I'm a female ENFP, mid thirties, went on date# 2 with a male INFP who I really like. We met online about a month ago. Arranging the first date was very slow going due to his schedule, but I also sensed kind of a cautiousness from him. We hit it off when we met in person for the first date, we seem to be very similar in temperament and interests (except I'm much more outgoing/forward), and he's much more reserved/quiet. At the end of the date I asked him if he'd like to go out again, to which he replied yes, but that he'd have to see when because his schedule was tight. We were finally able to arrange date 2, which was 2 weeks after the first date. In between dates we kept contact via email.
So, 2nd date was last night and we had a good time together. After dinner we took a walk by the water and were sitting on a park bench when I announced (in my kind of bold/forward ENFP way), that I wanted to kiss him. He looked a little startled, but said okay, and we kissed. It felt REALLY awkward though, and he stated after the kiss that he is usually VERY SLOW with dating stuff. He likened it to being plane on a runway waiting patiently for take-off and so he has time to prepare while waiting for the take-off. The fact that I threw out the first kiss was like a rocket taking off, lol! Okay, so then the rest of the evening feels really awkward, because of course I'm berating myself for ruining a potentially good start to something. He commented that he felt badly to have made me feel weird. We parted ways with a hug, but no mention of date 3. I didn't want to push it at all, and our other date was pretty open-ended. I texted him this morning to say I had a good time and enjoyed his company, but no response. I had never texted him before though, and he normally takes a day or two to respond to emails.
Have I completely scared the bejeezus out of this shy guy? Is a kiss on date 2 really that big of a deal, or is it just the implications of a potential relationship that scares the crap out of him? Can we recover from awkward first kiss, or has hope been lost? What do I do. Oh, and one last thing is that he said it was actually "quite endearing" that I was so open and direct with my feelings, and that he was aware that that statement might seem like BS to me after his reaction to the kiss. Help!