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Have you noticed that you have a very different way of learning and/or adjusting to a new environment (work, school,etc.) that other people and that others often do not understand what you need?


For example... I've noticed that a lot of times when learning a new job or being taught how to do a task I easily "zone out" but I'm still taking in the information even though I'm not fully "present". I also know about myself that initially I will have trouble being outgoing and developing workplace relationships, but I need to be in a people-oriented field in order to be happy, so I've noticed that it is not until I am forced into a "verbal" required role that I feel comfortable being more outgoing. I kind of have to "wean" myself to it, but most people don't see it that way. Instead they think quiet introvert = needs no people-oriented job and should be in an office analyzing data in private.

I've noticed that people always tell me that I need to ask more questions and make more comments, but the trouble is that a lot of times I already know what they are talking about (I understood it that easy and quickly) and I don't know what ask.

I do find it funny and interesting though how it often appears that when I'm in a people-oriented job that the customers and people I'm working for seem to "get" me and appreciate me more than my managers/supervisors.


Any other INFJs out there notice they have similar tendencies/experiences?
 
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Unless I am thoroughly interested in the subject, I wind up falling asleep (or portable gaming).

I tried downing three coffees to stay awake one day, and wound up falling asleep during a caffeine rush

Unfortunately, I have a slow learning process because of this (unless of course it interests me, then I'm energized by it and I can soak up all the information I want)
 

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It can take a while for me to learn something and usually when people try to teach me something specific, it usually has to sink into my head for a while and convert so that I do understand it.

Sometimes I need specific information to be organised and presented in a certain way for me to understand it better. For example, I have two friends who are into gaming. They teach me how to play Street Fighter, but seeing as they are twins, they pick up things quite easily.

By trying to teach me, they will randomly teach me 3 - 4 basic moves and then they will expect me to automatically know how to use them all after10 - 15 minutes and get into versing another, just like that!

However, this is not my learning style. I tell them that although this is their way of learning the game, I prefer to learn in a 'different' way. I tell them that I want to learn the moves by separating the moves. First learning the punch moves then the kick moves and so forth.

I want it to be organised so It can be processed into my head quicker and so I can learn how to attack with precision.

This usually puzzles one of my friends as he expects me to learn it with his learning style.
 

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Have you noticed that you have a very different way of learning and/or adjusting to a new environment (work, school,etc.) that other people and that others often do not understand what you need?


For example... I've noticed that a lot of times when learning a new job or being taught how to do a task I easily "zone out" but I'm still taking in the information even though I'm not fully "present". I also know about myself that initially I will have trouble being outgoing and developing workplace relationships, but I need to be in a people-oriented field in order to be happy, so I've noticed that it is not until I am forced into a "verbal" required role that I feel comfortable being more outgoing. I kind of have to "wean" myself to it, but most people don't see it that way. Instead they think quiet introvert = needs no people-oriented job and should be in an office analyzing data in private.

I've noticed that people always tell me that I need to ask more questions and make more comments, but the trouble is that a lot of times I already know what they are talking about (I understood it that easy and quickly) and I don't know what ask.

I do find it funny and interesting though how it often appears that when I'm in a people-oriented job that the customers and people I'm working for seem to "get" me and appreciate me more than my managers/supervisors.


Any other INFJs out there notice they have similar tendencies/experiences?
Yeah I can relate. I usually take a long time to warm up in an office environment and a lot of my peers and superiors have commented that I'm very quiet. Like you I don't really have any questions to ask since I understood what has been said and it is pointless to ask redundant questions.

I've worked in a people-oriented job and like you the customers feel I'm very patient and understanding. But I totally suck at working with my managers and colleagues. I suppose I'm just no good at small talk and office politics. The mundane stuff that people like to talk about just bores the crap out of me. I rather be listening to problems and seeing how I can help people ease their pain or talking about deeper stuff. Having said that I know I should work on my small talk. It's nice to know I'm not the only quiet one around though. :tongue:

As for learning stuff, I'm a hands on kind of person although I prefer to listen to how it is done first. This gives me a chance to slack before I have to get to work. But I suppose this applies to work I have little interest in. It's only when I attempt to do something myself that the experience really sinks in.
 
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I like work environments (whether people oriented or not) to be clear and organized (vagueness from people and chaotic places make me insane and I stop functioning well). I learn quickly what I need to do even though I may have to adjust to some things like dealing with too many people but I do it without anyone noticing.

I'm also been told I'm too quiet the other day by a fellow colleague so I replied I've been teaching and talking for 2 hours straight and now it is break time so I will have my break of not talking. :dry:

Also colleagues get the wrong idea about you because you are calm and quiet. They assume that means you are gullible and easily taken advantage of. *shakes head*
 
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