[Unicorntopia]

Do other INFJs find it difficult to fall asleep next to other people?

I have noticed in relationships and when sharing a bed with anyone for that matter, I cannot fall asleep untill they do.

If it is a new romance I might even leave all the sudden in the middle of the night. I tell them good bye of course, but it is still really weird to them.

 

[thegirlcandance]

Do other INFJs find it difficult to fall asleep next to other people?

I have noticed in relationships and when sharing a bed with anyone for that matter, I cannot fall asleep untill they do.

If it is a new romance I might even leave all the sudden in the middle of the night. I tell them good bye of course, but it is still really weird to them.

Eh... yeah. At first I'm always the one awake when they're passed out. I never go ahead and leave though. I just deal with it and over time I get used to it.

 

[myjazz]

In a relationship I don't mind at all sleeping next to her.

I use to never fall asleep with others around. I still remember the first time I did.
But after some time and the military this type of stuff doesn't bother me anymore.

 

[DasPhillipBrau]

Whenever I pass the night at my friend's house, im the last one to fall asleep (and should I say how HORRIBLE this is??? you start hearing extremely weird noises when everyone else is down!!!) and also at my house.

but this is only for SLEEPING, taking a nap in front of others is extremely easy for me

 

[Unicorntopia]

Whenever I pass the night at my friend's house, im the last one to fall asleep (and should I say how HORRIBLE this is??? you start hearing extremely weird noises when everyone else is down!!!) and also at my house.

LOL yes, this can be quite disturbing. :crazy:

but this is only for SLEEPING, taking a nap in front of others is extremely easy for me

Huh, interesting, I had not thought of it before but it is much easier for me to nap arround people.

 

[AllintheMind11]

I have difficulties sleeping around others, even with my old gf when I was dating her lol. Not that I couldn't do it, but I had to sleep in a tiny-ass bed with her in college. When we would share a bigger bed, I had no problem with it. Oh, but I'm always the last to fall asleep

But yeah, I go to parties alot, but I often leave before everyone passes out just because I don't want be in a room sleeping with a bunch of people. I need my comfy bed :3

 

[quigglehope13]

I find it harder to nap than sleep around people. I still find it hard to sleep though, I am always the last one asleep(or close to it like everyone else is trying to fall asleep also)

 

[yellowbritt]

Yes and no. For me, it's all about emotional intimacy. Last fall when I moved in with two new housemates, I had trouble falling asleep if one of them was sitting in the living room, which was right outside my bedroom door. I could never sleep at slumber parties as a kid, and I've never fallen asleep in class.

However, there are a very few people (my sister, my best friend, etc.) that I'm extremely close to, and I've found that I actually sleep more soundly when I sleep close to them. But then for me, there's a direct correlation between emotional intimacy and my willingness/desire to touch or be touched by someone.

 

[The Vizier]

In a relationship I don't mind at all sleeping next to her.

I use to never fall asleep with others around. I still remember the first time I did.
But after some time and the military this type of stuff doesn't bother me anymore.

Yeap I have no problem sleeping next to anyone. Having been in the army helps you to sleep anywhere, anytime haha!

 

[Unicorntopia]

Yes and no. For me, it's all about emotional intimacy.

Come to think of it, the thing I miss most about my past long term relationships is sleeping next to them. It is somehow very special to me. I feel like they are there for me and I am free to feel as much care and love for them as I want when we are sleeping, falling asleep, waking up, and times in between. I have to let go of the majority of my anxieties in order to fall asleep and I feel like they help me. That means a lot to me.

 

[Dawnchild]

I've found a new cheap way to torture INFJ.

Make them sleep one close to another.

They will not sleep.:laughing:

 

[Unicorntopia]

I've found a new cheap way to torture INFJ.

Make them sleep one close to another.

They will not sleep.:laughing:

Great...

But you have not been very good at it, putting beautiful relaxing trance on the affinity for techno page that helps us sleep.

 

[Ghostwriter]

I've never really had a problem with that, but then I spent the first twelve years of my life sharing a bed with my older sister, So I got used to it. I can't stand being asleep while other people are awake and around though.

 

[Decoy24601]

I spend the night at friends houses but I never have problems sleeping around other people. I could sleep in the same room as strangers...

I would NEVER sleep in the same BED as a stranger though. talk about creepy....

 

[ertertwert]

I cuddle with girlfriend until she falls asleep (which is only a matter of seconds) and then I roll over to the other side.

 

[angelictroublemaker]

Come to think of it, the thing I miss most about my past long term relationships is sleeping next to them. It is somehow very special to me. I feel like they are there for me and I am free to feel as much care and love for them as I want when we are sleeping, falling asleep, waking up, and times in between. I have to let go of the majority of my anxieties in order to fall asleep and I feel like they help me. That means a lot to me.

That's interesting...that's the part I miss the most too. Waking up next to someone [special] is much more emotive to me (and painful to not have anymore) then actual sex. It's just so domestic and intimate and I feel really really safe and protected. Yeah, really special! I miss :-(

i do tend to fall asleep last and wake up first tho...