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I got from a website a long time ago but I cannot remember the source - so sorry can't remember :p
Anyway according to MBTI we need to develop our strengths and not our weaknesses. So listing our strengths in order.

Dominant : Extraverted Sensing

A person using extraverted sensing has a well-developed "sense for objective facts." Life
becomes "an accumulation of actual experiences of concrete objects" (Jung, 1971, p. 363). The
individual interacts with the environment and uses the senses fully to perceive what is in the

If you choose to develop your extraverted sensing, your two goals are to become more in
tune with the concrete objects in your environment and to build your awareness and enjoyment of
experiences in the world. The suggestions given here have been generated with those goals in

Set aside a convenient, even if brief, portion of time each day to focus on the objects around
you. This may be done in any location: at home, at work, or in any favorite spot. Temporarily
suspend your judgments of what you see. Focus on the things around you. Observe their size,
shape, color, texture. Look for details that you never noticed before--the way a branch grows from
the tree, the different colors of the book covers on your shelf, the clothes worn by people in the
room. If possible, engage the help of a friend or family member and tell that person what you see in
as much detail as possible. Focus on your surroundings. You might think of yourself as a camera,
recording what is around you. Repeat this activity each day until you find yourself noticing objects
also at other times.

Select an especially vivid experience from your past, one in which you can remember and
see in your mind the people, the surroundings, perhaps even the weather or what you were wearing.
Put aside any feelings or other judgments about the experience. Describe it to a friend or family
member in as much detail as possible. Concentrate on what happened, how things looked, the
sequence of events, what you did or did not do. Try to relive the experience as you describe it. If
possible, repeat this exercise several times, even if you describe the experience to yourself rather
than to another person.

Choose an activity or situation that you particularly enjoy. This could be a gourmet meal, a
shopping expedition, going to a movie, working in the garden, going to a concert, or attending an
art show. It should be an activity that involves the senses in some way. Engage in this activity,
focusing on the details of it. Concentrate on the taste of the food, the colors in the painting, the feel
of the earth as you work with it, the sounds of the music. Do not judge the experience, but rather
try to live in it, just experience it. Consider yourself a sensual being and focus on the way your
body takes in taste, sound, smell, and touch. If you can, share the experience with another person
and compare your sensations without judging the quality in any way.

If you were to live life to the fullest, what would you do? How would you act? What
experiences would you have? Temporarily put aside duties, obligations, and responsibilities that
might prevent you from living life to the fullest. Out of the experiences that come to mind, select
one that is realistic (not, for example, traveling to Paris if your budget prohibits it!) but also one
that is something that you have always wanted to do. This could be playing hookey from work and
going to the movies, wallpapering your bedroom, soaking in a bubble bath for two hours while your
spouse puts the children to bed, spending a crazy weekend in a hotel room, taking full advantage of
the room service each day--whatever appeals to you and also engages your senses. Do it. Revel in
your enjoyment. Suspend your guilt.

The development of extraverted sensing involves evoking the senses, connecting with your
environment, and accumulating experiences. It means the enjoyment of using your senses. Put
your good-bad judgments on hold for a while and rejoice in your experiences.

Auxiliary: Introverted Thinking

A person using introverted thinking is "strongly influenced by ideas" but these ideas "have
their origin not in objective data but in subjective foundation" (Jung, 1971, p. 383). This individual
uses logical analysis, but does not draw upon information from the environment; rather, theories are
generated in his/her mind, independent of observations or data.

In developing introverted thinking, there are two goals: becoming oriented to inner thoughts,
ideas, and reflections; and analyzing or working with these thoughts to arrive at logical judgments
or decisions. The suggestions made here are designed to help you work toward these goals.
Start a journal. You may want to begin with a theme of interest to you, either professionally
or personally. Buy a special notebook for this, or set up a computer file. Set aside a regular portion
of time each day to keep your journal, a time when you will not be interrupted by other
commitments. Try not to record "what happened," but rather let your thoughts wander as you write.
How is your current situation related to your past? What are the connections between various
components? What patterns or trends do you see? Periodically review your journal writing and try
to write a meta-analysis (an overall integration) of your writing. Do not share your journal with
anyone else--save it as a place to be alone and to reflect.

Select a favorite place where you like to be by yourself. This could be a room in your
house, a park bench, or a walk through the woods. Go to this place as regularly as you can. Do not
take a book or any writing materials. Temporarily suspend your observations of things around you.
Think about the assumptions you make and have made in your life. For example, you might
assume that higher education is important, or that earning money is a life goal, or that a successful
person has a lot of material things, or that your family's needs take priority over your own. Reflect
on these assumptions. Question them. Why do you believe them? What are the consequences of
accepting them? Let your mind go back and forth over things, from past through present to future.
Focus on critically questioning your assumptions.

Choose an area of interest at work or at home, one where you know you need to do some
planning or organizing. This could be a report that you have to write, a garden plan to develop, a
retirement plan, or the upcoming summer holidays to organize. Set aside some quiet time, away
from distractions, to work on your plan. Systematically review the components required and make
a list of them. These could be topics to be included, phone calls to make, ideas to be considered.
Draw on your inner thoughts and ideas--do not run off to consult with others. Next, put these ideas
into a logical sequence: an outline, a drawing, or a model. Only when you are satisfied with this
product should you show it to someone else. Resist showing even parts of your work to someone,
until you are satisfied yourself.

Find a project, at work or at home, that you can work on independently from start to finish.
This should be a project that requires no teamwork, no consultation with others, and that is feasible
for you to complete within your time constraints, expertise, or budget. Perhaps you will write a
short story, learn how to use a new word processing program, organize all of those office files that
have been in disarray for ten years, or design a system by which you can remember family and
friends' birthdays and anniversaries. If the project requires anyone else's cooperation or permission,
choose something else. Plan your project carefully. What needs to be done? When will you do
each part of it? What will the end result be? Set aside the required time, then make every effort to
stay with your plan.

Developing introverted thinking requires working with your own thoughts and ideas, not
those from other sources. You are drawing on your inner self and then working logically with those
resources. Showing someone the final product can be fun, but the joy of introverted thinking is in
the process. Your reliance on the environment is suspended as you work with these developmental

Tertiary : Extraverted Feeling

A person using extraverted feeling is "oriented by objective data, the object being the
indispensable determinant of the quality of feeling. The extravert's feeling is always in harmony
with objective values" (Jung, 1971, p. 354). Decisions are made based on values and feelings from
the environment, in other words, socially accepted values and feelings. The person lives in harmony
with the world and the people in it, enjoying others' company, agreeing with others, and smoothing
out any conflicts that appear.

In developing extraverted feeling, your goals are to become more in tune with your
environment and to notice the values and feelings of others. An awareness of social norms and
conventions needs to be developed along with an interest in harmonizing with those conventions.
To work toward these goals, some of the following strategies may be useful.

Select a social group with which you are familiar, preferably one to which you belong. This
could be a tennis club, a church group, a social club at work, or any special interest group. If you
belong to no such groups, choose one where you know some of the members. What are the norms
of the group? What values do members share? What holds the group together? Without criticism or
judgment, identify as many of the values as you can. Talk about these values with group members;
identify with the values as much as possible, making every attempt to understand and feel in
harmony with those holding these values. If you have difficulties with some of the values, set them
aside and concentrate on those you can accept. Imagine or experience the soothing feeling of
acceptance by other human beings.

Recall one of the happiest times in your life, related to being loved and accepted in a small
group or by a friend. This could be a study group from when you were a student, your relationship
with your best friend in high school, the beginning of your first love affair, or an especially good
working relationship with a set of colleagues. The situation should be one that makes you feel good
just thinking about it now. Either visualize the situation, or recall the details of being in the
situation. How was it warm and accepting? What made you feel happy and loved? "Live in" that
situation in your mind. If possible, describe it to another person. Consider a situation in your
current life. How might you re-create some characteristics of your happiest time? Using small
segments of time, practice re-creating this feeling of warmth and acceptance in a present situation.

Choose a person whom you do not like (if you can only come up with one or two examples
from the distant past that still bother you, then you probably already have a well-developed feeling
function!). Visualize that person or recall the details of how that person looked, spoke, and
behaved. Describe that person to a friend, but do not say that you dislike the person. Contemplate
that person's good characteristics--those that would appeal to you if only they were in a different
person. This could be hair color, style of dress, or even the car he or she drives. Focus on those
characteristics. If possible, tell that person one small thing that you admire about him or her.
Remember that in the extraverted feeling function, people rarely dislike each other; try to immerse
yourself in that sensation or visualization.

Find a novel, a movie, a play, a painting, or a piece of music in which you feel extraverted
feeling is expressed. How do you see it? How does it make you feel? Can you bring yourself into
harmony with it? Describe it to another person, emphasizing the extraverted feeling aspects of the
work. If you can identify with the work, use it as an analogy or as a storyline for some situation in
your life. Let go of your logic and let yourself fall into the feeling of the music or the novel. See
yourself in it.

In summary, to develop extraverted feeling, you need to connect with the values and feelings
of others in the world around you. You might choose to do this through interacting with others or
by working with expressions of social norms, such as in the media or in culture. You need to let go
of logic and analysis, and let yourself become immersed in the warmth and acceptance of others.

Inferior : Introverted Intuition

When a person uses the introverted intuitive function, he or she "moves from image to
image, chasing every possibility" (Jung, 1971, p. 400). This individual perceives the possibilities,
the options, and the visions of the future, but because of the introverted attitude, the perceptions are
subjective and inner. The person has hunches and images that seem to come from nowhere, though
they can be triggered by an external stimulus.
In developing introverted intuition, you will have two goals: to become centered on your
inner self, and to open yourself to receiving perceptions from your unconscious self. If you tend to
be logical or to see things as they are in reality, this may be a difficult process for you. We suggest
some exercises that may be helpful.

Take a period of time each day where you will have no distractions, pressures, or
interruptions. First, clear your mind of any worries, concerns, or other thoughts. If music soothes
or clears your mind, you might have low-volume music in the background, but it should not distract
you. When your mind is free and clear and you feel completely relaxed, let your mind wander and
explore itself. Be physically still. You might want to see your mind as a series of rooms or caverns
or hallways. Try to walk through your mind and see what is there. See some doors as closed,
others as partially open by not fully opened for many years. Just perceive what is there, do not
initially try to open doors. Let any images come and go. Repeat this exercise daily. If the exercise
becomes comfortable and you wish to experiment with "opening doors," do so.

Start a dream journal. Many dreams are images from the unconscious. Keep a notebook
beside your bed. When you wake from a dream, in the night or in the morning, write it down in any
form you like. Do not try to analyze it right away or look for meaning, but rather just record each
dream as you remember it. You will probably find that as you record dreams, you will remember
more details, and remember more dreams. Keep writing them down. Periodically reread your
dreams and look for recurring images, patterns, themes, or repeated symbols. What do they mean to
you? Let your imagination go free when you read your dreams.

What most stimulates your imagination? This could be reading poetry, listening to music,
walking in the woods, or looking at paintings. Consider when it is that your mind is most likely to
wander off into unusual paths. Choose a time when you will not be interrupted then immerse
yourself in the stimuli that excite your imagination. Temporarily suspend judgment. Try to let go
of the concrete objects you are sensing. You may want to keep a notebook nearby to record images,
or you may just want to let them float into and out of your mind. Let yourself go into the music, the
poetry, the woods, the paintings. If you imagine elves in the woods or hear a summer evening in the
music, follow that image and let it be with you. Leave it when another image comes through your
mind. Float with your images, but do not act on them. Just let them be.

Select a situation in your professional or personal life that seems to be in a muddle. This
could be a committee or work group that is going around in circles, or a conflict in your family that
cannot be resolved. Find a quiet time where you will not be distracted or interrupted. Temporarily
suspend your judgments of the situation. Immerse yourself in the situation. Let your mind be free.
Let all aspects of the situation go into and out of your mind without judgment. Now let all possible
alternatives and possibilities come to you, no matter how bizarre or outrageous. Do not judge. You
will not share these images with anyone, so it does not matter if they would be unacceptable to
others--if they involve firing people or eliminating others from the situation in some way, let that
be. Let your mind go free.

Developing introverted intuition is a process of opening yourself up to hunches, images, and
messages from the unconscious. It means exploring your mind in ways that may seem unusual.
This can be a highly rewarding and creative experience, giving you a new way of seeing the world
around you.

What do you guys think ? Anything to add ? How do you improve upon these functions ?

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I think that makes sense, but it'd be hard to develop all at once!

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We have to develop them in that order as ESTPs. I guess the shadow functions are only best looked at as a further challenge, but I'd say the order should be Se-Ti-Fe-Ni-Ne-Fi-Te-Si. Doing it the wrong way I guess causes all the stress. Also, you can see from that order that it's hard to decide what an "ideal partner" is for anyone. The real "ideal" would probably be to move on to people with the next dominant function and have different long term relationships, then finally settling with an ISTJ. It's a pity that that is considered immoral. If only people were more free.

What sort of music brings out the functions? I'd say something like these - I've been careful to select ones that don't have a secondary shadow function (I think most songs are quite easy to categorise with 2 functions, including some with dominant-tertiary loops etc):

This seems to bring out Se if you listen to what sounds like at least 8 different instruments/vocals that are playing at the same time (especially apparent in the last section from about 2:20), you can use your hearing carefully to hear all the instruments together:-

This seems like a Ti based song (either Ti+Se or Ti+Ni, I'm unsure which):-

One based on Fe (seems just pure Fe with no obvious secondary):

And this one is what the OP's description of Ni reminded me of:-

Anyone else got more ideas or better examples?

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I like the Ni one, I might try that out. It's something I could really work on. The others are too easy, the Se one is boring/nothing new and the Ti exercise is something I do a lot already; well ok Fe exercise could be useful at times :)

Btw in that Fe exercise, I can't recall disliked people from the distant past... why should I dislike anyone from the distant past?? Who cares about the past that much and also why hate people? Now does this really mean well developed Fe? I wish... The Fe stuff is really weird in my life, sometimes I influence the group with lots of Fe and then sometimes I can't even start to get into belonging to whatever group I'm spending time with in a situation. (When I said "lots of Fe", of course it is more often just Se or Se-Fe, but at times it's actually Fe truly in the foreground)
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