My assertive score has consistently been in the 90s with agreeableness in the 40-60% range.
-The only difference I've noticed between myself and two other INTJs that have taken that specific survey is that I have a big mouth/sharp tongue and when pushed to a limit, will more readily confront the 'offender' - especially if a soft-spoken person is being taken advantage of - than they would.
I can strongly relate to this. I feel it's almost a crime not to be true to yourself, otherwise later down the path, you might reflect on this, and think, you were either too timid, or I could have said that. Not being true to yourself leads down, in my experience, to regret, and regret leads me to a Ni-Fi loop.
In general
-Chill and confident that can turn into condescending and sometimes arrogant when I "know" I'm right.
Again, relatable.
-In social situations where friends fight or maybe an email or text is ignored, it's easier for me to think 'well, that's their problem' than to worry if I upset them.
Relatable.
-Very hard to understand nervous types that constantly think about what others think of them.
I disagree with this one on principle. If you are nervous, it encourages you to reconsider everything, and that can lead to self-growth. Fear can be a powerful motivator, if applied properly, and in small amounts.
-A 'get a grip and just do it' reaction to almost everything
Oh, lordy, how I can relate to this one. Usually if a person is an emotional trainwreck, I usually tell them to "build a bridge and get over it".
It took a lot of work to be more conscientious of others' feelings and motivations.
It is something I am working on.
I contributed most of this to upbringing. In my family, if you didn't stand up for yourself or make your voice heard, you'll get left behind. My dad asking 'why don't you speak up?' was a mantra in my head for years before I finally started doing it.
He sounds like a very wise man.
And I partially agree with 'less willing to improve oneself' mainly because I tend to take myself and others as they are. Sort of like an 'it is what it is' mentality when it comes to personality.
Not sure what to think of this one. I'll think on this further.