; I do not deserve the praise I receive for this.