I can be wrong but if you are holding hands it means either that she has already been attracted to you before so, OR she simply sees you as a friend/buddy.I think it was the fact that you were holding her hand. I've never heard of manners attracting women.
I'm cold, calculating, and scientific about a lot of things, but I also have a strong artistic, romantic side which normally there isn't a reason to show to people. I think I'm actually more emotional and sensitive than most INTJ's. I fall in love easily. I am a fun seeker, in fact too much. I'm often looking for fun things to do and to buy. I like variety and new things. I seek out ethnic grocery stores so I can try new foods. Sometimes I buy a new gourmet treat on Amazon that I haven't tried before. I definitely don't feel awkward around ISFP's. It's like we're kindred spirits. I find some ISFP's to be amazingly charming.I know that no ISFP would waste time interacting with anyone they perceive as being cold. So I'm assuming you've been "fun" to be around. Like OptimistMind said, it has to do with who you are as an individual more than your type.
I can only speak for myself here, interactions with INTJs have been awkward. There was nothing we could really *talk* about so it mostly ended with polite goodbyes. Still, it would be fun to get to know INTJs better...in small amounts.
You guys may have a metal heart, but it still beats right? XD
I see myself as a heart of fire inside a warrior. The outside is cool but the inside is blazing.Haha, so thats what a heart of aluminium foil looks like.
Your inferior function has developed quite well (salute you).
Are you an enneagram type 9?
I can relate to this too, though I tend to need an enabler or catalyst to be able to let loose fully. So far, I haven't really found anyone like that, although my ISTP friend is one I tend to have most fun experiences with. I have read that there is a correlation between being musical/playing an instrument and sensitivity to emotions, might explain some of it for me.I'm cold, calculating, and scientific about a lot of things, but I also have a strong artistic, romantic side which normally there isn't a reason to show to people. I think I'm actually more emotional and sensitive than most INTJ's. I fall in love easily. I am a fun seeker, in fact too much.