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Do other INFJs find it difficult to fall asleep next to other people?

I have noticed in relationships and when sharing a bed with anyone for that matter, I cannot fall asleep untill they do.

If it is a new romance I might even leave all the sudden in the middle of the night. I tell them good bye of course, but it is still really weird to them.
 

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Do other INFJs find it difficult to fall asleep next to other people?

I have noticed in relationships and when sharing a bed with anyone for that matter, I cannot fall asleep untill they do.

If it is a new romance I might even leave all the sudden in the middle of the night. I tell them good bye of course, but it is still really weird to them.
Eh... yeah. At first I'm always the one awake when they're passed out. I never go ahead and leave though. I just deal with it and over time I get used to it.
 
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In a relationship I don't mind at all sleeping next to her.

I use to never fall asleep with others around. I still remember the first time I did.
But after some time and the military this type of stuff doesn't bother me anymore.
 

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Whenever I pass the night at my friend's house, im the last one to fall asleep (and should I say how HORRIBLE this is??? you start hearing extremely weird noises when everyone else is down!!!) and also at my house.

but this is only for SLEEPING, taking a nap in front of others is extremely easy for me
 
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Whenever I pass the night at my friend's house, im the last one to fall asleep (and should I say how HORRIBLE this is??? you start hearing extremely weird noises when everyone else is down!!!) and also at my house.
LOL yes, this can be quite disturbing. :crazy:
but this is only for SLEEPING, taking a nap in front of others is extremely easy for me
Huh, interesting, I had not thought of it before but it is much easier for me to nap arround people.
 

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I have difficulties sleeping around others, even with my old gf when I was dating her lol. Not that I couldn't do it, but I had to sleep in a tiny-ass bed with her in college. When we would share a bigger bed, I had no problem with it. Oh, but I'm always the last to fall asleep

But yeah, I go to parties alot, but I often leave before everyone passes out just because I don't want be in a room sleeping with a bunch of people. I need my comfy bed :3
 

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I find it harder to nap than sleep around people. I still find it hard to sleep though, I am always the last one asleep(or close to it like everyone else is trying to fall asleep also)
 

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Yes and no. For me, it's all about emotional intimacy. Last fall when I moved in with two new housemates, I had trouble falling asleep if one of them was sitting in the living room, which was right outside my bedroom door. I could never sleep at slumber parties as a kid, and I've never fallen asleep in class.

However, there are a very few people (my sister, my best friend, etc.) that I'm extremely close to, and I've found that I actually sleep more soundly when I sleep close to them. But then for me, there's a direct correlation between emotional intimacy and my willingness/desire to touch or be touched by someone.
 

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In a relationship I don't mind at all sleeping next to her.

I use to never fall asleep with others around. I still remember the first time I did.
But after some time and the military this type of stuff doesn't bother me anymore.
Yeap I have no problem sleeping next to anyone. Having been in the army helps you to sleep anywhere, anytime haha!
 

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Yes and no. For me, it's all about emotional intimacy.
Come to think of it, the thing I miss most about my past long term relationships is sleeping next to them. It is somehow very special to me. I feel like they are there for me and I am free to feel as much care and love for them as I want when we are sleeping, falling asleep, waking up, and times in between. I have to let go of the majority of my anxieties in order to fall asleep and I feel like they help me. That means a lot to me.
 

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I've found a new cheap way to torture INFJ.

Make them sleep one close to another.

They will not sleep.:laughing:
 

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I've found a new cheap way to torture INFJ.

Make them sleep one close to another.

They will not sleep.:laughing:
Great...

But you have not been very good at it, putting beautiful relaxing trance on the affinity for techno page that helps us sleep.:cool:
 

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I've never really had a problem with that, but then I spent the first twelve years of my life sharing a bed with my older sister, So I got used to it. I can't stand being asleep while other people are awake and around though.
 

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I spend the night at friends houses but I never have problems sleeping around other people. I could sleep in the same room as strangers...

I would NEVER sleep in the same BED as a stranger though. talk about creepy....
 

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Come to think of it, the thing I miss most about my past long term relationships is sleeping next to them. It is somehow very special to me. I feel like they are there for me and I am free to feel as much care and love for them as I want when we are sleeping, falling asleep, waking up, and times in between. I have to let go of the majority of my anxieties in order to fall asleep and I feel like they help me. That means a lot to me.
That's interesting...that's the part I miss the most too. Waking up next to someone [special] is much more emotive to me (and painful to not have anymore) then actual sex. It's just so domestic and intimate and I feel really really safe and protected. Yeah, really special! I miss :-(

i do tend to fall asleep last and wake up first tho...
 
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