So I told my ESFJ roomie about her type a while back, and evidently it terrified her. She completely resents the thought that anyone could be like her or that she could be the slightest bit predictable (beyond all the things she defines for herself). I was wondering if this was a common ESFJ thing or just her? I have a theory that if she thinks everyone defines themselves and controls who they are, she doesn't feel as bad about being irritated at them for being entirely different from her. Thoughts?