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I visited some family out of town that i hadn't seen in a few years, and met my three year old relative (my cousins daughter) and fell in love with her; she was such a beautiful soul.
The trip was only for two days over the weekend, yet she really put an imprint in my life; I was really sad to leave yesterday and today as we left, I cried even more. Like I was sobbing; she was treated me with such love and respect, and she just connected with me in ways that I don't see with adults often at all. She was so authentic.
Anyways, I've been debating about taking a trip out in a maybe a month or two, to visit her and their parents (my cousins)... it would be so fun to spend time with this child, and I'm sure my cousins would enjoy having one less child to worry about for the day. Basically like free babysitting in their eyes, and I would love every second of it.
The only thing holding me back, is this child; if we grow close and she gets used to, and attached to me.. then when I leave after a few days and head back home, I feel that she will be sad and even heartbroken about me leaving.. and I don't want to cause her pain.
if me visiting and growing close to her will only inevitably end in causing her pain first and foremost, yet also me too.. then is this really worth it?
Unsure if I should build a relationship with my cousins and their child whom I admire deeply, when there's a chance that their child will be hurt ultimately by me visiting and then leaving only a few days, or one week at best.
I may visit five to 10 times per years at absolute best, and 10 is a big stretch..
Do children her age get heartbroken? Or are they pretty resilient and won't be hurt if they grow close to me, and I leave?
I know I would, but what do you think?
The trip was only for two days over the weekend, yet she really put an imprint in my life; I was really sad to leave yesterday and today as we left, I cried even more. Like I was sobbing; she was treated me with such love and respect, and she just connected with me in ways that I don't see with adults often at all. She was so authentic.
Anyways, I've been debating about taking a trip out in a maybe a month or two, to visit her and their parents (my cousins)... it would be so fun to spend time with this child, and I'm sure my cousins would enjoy having one less child to worry about for the day. Basically like free babysitting in their eyes, and I would love every second of it.
The only thing holding me back, is this child; if we grow close and she gets used to, and attached to me.. then when I leave after a few days and head back home, I feel that she will be sad and even heartbroken about me leaving.. and I don't want to cause her pain.
if me visiting and growing close to her will only inevitably end in causing her pain first and foremost, yet also me too.. then is this really worth it?
Unsure if I should build a relationship with my cousins and their child whom I admire deeply, when there's a chance that their child will be hurt ultimately by me visiting and then leaving only a few days, or one week at best.
I may visit five to 10 times per years at absolute best, and 10 is a big stretch..
Do children her age get heartbroken? Or are they pretty resilient and won't be hurt if they grow close to me, and I leave?
I know I would, but what do you think?