Given that I've never experienced this sort of situation, regarding friendship I'll say that, if I'm angry with someone, when I can let myself laugh at their jokes, it means they're not in the hate hate loathe list any more (It's an exceedingly short one usually) probably that I'm willing to give them another chance. That said it can also mean I'm exhausted by acting in such a way, I can't emotionally continue acting in such a way and if I had more energy I probably would continue and a grudge and lack of trust is still there. But laughter is possibly the thing I hate the most to give to people I'm angry with. But relationships are a different ball game to general friendship.
That said I generally want to believe others are nice - I avoid the few exceptions to that rule, people who scare me. However certain actions can permanently alter my willingness to trust myself with that person.
If I've seen a person use underhand tactics, mind games, displaying open cruelty to the point of sadistic pleasure in making another feel weak and belittled I'm disinclined to trust them in the future.
Feeling like all cards are on the table; knowing where I am with a person is possibly the single most important thing for me. But that's realated to enneagramishness a fair chunk - (6w7).
That said, I don't think there's one person I fully trust. Not even myself to be frank. There are maybe two people I considere to be essentially good enough people to potentially trust, but at present it's gonna take a long time to be sure of anything.
Essentially trust is important, and hard and slow to gain.
That said I generally want to believe others are nice - I avoid the few exceptions to that rule, people who scare me. However certain actions can permanently alter my willingness to trust myself with that person.
If I've seen a person use underhand tactics, mind games, displaying open cruelty to the point of sadistic pleasure in making another feel weak and belittled I'm disinclined to trust them in the future.
Feeling like all cards are on the table; knowing where I am with a person is possibly the single most important thing for me. But that's realated to enneagramishness a fair chunk - (6w7).
That said, I don't think there's one person I fully trust. Not even myself to be frank. There are maybe two people I considere to be essentially good enough people to potentially trust, but at present it's gonna take a long time to be sure of anything.
Essentially trust is important, and hard and slow to gain.
